posted July 03, 2015 07:00 AM              

Was it positive/encouraging or negative?

A few people have said I was a good leader although I never thought I could be. I think that stems from having a bossy older sister all my life who always took the reins in most things. It was nice to feel I have some of those leadership qualities too (I still don't like to think in terms of leader/follower though, I think co-operation between people is the ideal).

On the other hand, once when I was put in a temp job which I hated (well I didn't hate the work itself but I hated the man I had to work for), the feedback given to my agency was that "I didn't inspire confidence". Wth? I've never had that levelled at me before. It actually really hurt me at the time because in areas that I shine (eg, music) I've often been told I inspired others.

posted July 03, 2015 07:35 AM            

Certainly the people who said you don't inspire confidence meant, you are so superior, you make them feel inferior.

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I guess I'm always a little stunned by blunt criticism. I'm highly self-critical, so if other people catch a flaw I've missed, I'm thinking, "Oh I should have been flagellating myself for that, too, all these years! Dammit! Opportunity lost."

But then, one thing people say or hint is, I'm oblivious.

Whereas, in my mind, I'm just paying attention to different things than they are.

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posted July 03, 2015 09:32 AM            

My husband said once that I do the "right" things just because I think they're right. And that he saw me as a feral child, easy to please and eager to please.

Now, onto the negative part.

I didn't realize that my temper flared quickly whenever I thought someone was trying to control me or trying to mess with my freedom of choice. Until my husband told me about it. No one else, not even my close friends mentioned it because they knew I'd turn away immediately.

My perceptions weren't always right, of course. Sometimes people just offered suggestions because they cared. But as soon as I got the "idea" that they were meddling, I turned a deaf ear to them. I spent my childhood struggling and planning to get out of controlling claws, so...

posted July 03, 2015 11:22 AM              

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Originally posted by CosmiqPhuz:
Back in junior high/high school, other kids would tell me I'm intense. I didn't really know what that meant or why they thought that way. I was just being myself. I thought I was pretty laid back and easygoing.

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Did I read in another post you have Scorpio moon? I can't remember!
Actually I think it was Venus. My mistake.

posted July 03, 2015 11:34 AM            

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Originally posted by Jo B:
Did I read in another post you have Scorpio moon? I can't remember!
Actually I think it was Venus. My mistake.

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posted July 03, 2015 11:35 AM            

Although I'm not someone that you'd ever see on the cover of a magazine or on a list of sexy men. It seems that many for some reason find me "sexy". Some kind of magnetism. It's crazy. I don't see it!
Maybe Pluto on asc. No idea.

The bad:

Sometimes I'm so stubborn that I can have a TOTAL disregard of what others are saying. Basically just waiting for their mouth to stop moving so that I can speak again without having absorbed a word that they spoke. A sort of "I'm correct and I'm the only one that needs to see that. You're all wrong."
I'm ashamed to admit that. It's true.

posted July 03, 2015 11:50 AM              

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Originally posted by ikja:
That I'm manipulative 😢
I do see it now though - thinks is my Scorpio ascendant. I deliberately use emotive words, especially when complaining about something to get the upper hand. Oops.

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You're Gemini sun right ikja? Gemini - good communicators! Nothing wrong with complaining when it's warranted, I guess when it gets personal it isn't so great.

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Originally posted by CosmiqPhuz:
I've got mercury/Venus/Pluto in Scorpio.

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Although I'm not someone that you'd ever see on the cover of a magazine or on a list of sexy men. It seems that many for some reason find me "sexy". Some kind of magnetism. It's crazy. I don't see it!
Maybe Pluto on asc. No idea.

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What's your sun sign and Asc DopGang?
(Show us your pic! But if you'd rather not, which actor would play you in a movie? )

posted July 03, 2015 12:11 PM              

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Tough to say but I'm a little Russel Crowe-ish..... Maybe.
Like in Gladiator.

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Now you REALLY DO NEED to show us your pic! Preferably wearing a loincloth. Otherwise I shall address you from now on as Maximus Decimus Meridius.

(I'm teasing)

posted July 03, 2015 01:05 PM            

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posted July 03, 2015 02:03 PM              

I love complaining for and on behalf of people who have been wronged. I've got a soft spot for saving people in distress and in times of need.

More recently, I have been quite involved with managing my father's debt following his stroke and inability to communicate. I must admit, I have see a very HARD side to myself and that's where the manipulation has come in. I have at times indirectly threatened to take down people within organisations and made them feel small, only because they are coming after my family though.

When anything involves my family, I switch on and I'm ready to go to war.

posted July 03, 2015 10:36 PM            

I know I've shared about how some considered me part of a Satanic cult that literally worshiped demons and even made blood sacrifices (everything from cats to humans), though it was as the last of the Satanic Panic was just running on fumes (I think it was over with outside the Bible Belt, not including the fringe of course, but a high school counselor who thought I was seeking to lure a high school kid to my cult for sacrifice told me she got a newsletter that "informed" her). I have a friend today who has routinely (and absurdly) been thought of as a thief, drug dealer, violently dangerous and the like by mostly white people but she says what was said about me as a teen beats all of her stories.

