posted April 12, 2020 01:43 PM            

Confirmed + exposure to virus at work. I was self monitoring for symptoms when I spiked a fever.

Wait and see, for now.

posted April 16, 2020 08:04 AM            

You and fellow workers are the heros on the frontline and I thank you for your care and courage in helping the sick.
Be well and take good care of yourself!

posted May 02, 2020 10:56 AM            

Something needs to go. I never want to work and be a college student at the same time ever again. And then having family emergencies thrown into the mix. I am so run down. Now that I am experiencing my time of the month, the more I try to push forward to more dizzy and nauseous I feel. I just need a few days in a month for my life to allow me to do NOTHING. Still feeling obligated to my school job sometimes is too much for me to bear. Though the school year technically over. I need it to be over. I need those summer months were I can experience feeling zero obligation. While I finish my last 3 classes.

And then I can just do my job and take some work home with out managing college course work too.

I am almost done, but I am feeling insanely fed up, and done since January.

posted May 21, 2020 01:39 PM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:
What is SAM-e?

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It’s a supplement that I have to take in drops, because I can’t swallow tablets. I’d forgotten how much it helps (and can help quickly), because I’d been feeling better, and fell out of the habit of taking supplements.

This is the one I take: http://www.amazon.com/C ellfood-Sam-Liquid-Formula-oz/dp/B009HWF6DI/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=sam-e+liquid&qid=1590082634&sprefix=sam-e+li&sr=8-3

But they’ve bumped up the price, and I don’t take it every day, because of the cost.

posted June 25, 2020 11:51 PM            

He is finally getting 2 weeks of R&R home!
We will do special things with our families. He will golf a lot. Visit his friends. We will get our quality time, and have some dates. And physically bond.

Well he asked me last week if he could just not do any chores at all when he is home.
I can't believe he asked me that! In case he doesn't notice when I am on a vacation I don't get to just not do anything! I usually have to take time out to do my online college course work! When I visited him where he was staying I would do the DISHES!! So why the hell is it okay for him to just not do anything?!
I am telling you guys. He could just lay on the couch and stare at his phone for like four hours. I like to just stare at my phone for a long while, but holy crap!He did this the last time he visited. And I get that when he was away he probably missed his couch. But he doesn't have a job where he takes his work home with him. His day after work he can just drink hang out with his coworkers, or just veg out in his own hotel room on his bed with the TV on while staring at his phone!
I work, I take my work home with me, I do my online course work. Doing chores on top of that for me is very difficult, I have no help with that now that he is gone a lot. Now that I am done with my preschool job I feel like I can do a little more than I usually do. It's pretty sad what I can finally accomplish once I have one less thing going on.

I pretty much made this point to him. But it still isn't clicking with him!
He then said that he will do chores if I do them with him.
So he basically is saying he will only do it if I am doing them too.
That really ****** me off since when he is away on his job site he has hotel maids to clean up his place.
I am not even asking for much. Like even if he just did one thing a day when he is chilling all day at home.
For his time off he doesn't have to do anything for his job, he is not a college student, LIKE MEEEE
I am still working 3 days a week, I'll be doing 2 online condensed college classes while he is home. So I don't know if he realizes it. But he is being so petty that he would rather do nothing but stare at his phone all day. While I am nannying a one year old, a two year old and a five year old! Then I come home with my brain fried and say "okay lets clean partner!" When I probably have an essay and discussion boards to do that week. He will roll back on the couch while I stay up all night typing a paper, and then get up early to nanny the next day.

posted June 26, 2020 12:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
Like even if he just did one thing a day when he is chilling all day at home.
For his time off he doesn't have to do anything for his job, he is not a college student

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If possible, could you ask what his reasoning is, and why he hates chores?

I ask because I know the type well from when I volunteered with a homeless program. A sizeable minority (NOT the norm) were like him. Sometimes a 2 minute chore could get them all sorts of benefits (including a place to sleep for the night with dinner and breakfast) but they'd try to either con their way out of it, or get someone else to do it. What was most mystifying to me is that it took MORE WORK to get out of a chore, and quite often he ended up having to do it anyway. But they'd do it over and over despite simply doing a chore would be so much faster, easier, less stressful, and they typically got a lot more in return for it than a professional janitor would while also held only to minimal standards.

I could not ask because I was an authority figure who enforced the rules on that (and if someone else was conned into doing the work then I did what I could to make sure the person who actually did the chore got something out of it rather than the person who was supposed to have done it), and they weren't going to admit to it. At least you seem to have a dialog going on between equals, so maybe you might.

It was mostly men which made me wonder if they saw it as effiminate and/or submissive, that is it somehow feels emasculating to them (being a "man-maid"), though men in the military are typically held to much higher standards of cleanliness of their appearance and property than most women are, and it's hard to get more masculine in our culture than military. ('Course this doesn't explain the women who can be the same way, but they were much more rare.)

Another possibility is that it is seen as punishment. From parents to the military, extra chores can be a punishment. I would guess that as children they got an allowance just for existing rather than for doing their chores, and now in addition to feeling entitled, they may also feel guilty (or have unpleasant memories) when doing any chore, because to them doing chores meant to "admitting to doing something wrong."

Another possibility is that they did do chores but it was never good enough, as they had the misfortune to be raised (or commanded) by a bully, so that doing any chore creates incredible anxiety.

It's just completely irrational to me, and I can only guess as to what's behind it. If he's willing to share his own aversion to it, I'd be very curious to know!

(Also, how can sitting on a couch watching the phone for hours be fun? I'd think that would get so boring they'd rather do anything else, including quick chores. Heck, many people get upset reading their phones which just furthers my confusion about the addiction.)