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Topic: My mother is a homophobe
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PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 4243
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 08, 2014 09:21 PM
  
As luck would have it this was recently published in the Washington Post by a former Marine Corps sergeant who found out that a lifelong best friend and someone he served with were engaged to get married to another man:
http://www.washingt onpost.com/opinions/a-marine-silent-no-longer-in-his-support-for-gay-marriage/2014/04/03/48f3caec-b9ea-11e3-9a05-c739f29ccb08_story.html quote:
No, I never gay-bashed. I didn’t bully, I didn’t hate, I didn’t torment.But I did say “fag” to a fellow Marine in front of Sgt. Santiago. I did stay seated in the pew when my minister challenged, “Don’t let anyone tell you that this church is soft on homosexuality.” Silence is a most powerful consent. I would think: Civil unions, what’s wrong with that? I considered myself “accepting” and “tolerant,” excusing the soft discrimination that’s easy to shrug off, the implicit inequality of separate but equal. The irony was that I had always imagined that if I’d lived in the time of segregation and the civil rights movement, I would be the white Southerner who was proud to march with the NAACP — that I would tear down bigoted beliefs and demand equality for all, even putting myself at risk if need be. But I didn’t do those things. I watched the fight right in front of me without question, inactive and accepting — just like the generations before me. Well, no longer.
That's not unique, I've known others who did that, including one who shocked me by her change of heart and apologies for what she'd said to several lesbians years earlier (when I'd forgotten her). IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
Knowflake Posts: 6931
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted April 08, 2014 10:13 PM
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Originally posted by Sibyl:
Wow, YTA!I may be wrong, but I think you have two boys? Damn, you should have had girls haha! You would have been a great dad to them.  Then again it sounds like you are instilling your boys with good values, and the world really needs that. 
I do have two girls, except they've crossed over to the other side and I miss them. I always wanted to have daughters but it's a pity that I can't dress one up for prom or walk down the wedding aisle. I would love to, and my wife and I have been considering adopting two girls, with one being a teen. Yes, I have two boys. I'm not the easiest father for boys because I have harsh discipline standards and demand high standards of conduct and hygiene. I must say that my eldest is outstanding in his conduct and respect for others, older and younger. I will not tolerate insolent behavior from my sons towards girls, and perhaps that's why my elder son is socially popular with girls. My mother was a great teacher. I must profess that I have a somewhat harsh personality, but my ex-military and martial arts background contributes to that level of discipline.
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Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 485
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 09, 2014 12:28 AM
I think I've looked at the title of this thread too long. Now I keep thinking it's saying "my mother is a hermaphrodite".To bed methinks. IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 3206
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 09, 2014 12:30 AM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
I think I've looked at the title of this thread too long. Now I keep thinking it's saying "my mother is a hermaphrodite".To bed methinks.
That literally made me laugh out loud, thank you.
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Sibyl
Knowflake Posts: 522
From: Uranus
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted April 09, 2014 04:48 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I do have two girls, except they've crossed over to the other side and I miss them. I always wanted to have daughters but it's a pity that I can't dress one up for prom or walk down the wedding aisle. I would love to, and my wife and I have been considering adopting two girls, with one being a teen.Yes, I have two boys. I'm not the easiest father for boys because I have harsh discipline standards and demand high standards of conduct and hygiene. I must say that my eldest is outstanding in his conduct and respect for others, older and younger. I will not tolerate insolent behavior from my sons towards girls, and perhaps that's why my elder son is socially popular with girls. My mother was a great teacher. I must profess that I have a somewhat harsh personality, but my ex-military and martial arts background contributes to that level of discipline.
Oh, I totally rubbed salt in the wound, didn't I? I'm so sorry. I didn't know. I think you would be a great father to any girl. And if you do decide to adopt, they will be just as lucky as your sons clearly are. It's so obvious how much you love them. I can understand what a difficult decision it must be though. Adopted kids often come with allot of issues, and it's not easy. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
Knowflake Posts: 6931
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted April 09, 2014 08:26 AM
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Originally posted by Sibyl:
Oh, I totally rubbed salt in the wound, didn't I? I'm so sorry. I didn't know. I think you would be a great father to any girl. And if you do decide to adopt, they will be just as lucky as your sons clearly are. It's so obvious how much you love them. I can understand what a difficult decision it must be though. Adopted kids often come with allot of issues, and it's not easy.
Thanks and no problem. I know adopted kids, especially adopted in the teen years, come with lots of issues. Plus, we're a special needs family that wants special needs kids, and they come with further complications. That's why I've been equivocating for years. IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows
Moderator Posts: 2408
From: UNITED STATES, BABY
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 16, 2014 07:23 PM
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 5645
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 17, 2014 09:40 AM
I feel tempted to troll my parents. They already tell me stupid **** about "my future husband and children" and my father seems to think women are incubators *pukes* In a few years I'm gonna tell them it's not going to happen and if then they don't leave me alone (which is likely)...I'll make them believe I'm a lesbian
 I just can't wait. ------------------
I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
earthypisces
Knowflake Posts: 497
From: Greenville, South Carolina
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 17, 2014 10:40 AM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I feel tempted to troll my parents. They already tell me stupid **** about "my future husband and children" and my father seems to think women are incubators *pukes* In a few years I'm gonna tell them it's not going to happen and if then they don't leave me alone (which is likely)...I'll make them believe I'm a lesbian
I just can't wait.
You should also convince them that you have a really butch girlfriend.  And that you two have secretly been dating for years. ------------------
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 5645
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 17, 2014 10:45 AM
Good idea! I'd send them a picture of me and my female friend cuddling and kissing  I've actually started to build a basis for this operation. A couple of times when my father started yapping "when your man/husband will this and that" I said "how do you know that not a woman/wife?". He ignored it but I hope he's secretly worried ^^ ------------------
I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 4243
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 17, 2014 12:13 PM
I recently heard a gay man say how he got "out and loud" about it. It was a reaction to the shame he felt that followed him even when he was finally out of the closet. Even out and accepted he'd get very uncomfortable if the subject came up at all. Eventually he accepted it was okay and then, as a reaction to years of shame and being condemned, became out and loud about it. But eventually, once the euphoria of self-acceptance settled, he became "meh" about it all. IP: Logged |
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