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Topic: Communicating wi/o words
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Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3854 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 12:54 AM
Very painful for me, went to see Moms in the "recovery home"Last stroke took her speech away We sat and "talked" she is a pisces, I'm well my messed up chart, and she put her hand to her mouth and covered it We looked each other in the eyes, and just talked If that makes sense IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 8764 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 27, 2014 01:35 AM
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Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3854 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 01:45 AM
Faith, I think sometimes, lovers, soldiers and family just do not need to speakNo words needed so to say IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 10037 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 01:49 AM
When my mom got mad at me words never needed to be spoken. It was a hot cup of STFU for this gemini mars in the 3rd. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 10037 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 01:50 AM
I hope your mom gets well padre.IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3854 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 01:54 AM
I apprecaite where you are coming from AG.For me however, as youngish man used to babysit for a couple who were friends of mine A baby more or less, she could not speak so she'd communicate via pinches and touches and going to sleep etc Bit different seeing your own mom doing the same thing. Life comes in a circle AG, never forget that IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3854 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 02:02 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: I hope your mom gets well padre.
Well Brother, what Moms would say is "you are taking this completely to seriously!" Did not appreciate the lol stuff, also know you. Which also misses the point of my OP Sometimes, words are not really needed IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 10037 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 02:10 AM
Padre, Was not laughing at you. Was just trying to bring some humor to the thread by sharing an experience with my mother. I figured since you were a sag you would understand that. IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3854 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 02:17 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: Padre, Was not laughing at you. Was just trying to bring some humor to the thread by sharing an experience with my mother. I figured since you were a sag you would understand that.
No worries Suspect this is one area most youngish folks fall down on, it's not what you say it is how you say it, intentions are great, it is how they are sub communicated that matters IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 10037 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 02:22 AM
Padre, I know what you are saying though. I was 13 when my grandma passed on. Went to see her in the hospital and she could not speak as she was hooked up to a machine that was helping her breathe. I just held her hand for awhile and her firm squeeze and eyes said it all. I will never forget that moment for the rest of my life.IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3854 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 02:40 AM
As I've said no worries, this thread may not last, rather my point is not the life and death sort of nature of end of lifeRather how ppl can just click with someone else in the outside the net world..w/o saying a word Granted we live in a world of Tinder now, still IP: Logged |
BellaFenice Knowflake Posts: 1725 From: Pseudo-Leo with a 1st House Stellium Registered: Sep 2013
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posted October 27, 2014 02:41 AM
Sorry to hear about the situation. It is hard when words cannot express the emotional magnitude of a situation. The power of expression and body language is incredible, and this shows that despite what your mother has been through, it will never break the love between you. IP: Logged |
Odette Moderator Posts: 4711 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted October 27, 2014 03:23 AM
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PixieJane Moderator Posts: 5527 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted October 27, 2014 03:54 AM
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 46389 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 29, 2014 09:21 PM
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ikja Knowflake Posts: 101 From: London, UK Registered: Oct 2014
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posted November 07, 2014 02:44 AM
quote: Originally posted by Padre35:
Very painful for me, went to see Moms in the "recovery home"Last stroke took her speech away We sat and "talked" she is a pisces, I'm well my messed up chart, and she put her hand to her mouth and covered it We looked each other in the eyes, and just talked If that makes sense
I totally understand you. I've been posting around the website that this last year has been difficult for me; and one of the reasons is because on 28 Nov 2013, I came home to find my dad unable to speak as a result of a severe stroke. Although he can say a few things now, it will never be the same and it's very difficult. So I stand with you in electronic solidarity with you on this xxx
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ikja Knowflake Posts: 101 From: London, UK Registered: Oct 2014
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posted November 07, 2014 02:47 AM
It's true, they become almost baby like in their communication. I remember spending a few hours today asking my dad basic numeracy and literacy questions to try and get his mind working abit quicker etc. It definitely helped; but I would say that aphasia is a barrier. When someone you love experiences a stroke, it becomes a test of how much you knew them before it happened. Because you're able to pick up on their emotions, even though their communication skills are not 100%. ------------------ When in doubt, ask questions. ❤ Sun: ♊, Asc: ♏, Moon: ♈, Mars: ♈, Venus: ♉, Mercury: ♊, Jupiter: ♋ IP: Logged |
ungumuda Knowflake Posts: 69 From: Registered: Jun 2014
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posted November 07, 2014 09:40 AM
Oh I'm sorry for your situation Padre35 and ikja. My father suffered apashia (trouble to form language) and I totally can relate. I have one parent would get better and iI wish you strength and patience deal with it *hugs*IP: Logged |
ikja Knowflake Posts: 101 From: London, UK Registered: Oct 2014
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posted November 09, 2014 11:03 AM
quote: Originally posted by ungumuda: Oh I'm sorry for your situation Padre35 and ikja. My father suffered apashia (trouble to form language) and I totally can relate. I have one parent would get better and iI wish you strength and patience deal with it *hugs*
Thank you for your kind words Ungumuda. I hope your father is much better now. I think, I've learned to take his recovery a day at a time now - it definitely helps xx ------------------ When in doubt, ask questions. ❤ Sun: ♊, Asc: ♏, Moon: ♈, Mars: ♈, Venus: ♉, Mercury: ♊, Jupiter: ♋ IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 46389 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 09, 2014 11:21 AM
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juniperb Moderator Posts: 8589 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 09, 2014 02:56 PM
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Ellynlvx Knowflake Posts: 10268 From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 09, 2014 06:21 PM
Yeah, that takes a lot less out of her, I'm sure.Love you lots, Padre. Music helps heal. It's the only thing that brings both sides together in the brain. May you both Be Strong. IP: Logged |