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Topic: The closet
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Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 01:24 AM
  
& Lol... I think a child's understanding of "coming out of the closet" would be more like: "Whoa! That person came from Narnia!"IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 01:33 AM
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made it a point to always check their closet to see if there was an effeminate man hiding in there
You do know coming out of the closet is not confined to gay people.. or effeminate men for that matter.. right? I could be a 'closet' kinder-egg surprise collector...
I'm not saying that I am ^... lol  But well.. you catch my drift! IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted June 01, 2015 01:48 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
I like to pretend that I'm very promiscuous with men, so that I see what their reactions are.I would prefer everyone to think I was promiscuous, because even though I have no desire for that - I am very open minded and I don't want to be portrayed as anything less than that. !
I just read this. You tease! 
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aquaguy91
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posted June 01, 2015 01:50 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
You do know coming out of the closet is not confined to gay people.. or effeminate men for that matter.. right?I could be a 'closet' kinder-egg surprise collector...
I'm not saying that I am ^... lol But well.. you catch my drift!
I'm a closet Abba fan.
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Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 02:02 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Odette:
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I like to pretend that I'm very promiscuous with men, so that I see what their reactions are.I would prefer everyone to think I was promiscuous, because even though I have no desire for that - I am very open minded and I don't want to be portrayed as anything less than that. !
I just read this. You tease! [/B][/QUOTE]
Lol.. Honestly it's not to be a tease.
As I said - I do it to weed out the sexist and religious people.
I'd like to know who I'm dealing with from the very beginning 
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aquaguy91
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posted June 01, 2015 02:07 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Lol.. Honestly it's not to be a tease.
As I said - I do it to weed out the sexist and religious people.
I'd like to know who I'm dealing with from the very beginning
How does that help you figure those things out? IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 02:07 AM
Because if I told them I was demisexual... what they would understand is:
"How sweet. She's waiting for love and marriage to have sex. What a sweet girl. My Catholic mother would JUST love her"IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted June 01, 2015 02:16 AM
I kind of do something similar sometimes. I'll pretend like I have more of sexual past than I do so the girl feels more comfortable being honest about hers (they usually downplay it). This helps me weed out the ones that have been too liberal. its not even about religion for me. Sexual purity is just something that's important to me (moon exactly conjunct Vesta).IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 02:20 AM
^ hahahaThat could've been hilarious, if we had met outside LL.
We would both be like Tiffany in Silver Linings Playbook: 
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Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 02:21 AM
For very different reasons ^ ... LoL IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted June 01, 2015 02:26 AM
Haha,
I liked that movie. Those 2 were neurotic.IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted June 01, 2015 02:56 AM
I'm not sure how I figured out the gay thing (though not necessarily the closet). Maybe I just absorbed the meaning from gossip rags at the checkout, overhear people talking (especially when they were drunk), and the like, but I just have no idea. Yet when I was, I think, 11 I understood Mr. Smithers on the Simpsons was gay (me and a friend the same age just giggled over it). Around that time we also watched the Critic and we both knew what a country singer type meant by "your little gay friend" and the significance of when a woman sang to the supposed gay guy, "Jay, I'm glad you're not gay, maybe I'll show you why someday." And we got what they were saying, but I can't recall how I (or my friend) had known what the word meant in the first place! IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted June 01, 2015 02:59 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
I'm not sure why they always say "rarely" though - e.g. "It is rare for you to feel an attraction based on looks".. or "this rarely happens".
It's more like, it never happens!
My favorite was "I rarely cheat in relationships." Because, you know, EVERYONE cheats.  IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 08:22 AM
^^ hahaha I know! Right?IP: Logged |
KarkaQueen
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posted June 01, 2015 01:59 PM
@ Odette I believe you mentioned somewhere you only desired sex in a romantic relationship, demi-sexual ? Also , what does being sexist have to do with not liking promiscuous females ? IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 05:37 PM
Having a problem with promiscuous people, can mean different things: - Traditional/Religious views about sex, i.e. that it should only ever happen between two people in a serious relationship. - Double standards/sexism *if* the person in question believes it is OK (and acceptable) for one gender (male) to be sexually active and promiscuous, but not for the other (female). - Health related concerns. Fear that a promiscuous person (who did not take precautions) may have or be a carrier of STDs. - Either insecurity or being very "romantic" at heart...
If the person in question wants to date the -promiscuous- individual... and they find out about their past, they could feel less special - and feel like the connection they have is no longer so romantic (or meaningful) - Spiritual (but non-religious) beliefs about respecting the body, the mind-body-soul connection, soul mates, twin flames etc. I am adding this category in. However - they usually don't have a "problem" with promiscuous people. They are more so - concerned and worried about their spiritual welfare. The ones I want to weed out - are mainly the first two categories. You can usually tell right away, by their reaction, and how they proceed to treat you.
I don't do this willy nilly with everyone - but I have done it at times, in the past when I wasn't sure about how *real* or *genuine* certain people were.
What I mean is - The last thing I want is to be involved with a love-struck "traditional" type who over-romanticises my demisexuality - and takes it to mean that I am very "pure" and hence fit his -standards-. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted June 01, 2015 05:48 PM
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I believe you mentioned somewhere you only desired sex in a romantic relationship, demi-sexual ?
I didn't say that I can only experience sexual attraction (or desire) within a romantic relationship.
There has to be a very close emotional connection. So I could be attracted to a best friend as well, for example. Or conversely, I was with an ex for three years, because I cared about him. But I felt no attraction or desire whatsoever.
A demisexual person will not be attracted to every single person they get close to.
They are actually attracted to very *few* people in their entire life time. IP: Logged |
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