posted January 05, 2025 07:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
I am so sorry Lexx! What you have with your husband was so special and supportive. Something that not every marriage has.

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Sady since he died I discovered to my horror that he had a secret life and ugly and vile is an understatement for what has been coming to light.
Dozens of awful things shocking things .,,.I am beyond stunned and the only thing good I can say is I am no longer grieving him and happy as can be that the monster is dead.
I would have divorced him in about 2012 had I known about it all.
Then I just discovered all our writing projects since 1999
He sent to one of his secret buddies to publish using their names when I died of cancer which I have been fighting going down n three years to date.
Fooled them alright.
HOWEVER he also took my access away from our manuscripts.
.over 27 years of hard work lost lost lost no worse stolen given away in secret.
He locked me out of even my cell phone and all our computers and tablets before he died and locked me out of all our accounts and locked me out of his computers etc where all our personal and household information was kept.
Life is a freaking nightmare at this time.
I am beyond horrified that I trusted that man for over 27 years only to find out that since about 2012 he had turned on me and well let's just say ugly is putting his secret life mildly. I stayed because when he was nice at times and it was lovely but also noticed something was very wrong and since 2012 I knew something was very wrong but only after he died did I learn the truth.
On top of all that he was a secret drug addict on opioids galore stealing mine too....
And a bunch off f other addictive drugs.
I thought it was because of his liver disease and a stroke he had as to why he became more strange and manic depressive after 2012. Boy was I wrong.
Well enough on all that just want to say to folks never trust anyone with your entire being and life and accounts and money..,.WOW beyond wow I feel like an idiot trusting and loving him with my heart and soul.
He stole decades of my like and more...

I am now doing my best to survive and to keep going.
My life is a nightmare at this time.....

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Originally posted by Stawr:
I am so sorry Lexx! What you have with your husband was so special and supportive. Something that not every marriage has.

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Sady since he died I discovered to my horror that he had a secret life and ugly and vile is an understatement for what has been coming to light.
Dozens of awful things shocking things .,,.I am beyond stunned and the only thing good I can say is I am no longer grieving him and happy as can be that the monster is dead.
I would have divorced him in about 2012 had I known about it all.
Then I just discovered all our writing projects since 1999
He sent to one of his secret buddies to publish using their names when I died of cancer which I have been fighting going down n three years to date.
Fooled them alright.
HOWEVER he also took my access away from our manuscripts.
.over 27 years of hard work lost lost lost no worse stolen given away in secret.
He locked me out of even my cell phone and all our computers and tablets before he died and locked me out of all our accounts and locked me out of his computers etc where all our personal and household information was kept.
Life is a freaking nightmare at this time.
I am beyond horrified that I trusted that man for over 27 years only to find out that since about 2012 he had turned on me and well let's just say ugly is putting his secret life mildly. I stayed because when he was nice at times and it was lovely but also noticed something was very wrong and since 2012 I knew something was very wrong but only after he died did I learn the truth.
On top of all that he was a secret drug addict on opioids galore stealing mine too....
And a bunch off f other addictive drugs.
I thought it was because of his liver disease and a stroke he had as to why he became more strange and manic depressive after 2012. Boy was I wrong.
Well enough on all that just want to say to folks never trust anyone with your entire being and life and accounts and money..,.WOW beyond wow I feel like an idiot trusting and loving him with my heart and soul.
He stole decades of my like and more...

I am now doing my best to survive and to keep going.
My life is a nightmare at this time.....

posted January 06, 2025 01:33 AM            

Gods that's messed up, is there anything you can do legally since you are still his wife/widow and should be entitled to his share of everything even though he has tired to cut you out of it? Stealing or Destroying someone's creative work is one of the lowest things a person can do, I cannot fraking believe he did this... that ******* .

I'm inclined to retract my 'eulogistic' post I made about in light on this new information, as I too was completely in the dark about his secret life...

I didn't say such before because I didn't think it appropriate, but the character I had written for him in my Story is one of the Main Antagonists, a truly ruthless and evil individual which I felt would be a mirror twist on what I thought was Steve's real life personality (a decent human)... Seems my fictional version of him was way closer too the truth than I even remotely suspected... I honestly feel kinda sick thinking about this, just wtf... Now I'm not even sure if I want to include him in my project at all, but maybe I need too, for both our sake's in regards to possible futures when we may encounter him again.

posted January 08, 2025 11:12 AM            

If the only copies are on a server and he removed her privileges that's equally as bad and typically harder to get access too. Most of those services use 2FA and she said she is also locked out of their phones.

Perhaps if he wrote some of the PW's down rather than keeping them in his head, in which case Lexx will have to search his personal affects and hope to get lucky.

