posted December 02, 2013 12:36 PM            

After awhile - STOP texting and START calling. Text is not as intimate or telling as hearing the voice.

Going on a date with someone after (1) week is just fine. That is NOT an issue. Comfort level varies from person to person, though.

What is an issue here is TONE. We should all try our best not to sound too pushy or forceful, especially early on. AG there's nothing wrong about you seeking answers - nothing at all. But please, don't go into a speech about how "girls always do me wrong" when getting to know someone. That will scare women away FAST!! You don't want to come across as whiny...you want to come across as confident & content NO MATTER WHAT.

With that said, this girl should have said it like she meant it. She probably was just seeking attention, which is pathetic.

Dating can be fun. Other times, it's a pain in the butt - for everyone. Just chillax for now & smell my perfume.

posted December 02, 2013 12:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
It cracks me up how harsh you people can get. She said "idk"

So crucify her.

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What a royal waste of time. "Yes" means "Yes," and the rest means "No." It's very simple.

This is gender neutral. I neither have the time nor the inclination to deal with people who are indecisive and equivocating.

This definitely applies to men, and especially men. I have zero patience for indecisive and unfocused men.

posted December 02, 2013 12:59 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:

The difference here is that I would have gone completely silent after "IDK" a f would have gone on my merry way. Subsequent communication would have been politely terminated with "I don't think it's in our mutual interest...." I don't see why you wanted to give a lecture. She doesn't care for you. Why would she be interested in your lecture?

Time to move on.

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I cannot believe how often I agree with you dude. It's completely absurd.

I would have ignored him from that point forward.

And he would have began texting/calling me like a psycho, confused as to why I now find him sooo irrelevant.

posted December 02, 2013 01:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
It cracks me up how harsh you people can get. She said "idk"

So crucify her.

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posted December 02, 2013 01:29 PM            

Thinking about that for an hour?

posted December 02, 2013 01:46 PM            

I personally wouldn't have gone texting all week. By the second day, I would have already established intent and objective. hahaha

posted December 02, 2013 01:54 PM            

I received a lot of criticism when I first declared my interest with the Sag. I was told that being completely direct about what I wanted was the anti-thesis of woman and with my behavior, they'd be surprised if anyone would want to date me because I'm too aggressive.

There is no problem with the time range of texting a lot then asking to go out somewhere. It's not like there was an engagement ring or contract involved. It does involve having courage to put yourself out there. I try to make sure the transition from online to real life is as smooth as possible(I've met online friends in person). That involves only saying the things I would back up and not cringe over, not taking pictures that show me in an unrealistic way, and calling or camming as much as possible with the other party. Things like that build trust with a person, especially if they are shy in person.

posted December 02, 2013 02:03 PM            

Now?

Answer immediately, if not sooner.

Oh, and by the way, I know you are partial to White Chocolate Mocha.

posted December 02, 2013 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:

It is all a very simple binary decision. Not responding expediently denotes one of the following: (1) indecision, (2) an intent to obfucate, or (3) just a lack of integrity.

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It can also mean 4) the person doesn't have enough information yet, to make a decision.

Which, in AG's situation, sounds like it was most likely the case. They had just "met," after all.

You say that you would have just dropped her like a hot potato or whatever, but that assumes you would have played your cards exactly the way AG does.

Also, as I've said before, AG is physically huge which can work against him, if he's putting his vital stats online for all to see.

You people fail to account for the fact that size alone can be intimidating. Maybe because you are seldom in a situation where you are physically dominated? Like how often is AG around a guy who's a foot taller than him and a hundred pounds heavier? How does he know how that feels?

posted December 02, 2013 04:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
You say that you would have just dropped her like a hot potato or whatever, but that assumes you would have played your cards exactly the way AG does.

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That is exactly correct. I wouldn't give her the time of the day even if she called me the next day to say "Yes." There's always the opportunity to say "No." She has taken that opportunity having said "IDK."

In case you wonder how I managed to have relationships, all the women I have been with are exactly like me. My wife has an even shorter fuse.

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Originally posted by Faith:
It can also mean 4) the person doesn't have enough information yet, to make a decision.

Which, in AG's situation, sounds like it was most likely the case. They had just "met," after all.

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I'm not here to cross swords or offend you, but I find that to be nonsense. You can make an informed decision after four days of communication, or you can express that "I don't have enough information at this time to make an informed decision." The expression "IDK" is a sign of a lack of maturity and is a juvenile expression.

If the sentiment is "Not Comfortable," then the answer should have been "No." Even "GO TO HELL" is acceptable relative to "IDK."

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Originally posted by Faith:
Also, as I've said before, AG is physically huge which can work against him, if he's putting his vital stats online for all to see.

You people fail to account for the fact that size alone can be intimidating. Maybe because you are seldom in a situation where you are physically dominated? Like how often is AG around a guy who's a foot taller than him and a hundred pounds heavier? How does he know how that feels?

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And I am an ex-soldier with two black belts who can rip a person's head completely off from a person's body. What is your point?

Physical size isn't the end all and be all of intimidation. Pen is mightier than a sword, and I have seen 5'0" 98 lbs women bring a 6'3" 240 lbs man to his knees without firearms, begging for mercy. I'm no expert at Kung Fu, but I know of women who have used the "death touch." Five steps and the man collapses totally unconscious on the verge of death.

If a woman is uncomfortable with a man's physique, whether he is 6'6" or 325 lbs., then the woman would best steer clear. Let alone mess around with text messages.

posted December 02, 2013 04:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
YTA, you are too much.
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posted December 02, 2013 04:29 PM            

Who says they're not pretty?

posted December 02, 2013 06:17 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Physical size isn't the end all and be all of intimidation.

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Random quote from the internet, you can search and find more....

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I looked at your profile and saw that you are 6'6", is that what you are refering too? I love tall guys dated someone 6'8" for awhile. But I don't really care how tall someone is to be truthful, just what the person is like.

I think that some people are intimidated by physical size if meeting them out of the blue. I got to know the guy I dated from a group of friends I was hanging out with. We did lots of things as a large group and got to know him from that. So pretty quickly his stature didn't matter (even though he was 6" taller than the other tallest guy) he was just one of the gang.

So maybe if you join a co-ed bowling league or go to friend's get togethers women will have a chance to meet you and find out what kind of guy you are and not feel overwhelmed.

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