But the funny one (a friend of mine who used to work in the computer security profession laughed himself to tears over this) is where I was supposedly a computer hacker, which happened just a few years ago during my Saturn return (an interesting topic in of itself but I don't have time to go into that as I want to on another thread, this was just one aspect of it).

Anyway, quick background: a guy who taught computers at a community college loved getting all sorts of gadgets, and one was a phone with vox so he could "cut down grocery shopping time" (just as long as he remembered to pick up batteries about every trip ) by coordinating with his wife through the vox, but he couldn't get it to work and had given up on it. Having learned about it by asking what that was I said I'd fix it for $20 and he agreed. So first thing I did when I got it home was call up the manual OL (my plan was to go to a nearby Radio Shack and ask one of the guys there if they could get it to work for me but I wanted to ask something more intelligent than "can you make this work") and I was inspired right away as I scrolled through the "don't be stupid" section (you know "If there's no power then check to make sure it's plugged in" part) to make sure the screens matched on both phones...going through all of them (one phone in each hand) I found one screen that didn't matched and adjusted it so it did...and the vox then worked!

So later my (not biologically) then 12-year-old girl is visiting a friend at the same complex where they're on the computer in the living room, the same one her friend's mother used who was present. Her friend wanted to show her a YT vid but couldn't find it so my girl found it through the history logs...but as the mother was the last one signed into YT the video was still in her account and when the mother noticed she threw a fit (and was unable to understand what happened) accusing my girl of hacking her account!

This mother demanded to know where my girl learned to "hack" computers and she said I'd shown her how to access the history logs (apparently this child explaining it to her in even simple terms must've sounded like tech talk and hacker slang, and as understandable as Ancient Greek ) and when the mother asked what else I'd taught her she replied how to do all kinds of research. Being a little girl she focused on different things than adults do so started talking about the then popular Taylor Swift video You Belong With Me and said the guy Taylor's character liked looked familiar and she said I was really fast on the computer and found out he was the actor in the Hannah Montana movie who played the love interest of Miley (and it was where he and Taylor first met while making the movie together and she invited him to be in her music video), and when the mother asked how fast she said "like Wade (and then explained he's the "computer hacker who helps Kim Possible"). And that was all the mother had to hear.

posted July 03, 2015 10:37 PM            

I think it's my natal 3H Pluto conjunct Saturn and Venus (among others), sometimes furthered affected by transits which creates such reactions, both good and bad.

posted July 06, 2015 08:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Jo B:
Have you had someone say something about you that made you think "well I never thought that about myself"?

Was it positive/encouraging or negative?

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Are you all ready for a laugh?

Someone I became close to down here told me that I am "elegant". Yes, elegant. That's not a word i would ever think to use to describe myself and i was very surprised/intrigued by that compliment. She explained it is something about me, my personality, the way i speak and come across to people - "your aura". She's an older friend of mine and we've spent a lot of time together and i work with her every so often when they need extra help where she works. She's someone i can go for months without seeing and then when we do again it's like no time was spent apart (Cancer Sun). We are very similar in a lot of ways and she's someone who's opinion i respect.

After her explanation and the more i thought about it, i guess i can see it - and i'll take it! LOL It's definitely not in the way i dress and def. not how i feel about myself. And not the way i come across here, that's why i thought some of you might have a laugh about it.

Mostly people say that I'm a "good person" "kind" "sweetheart" "easy-going" and things of that nature. Those are the kinds of things i've heard all my life.

A negative one would be something a girlfriend said to me about having too much pride. And she was getting annoyed with me about not wanting to take help from anyone and that I had to let that go. Pointing out that I help other people a lot and should also learn how to take it when need be.

posted July 06, 2015 10:09 PM            

The bad:

Two people have said I depend on others to sort my problems out. Since the first was the father of my children - who I've raised completely on my own (aside from some early sporadic maintenance) it was a bit ironic. But I can see why Ive come across that way and it has been true. But it still ****** me off when I compare with most people and especially women I know.

Also been told by more than one person I'm pessimistic. In my mind I'm highly optimistic and so devastated when things go wrong which is probably the point at which my thinking becomes visible

Good:

Otoh someone said I was the most independent person she knew.

Former boss said I made people feel very calm. I think I'm quite nervy so ..

Friend says I'm verbally articulate. I can be articulate when writing but not so much when speaking. My Mars in Leo sometimes kicks in though when affronted.

My mum said I was funny and I don't think I am but sometimes I can be.

There's many, thinking about it, but those are the most suprising.

posted July 09, 2015 05:29 PM            

However, my close friends and all the guys I have dated see me as fiery, argumentative, passionate, blunt, confrontational, crazy, etc. People also say that I walk with a lot of sass, swing my hips as if I was in a runway show lol. It's funny how people see my as this fiery confident woman, when I see myself as this shy little girl. I was also always quiet all my life. When I don't talk people ask me what's wrong, why aren't I talking. Apparently, I am seen as a chatterbox at work, which surprises me. They aren't used to seeing me as quiet.

It's interesting because natally I have a Pisces moon and I see myself as a Pisces.

But I also do have 4 planets in Sagittarius: Venus,Mars,Sun, Mercury.

I have a sun-mars conjunction natally, which explains where my fiery personality comes from.