posted June 27, 2014 12:44 PM            

I know this attitude is a sure path to failure because stuff works out for me when I'm 200% in it, I LOVE being 200% in it, I am in the moment, I am on friggin fire! But I haven't felt like that for a while or if I have, it didn't last long because the door slammed in my face. I can't do this halfheartedness sh*t, I think I definitely have some sort of hidden potential that I am simply throwing to the garbage because I can't.get.in.that.mood..

Nothing excites me anymore.

Anyone been through this? Advice, books, articles you can recommend?

I HAVE to get out of this funk. I'm even considering going back on antidepressants. I have to nail that job, 3-4 years ago I wouldn't have spent one second of hesitation.

posted June 27, 2014 01:34 PM            

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Anyone been through this? Advice, books, articles you can recommend?

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Yes. Advice: embrace it ^^

posted June 27, 2014 01:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Sibyl:
I would like to know as well. In terms of romance, I'm the same. I feel perpetually bored and can't really get excited about anyone. I'm simply not in it. For me, I think it probably has to do with a past love. It was exhausting and draining, and has taken me a long time to work through. I guess I'm tired from it, and scared it is going to happen again.

Perhaps it is easier to get excited about making friends? Then maybe if you are lucky that friendship could develop into something more. Maybe your network of friends would be a better starting point than a dating website. I know it all gets a little superficial for me. I also can't engage.

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Yeah.. but you know, at the same time, it pains me to let myself be defined and overcome by my past. If only I could snap out of this though! It doesn't matter where or how I meet potential partners. I was in Turkey for 3 weeks and the people I met there insisted that I meet this pediatric surgeon who was pretty hot and single and had super cute pictures with babies on FB (major weakness) and though my first reflex was "why bother, I am leaving soon" I eventually said ok. Do you think it ever happened? Nope. Stuff prevented it, so I never met the guy and by that time I started to want to! But fine, I maybe could live a happy life while being single, I am no longer in super need of such a validation BUT I do need other areas to work smoothly for me - my career especially. But I am too much of an idealist in all areas and the disappointments I went through took their toll I guess. I've seen too much.

And re socialization, I am the same. I mean, I can do it for a while, but I need to detach soon after, idk maybe I feel like I am losing my individuality to the crowd etc, who knows. Plus it's hard to meet people I can really really like to hang out with. Most people I meet IRL are narrow minded, racist, homophobic or plain rude or uneducated. :/

posted June 27, 2014 01:56 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Yes. Advice: embrace it ^^

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70% Fire. Not an option, it's not in my true nature and it makes me unhappy to be like this.

posted June 27, 2014 02:06 PM            

Actually it's not bad advice.
The more you resist, the more it'll feel like a chore, and the more it'll drain you.

I know accepting feeling like a vegetable isn't always easy, especially for people who are naturally more enthusiastic and energetic. But life can't be lived in the same mood all the time... (unless you're chronically depressed :/) And, with that in mind, I think you should try to not put pressure on yourself when it comes to how you feel.

It's quite common to feel jaded, unfortunately. It's quite sad. But know that it's not even a very 'personal' thing, what I mean is that it's very much a social/global phenomenon that affects many people at some point in their lives. Maybe knowing that can help you to put things into perspective a little and feel less alone in this.

There's only so much one can take before shutting down. It's a natural reaction to (perceived?) failure or disappointment.

And it can take time to re-adjust yourself.

And it's okay!

It's like getting sleep after a day. Regeneration is vital, you can't just skip that step and go onto the next adventure right away (well, you can, but it will ultimately lead to a breakdown of some sort).

Anyway.

Are you in contact with Nature often?
That can help you feel more rested, resourceful and peaceful.

It won't necessarily give you enormous energy, but it will restore some balance in you, if you reach out to it.

That's just a simple thing that's crossed my mind. Sometimes even the little things can help.

NOW GO HUG A TREE!

posted June 27, 2014 02:22 PM            

I will take that advice and be with nature more, Tau Venus will love that. Thank you, Douxie!

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posted June 27, 2014 02:29 PM            

I think the energy of the house is bringing you down. If you've experienced a lot of negativity in it already, like heavy thinking or emoting, or even harmful behaviors, that could be part of it. Places, like people, have an energetic imprint and they can all feel different to us depending on where we are in life and how we personally react to a certain energy...

I hope this doesn't sound too metaphysical.
Just something to ponder.

I guess... follow your intuition. If you feel that you need to move, to explore... then do that (if you can).

posted June 27, 2014 02:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I think I am not happy because I don't feel free enough to be my crazy azz self

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At least you're brave enough to admit it, Ami.

*brins some drama in Ami's life*

Here!

posted June 27, 2014 02:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

I have the 3 dreams of my life--my own business in something I adore and would do for free, an organic garden and playing music and singing.
I think I am not happy because I don't feel free enough to be my crazy azz self

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Wow, that sounds like such a Beautiful Life.

I mean, I can feel Beauty Radiate from the Life Source.

Nice.

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posted June 27, 2014 02:58 PM            

What is stopping you from making the changes in your life you want? I feel you are sabotaging your own happiness by staying in a job with a boss you don't like and choosing a new one that isn't where you want to be. Is it possible you subconsciously pick guys that aren't fully available for you? I see a pattern of compromises, and this is what you have to break.

My life-changing book I read is Mindset by Carol Dweck. Hands down changed the way I view myself and my life. Is it possible you are feeling a lack of purpose or questioning what your true purpose is?

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posted June 27, 2014 09:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
Guess my job here is done. *tips hat*

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You sure helped me, E!

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posted June 27, 2014 09:14 PM            

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posted July 01, 2014 02:01 AM            

Ride it out for out now. In the meantime, try new things. Start with something simple first like having a meal you haven't tried before etc. These little steps can help keep your focus off feeling "jaded".

No offense but you don't need to rush into a relationship right now (refering to dating sites) although you may just be checking out the scenes). There's someone special out there for you (ja ja sounds cliche) but that jaded feeling could be from the last relationship you were in. Give yourself some time.

The drive for the job you want will return.

You're fire. Feel it. Ignite it and rise.

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posted July 01, 2014 11:43 AM            

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvKRQno47L0

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This vid was surprisingly good IMO. I almost stopped watching as it just seemed to be pointless whining that then added extra whining that some people wanted to help him but then about about 2:23 it got better with some good words, and more to the point a little after the 5 minute mark. And about 7:40 he gets downright guru worthy, IMO, and gives that seeming paradox of becoming positive by admitting life sucks, and also overcoming jadedness. I'm glad I didn't stop watching as I almost did.

And I can say from experience that lower expectations do make life a lot more pleasant...but that's for me. Though I expect life to throw a lot of challenges at me I also expect I can deal with it. That's just part of my chart and my life experience.

Still, that's me. Perhaps if I was terrified of challenges then that wouldn't work for me. A professional psychic I used to know told me what most customers wanted was saying how their whole life was about to become wonderful (perfect love, unexpected prosperity, or suddenly realizing they're someone very special like the reincarnation of some parasite, er politician, from Atlantis and people were going to start sensing it) and that worked for them. No matter how often the predictions were false they came back for more because that's what gave them the strength to get through life. So with that in mind I'm sure his approach isn't for everyone.