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Topic: Who Here Has Been Raped?
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 23, 2012 12:00 PM
  
No, not cat called, not fondled. Raped. Anyone? Anyone like to share. I'll share mine. IP: Logged |
Voix_de_la_Mer
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posted August 23, 2012 12:34 PM
Are there really people out there to whom "cat-called" and "fondled" are synonymous with "rape"?? Jesus. World's in a worse state than I thought.Anyway - yes. Why? IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted August 23, 2012 04:54 PM
Being cat-called and fondled, though not as severe as rape, are still violations and are traumatizing. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 23, 2012 05:07 PM
No argument there. Not implying otherwise, notwithstanding the physical scars and bodily harm that rape carries.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 23, 2012 05:31 PM
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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
Anyway - yes. Why?
I'm terribly sorry. I'll explain and share in due course. Kindly be patient with me. Thank you. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted August 23, 2012 05:33 PM
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Hera
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posted August 23, 2012 05:37 PM
No, but I was in danger of being raped a few times. Last time was close. It is quite likely I was sexually abused as a baby, though not raped per se. I am really sorry this has happened to you YTA and Voix..  IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 23, 2012 09:08 PM
Let me put this in perspective. I was anally bludgeoned. I had a torn anal sphincter. I went home with blood dripping down the side of my legs, staining my white school shorts and white cotton socks and white canvas shoes. I was also punched in the teeth and thankfully I lost only milk teeth. But that is my point. I was 10 years old. Not to slam home my point too hard. How many of you women forcibly had sex by 10 years old such that blood dripping down your vaginas. None. I was raped in my anus. A knife blade was placed at my throat. The length of the knife was enough to penetrate my body, exit and penetrate another half of my body. I was choked with the other hand such that I was close to asphyxiation. I genuinely thought my life was going to end. I got home and my parents blamed me. Instead of sending me to a trauma hospital, I was sent to a mental institution for psychological evaluation. Horrors, for I have brought shame to the family. How would my father preserve his top notch reputation after his child.. Horrors... Was butt f-ked. Now. Do you now understand why it is so brutally offensive that many women in here think of me as a potential rapist just because I am a man? That I as a man cannot possibly understand a woman's point of view and share the fear of being raped? Albeit I'm now equipped to pretty much kick any predator's a$$ and rip his throat out. I no longer have any fear of dying. In my brain, I'm already dead. So, no disrespect intended. But the next female who spouts this crap that I am a potential predator will get a earful from me. The gloves will be off. And I shall show no mercy whatsoever.
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PixieJane
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posted August 23, 2012 09:19 PM
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 23, 2012 09:39 PM
Ami,Would much appreciate your highly valued input in my thread in Personal Readings on Chiron Opposite Pluto. The natal chart is there. The current transits are Pluto in Virgo, and therefore I have the exact transit as my natal. Much obliged as always and my immense respect and affection.  IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted August 23, 2012 09:48 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Do you now understand why it is so brutally offensive that many women in here think of me as a potential rapist just because I am a man? That I as a man cannot possibly understand a woman's point of view and share the fear of being raped? Albeit I'm now equipped to pretty much kick any predator's a$$ and rip his throat out. I no longer have any fear of dying. In my brain, I'm already dead. So, no disrespect intended. But the next female who spouts this crap that I am a potential predator will get a earful from me. The gloves will be off. And I shall show no mercy whatsoever.
If you were like most boys who had such a horrid experience then you'd understand. At least those I know who had experiences like yours (including one who was anally raped at 4 years old and had to be placed in what sounded like an insane asylum after) understand and sympathize with our fears. Even so, you don't have our experiences growing up (much of it subtle but constant), you didn't get our messages of what we're seen as. And if I don't know you then yes, you are a potential rapist. Knowing what it is that we risk when we trust the wrong man you should be able to appreciate that. Go ahead and take the gloves off. I'm feeling this strange desire to take mine off and tell you what I REALLY think about your post.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 23, 2012 10:00 PM
You go ahead if you so choose. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted August 23, 2012 10:02 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Ami,Would much appreciate your highly valued input in my thread in Personal Readings on Chiron Opposite Pluto. The natal chart is there. The current transits are Pluto in Virgo, and therefore I have the exact transit as my natal. Much obliged as always and my immense respect and affection.
Thank you so much for your kind words, Ian. I am so swamped with my website, right now, that I am not able to look, but when I get done with this current project, I will. If I don't, in a weeks time or so, message me on FB.
