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Topic: Venting Thread
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MillyX
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posted June 17, 2016 08:40 AM
  
Somedays I wish I could go back in time & press the redo button....There are certain things that I would do differentlyIP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted June 17, 2016 11:49 AM
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Originally posted by MillyX:
Somedays I wish I could go back in time & press the redo button....There are certain things that I would do differently
 Kinda old school, but, should do the trick  --  Seriously though, maybe think about it a little more. Everything you've done so far has brought you to where you need to be right now. Even the mistakes. Yeah, there are a lot of things that we wish we would have done differently. And if we had, who knows where we'd be right now? That's a bitter pill to swallow.. Regret can really eat you up on the inside. Dwell on things for a while if you must... But don't let it stop you from moving forward. Sometimes regret paralyses us into making even more mistakes by ignoring the present. Or by making us think that there's no chance for redemption in the future. But there is.. Whoever said opportunity doesn't knock twice is an idiot (no offense). It knocks time and again, we just have to open our senses to listen to it. All of it, our actions, our mistakes, other people's actions, their mistakes - it might seem like some tragic comedy of sorts. But, (warning, corny content up ahead: ) it's all part of a plan. There is a reason you took those actions, did things a certain way. Don't beat yourself up about it. It all serves a purpose, even though we may not see it at the moment. Sometimes things really do *only* make sense in retrospect. Hindsight is 20-20, right? You just have to find it in your heart to forgive yourself and trust that this road is taking you someplace good. Better than you could imagine.
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Elysia
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posted June 17, 2016 12:02 PM
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Originally posted by DopGang:
Edit....
Can't do it.
Ah well..
May the force be with you.  -----------------------------
>> Not being flippant! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted June 17, 2016 12:05 PM
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Originally posted by MillyX:
Somedays I wish I could go back in time & press the redo button....There are certain things that I would do differently
Like thousands of things for me  ------------------
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DopGang
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posted June 17, 2016 01:53 PM
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Originally posted by Elysia:
Ah well..
May the force be with you.
I didn't feel that I could quite express it without causing a bunch of fear. 
I'm a little better now, though not great. This mars transit or something really has me on edge. I felt SO much anger and rage earlier that I was almost in tears trying to contain it. I still do but not quite that bad. I'd have to go into detail just to describe that feeling. There's a physical energy, it's so powerful. Like an electricity waiting to strike. A burning, boiling of the blood. Tunnel vision.
Eventually, today, I found a way to get it out, somewhat, just enough at least, in a constructive way. It's not the greatest, but like a pinhole in the boiler, letting out a little steam to make it bearable enough to not do something or say something stupid that I'd regret.
It was communication, which will continue later and seems somewhat promising. It's enough for now. IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted June 17, 2016 03:55 PM
Yeah... I know what you mean. I had an out-of-control moment at work in the recent past. Didn't act on it, thankfully. Can't wait for Mars to go direct. Communication is a good start, and it's soothing for us Mercury types. 
(I'm counting myself loosely in the tribe  ). IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 18, 2016 10:48 AM
May the 4th be with you.  IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted June 19, 2016 10:09 AM
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...just some wordless venting. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted June 19, 2016 04:25 PM
Yep, yep.
That'll probably be me again tomorrow. IP: Logged |
MillyX
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posted June 20, 2016 11:47 AM
Came to the realization that I love drama, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. I hate being this way because rationally, this is not sane but I get an adrenaline rush....I love when there's action around me. When things are too stable, I become bored so easily. IP: Logged |
mirage29
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posted June 20, 2016 01:20 PM
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Originally posted by Elysia:
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I don't usually come to this forum, but I did today. Oh Elysia!!!! You're Funny, and, I can relate!!!  ... I like your thread, Teasel! ----
I might come here sometimes to add some of my shift too... so thanks in advance! *grin* ADD ... A Shift-Eating Grin??-->   LOL IP: Logged |
StubbornVirgo
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posted June 20, 2016 10:13 PM
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Originally posted by DopGang:
Edit....
Can't do it.
I tried, too. I got nothing. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted June 21, 2016 11:57 AM
Edit:
Trying to develop a response but as my feelings dwindle away then it's becoming more difficult.
(I move quickly, emotionally. Aka - I'm pretty much over it) IP: Logged |
venus2tinkerbell
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posted June 21, 2016 12:46 PM
I think a lot of men struggle with achieving the closeness many women want. I think this is especially the case in marriages, when after 4 years people are really ready to chill and be themselves. I'm saying this so you don't get it into your head that you might be special (grin).It's very difficult for certain kinds of women to handle. I know the type. I'm one of them. This is something I'm sure you know you can't fix. All you can do is be patient, decide if any kind of *shift* is required from you (though I think you said no), sincerely hope for the best (no need to be ready for the worst. Hope is heart-balm and takes care of everything). IP: Logged |
venus2tinkerbell
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posted June 21, 2016 12:53 PM
hi florence, don't know if you'll see this, but have Chiron/Moon. I don't know about Sedna. I'll have to checkIP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted June 21, 2016 01:32 PM
Wow, that must've been hard to hear, and stomach.. Nostalgia sometimes sugarcoats the past a little too much. I don't know if this holds true for everyone, but sometimes when things become 'memories', they soften and take on a special glow. Things may or may not have been so peachy in real life, when they were happening. But later, it all seems better than it was, somehow. What I'm trying to say is..maybe you don't need to be worried. Maybe it's just nostalgia that's making it seem more/better than it really was. That intuition confirmation thing - I can so relate to. There's stuff that we know, subconsciously - but don't trust ourselves enough to fully believe it. Until we finally are presented with the truth. It also applies to the 'good' that you know but think you don't.. Do you believe,in your heart, that you understand her more ? (You don't have to answer this, just throwing that out). Point being, even if you doubt yourself, one usually *knows*, at the back of one's mind - the person one is intimate with. Time changes things, changes perspectives. Hers could change too. IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted June 21, 2016 01:38 PM
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Originally posted by mirage29:
Oh Elysia!!!! You're Funny, and, I can relate!!! ...
Thank you, Mirage! Will wait to hear from you... IP: Logged |
mirage29
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posted June 21, 2016 01:57 PM
DG... that I will expect that a relationship will survive because it exists.
That if I don't feel that something is lacking, then it must not be lacking. That is, when the honeymoon phase passes. To my credit, I don't think anyone realizes the actual effort that takes place on my part. Perhaps we're all that way? Hope you don't mind me quoting only those lines. I can delete if you wish? I think this shows that you ARE a serious participant in your relationship. 4 years? Yes, that's a point where you're inside each other's head and not able to truly block out all your thoughts. You see into the Other. One of the milemarkers. Then 7 years too. They say you don't know if you're truly compatible until the 10th year. My opinion is that people don't value truly long term commitments as much anymore. There's a difference between a marriage-contract, and a marriage-covenant. Contracts come up for renewal or not. Covenant means nothing was reserved--- it's all-in, come hell or highwater. Saw an interview of an India person who did a movie about romantic love and the traditions of arranged marriages in his country and culture of origin. He said there are qualifying 'pillars' upon which you have better room for success in long-term commitments. He spoke about his parents, and their arranged-marriage--- they were put together by members of their community? These two fell completely in love with each other, and have been for the past 50 years now. (Isn't that Cool??) So... There's something to be said about the way India can matchmake and increase chances for Happiness between two individuals. And since we're dealing with nostalgia today?... I'll bring up the musical Fiddler on the Roof. Marry for Love? or choose the tradition of family-community matchmaking. (There's gotta be a Zen kind of solution there, somewhere??? .. Right, Elysia??? ..) (music) Matchmaker (from Fiddler on The Roof, clip, song, w lyrics) [3:47] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=59Hj7bp38f8 IP: Logged |
mirage29
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posted June 21, 2016 02:08 PM
I remember where I heard that interview... It was on Bill Maher's show last Friday. Marriages and relationships are shifting sooo dramatically, now that Women's Prosperity is valued. When Women feel powerful, and independent, they don't need to attach themselves to a man anymore for her future 'security' reasons. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted June 22, 2016 07:34 AM
I've been struggling for a response as the feeling passes. Edit:
Okie dokie.
Time to completely let go and move on. IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted June 22, 2016 07:46 AM
^ Yeah, that's kinda what I meant.. it may not be as bad as it seems at face value.. Good to know the feeling's passing..! IP: Logged |
florence
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posted June 22, 2016 08:59 AM
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Originally posted by venus2tinkerbell:
hi florence, don't know if you'll see this, but have Chiron/Moon. I don't know about Sedna. I'll have to check
It felt very Chiron, the painting. I've sun conjunct Chiron (but also Sedna so I'm not always sure which is which). Moon conjunct must be even more strongly felt, I'd imagine. IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted June 22, 2016 10:44 AM
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Originally posted by mirage29:
I think this shows that you ARE a serious participant in your relationship. 4 years? Yes, that's a point where you're inside each other's head and not able to truly block out all your thoughts. ---- (There's gotta be a Zen kind of solution there, somewhere??? .. Right, Elysia??? ..)
Absolutely, Mirage...  This is so well-put - "a point where you're inside each other's head and not able to truly block out all your thoughts". IP: Logged |
Elysia
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posted June 22, 2016 01:26 PM
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venus2tinkerbell
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posted June 22, 2016 01:39 PM
It sounds like you're letting yourself feel that feeling of loss, but also accepting..by saying simplyI miss him I admire that every time I see it
I don't always do it IP: Logged |
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