Love you, Ian and I value you a GREAT deal, too  ------------------
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charmainec
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posted August 24, 2012 02:43 AM
Feel free to share your experiences if you choose but there will be no "boxing" match tolerated here.
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charmainec
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posted August 24, 2012 03:43 AM
Rape, generally, is a sensitive topic.For me, personally, it takes much courage to speak of it publically because of the shame/guilt associated with it. It took me YEARS since that disgusting violation to speak about it with those closest to me. I will share my experience at a later stage (not in this forum). The trauma of it did make me more suspicious of men and their motives, a natural defence mechanism as it was a man who harmed me. So, yes, there are little red flags that may trigger one to be cautious if there is a type behavior which reminds of that experience. It does not mean that every man is a rapist. It just means we are more sensitive and aware of certain things which may take us back to that time. ------------------
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Randall
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posted August 24, 2012 05:38 PM
A lot of women take on the safety precautions that every man is a potential rapist. As a man, I don't take it personally, because it's not intended that way.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 25, 2012 12:27 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
A lot of women take on the safety precautions that every man is a potential rapist. As a man, I don't take it personally, because it's not intended that way.
I don't take it personally that women take precautions at all, what does bother me is how extremely paranoid some are (not all). I've had a few experiences where I was just simply walking down the sidewalk minding my own business and I observe a woman keep giving me dirty looks and speeding up, and I wouldn't have even spoken to her or nothing. I'll be honest all that fear and insecurity freaks me the f*ck out, its like one of these women could possibly shoot me because my simply walking down the street made me a threat. when I see these women I get as far away as I can. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 25, 2012 12:39 AM
I think women are wise to take precaution, but I still think it shouldn't be to such an extent that men feel unwelcome walking down the streets, believe it or not most of us don't wish to harm you, we are simply trying to live our lives and get to where we need to go. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 25, 2012 12:55 AM
here are 2 funny videos that show how overly fearful women might appear to men. but in the context of the video its about racism, about women being afraid of black men. but I still find them appropriate for this topic. it illustrates a man simply going about his normal life and a woman being freaked out by his presence, I think they are pretty funny.enjoy
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9ZUHCLtnYFQ
warning: these videos do have foul language, so if that offends you its prolly a bad idea to watch.IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted August 25, 2012 02:00 AM
i've never, ever assumed a man was a rapist and have never, ever been afraid of a man in that sense. even total strangers. i do, however, assume that most men are pedophiles in some way and i can't really explain why.anyway, i'm so sorry to hear about your experience..i can't even imagine what it is like to be raped or violated in such a way. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 25, 2012 02:09 AM
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Originally posted by frankie2912:
i've never, ever assumed a man was a rapist and have never, ever been afraid of a man in that sense. even total strangers. i do, however, assume that most men are pedophiles in some way and i can't really explain why.anyway, i'm so sorry to hear about your experience..i can't even imagine what it is like to be raped or violated in such a way.
what do you mean? is it because older men like younger women? lol
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sand
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posted August 25, 2012 02:23 AM
I think it is a natural instinct and it is a rational fear on their part. IP: Logged |
athenegoddess
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posted August 25, 2012 06:23 PM
In my opinion, We are never given experiences that we aren't strong enough to handle. Important thing is to remember nothing but love survies after death. Find comfort in this and give yourself a pat on the back for not giving up on your life and still walking with your head on straight. You are a winner and are victorious over all and anything unfair that was imposed upon you. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 25, 2012 07:40 PM
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Originally posted by frankie2912:
i've never, ever assumed a man was a rapist and have never, ever been afraid of a man in that sense. even total strangers. i do, however, assume that most men are pedophiles in some way and i can't really explain why.anyway, i'm so sorry to hear about your experience..i can't even imagine what it is like to be raped or violated in such a way.
Thank you very much.
I truly appreciate what you said. And my immense respect for you.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted August 25, 2012 07:46 PM
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Originally posted by athenegoddess:
In my opinion, We are never given experiences that we aren't strong enough to handle. Important thing is to remember nothing but love survies after death. Find comfort in this and give yourself a pat on the back for not giving up on your life and still walking with your head on straight. You are a winner and are victorious over all and anything unfair that was imposed upon you.
You are a champion and a goddess. Your very kind words are very inspirational and much appreciated. You have a fan in me. Thank you very much. IP: Logged |
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