Either way its a massive head-ache that she shouldn't have been left to deal with.... damn it.

posted January 22, 2025 01:05 PM            

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If you're unable to log in to your laptop/computer, you can boot into Safe Mode with Command Prompt to attempt a password reset. Here's how to do it:

Boot into Safe Mode with Command Prompt:

Power off your computer completely.

Power it on and immediately press the F8 key (on some computers, it might be Shift + F8 or another key, like Esc or F12, depending on the manufacturer).

This needs to be done before Windows starts loading.

This should take you to the Advanced Boot Options menu. If you're using Windows 10 or later, you may need to restart your computer a few times to trigger this screen.

Select Safe Mode with Command Prompt from the list and press Enter.

Resetting Your Password in Command Prompt:

Once you're in Safe Mode with Command Prompt, follow these steps:

In the Command Prompt window, type the following command and press Enter:

net user [YourUsername] [NewPassword]

Replace [YourUsername] with your actual username, and [NewPassword] with the new password you want to set.

Example:

net user John newpassword123

You should see a message saying the command was successful.

Close the Command Prompt window and restart your laptop/computer.

After the restart, you should be able to log in with the new password you set.

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posted January 25, 2025 09:11 AM            

I can only imagine. I wasted my entire late 20’s with ex husband that I won’t get back.

What he did was so damaging. You can live in justice, freedom, and truth now.

posted February 07, 2025 05:53 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
LEXX, the Geek Squad at Best Buy can get you back into those computers. See if you can get a quote from them, and maybe you can take donations from LL to help out. None of us can likely know what depths of betrayal that you have suffered. So, we have no experience to truly compare it to. Truthfully, you may never recover. But you CAN get your work restored.

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I would
love to do that but there are no stores like that near me and I have no way to get there and he destroyed my car before he died......
Also when I asked a person to help me with the computers it was discovered that he was into much let's say bad things that are not supposed to be on computers so now I dare not try to get them so that I can use them or the few dozen flash drives I have so far seen is loaded with more very bad stuff.
I am hoping legal will be able to help me be because I had nothing to do with his disgusting hobbies/impulses.
I just want my damn passwords to my stuff and all the financial etc stuff.... He locked me out of it all....
Just wish someone could wipe his crap out and give me all of my stuff and basically clean all the devices for me to safely use.
Everyone tells me to pour gasoline on all the devices from cell phones to various types of computers and burn them because they aren't salvagable.
He bought dozens of devices in past few years without my knowledge.....
Many were hidden....
Whilst fighting cancer he completely finished taking over my life in many insidious ways...
I do not know who to turn to except ,legal SHEILD which is not cheap........
and legal aid, which is free but had a year or more waiting list... and I am impoverished to boot....
I shall return with more updates.

Oh by the way he did something really bad to my medical stuff and it had messed up my medical insurance when he committed fraud and lied about his income when the only income since 2010 has been my disability income....
He had a perfect score of 8 whilst me with the only income has a zero rating.
Yeppers he stole my financial and other identifies like posing as me at Facebook under several different user names..HENCE it was there he did most of the damage to my social life and messaged my family and turned them against me by pretending he was me telling them terrible things like saying that I never wanted anything to do with them ever again.
My dad and you get sister died not knowing that ai did not reject them and only after the monster husband died
did I discover that my family never cut me off but were made to think so.
Even my son. Is having trouble believing it was not me he just thought I had many user names and many emails not that they were pretty much the monsters impersonations of me to control my life and destroy my contact with the outside world.
He just thought that I had some kind of mental breakdown after a big stroke and went crazy....because that was the kind of things my monster husband was telling him and everyone whilst pretending to be me...

I have grandchildren I have never met because he told everyone I hated getting old and did not want grandchildren.

Anyhow basically no more chemotherapy treatments as I was going into my third year of fighting stage 4 cancer...
Why you may ask....
Because he screwed with my medical and his dying made a mess so my insurances can do nothing until they determine my financial status and what I am entitled to as noe a one person household.
Like taking my food stamps from $195 a month to now because he is dead...
down to only $23 a month.
Same goes for insurance which I may have to pay for and cannot but might be losing my poverty and dual household exemptions.

So hope my cancer does not win.
Nothing I can do at this time but hope it will not return without the chemotherapy.

Please pardon any typos.

posted February 20, 2025 09:42 PM            

I cant even understand why he would do this, not with all he knows of PL stuff etc... truly disturbs me.

::Hugs::

posted February 21, 2025 09:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Lei_Kuei:
I'm still in shock reading about what he was up to behind your back all these years (and angry), and I can only imagine how upset you are over all of this...

I cant even understand why he would do this, not with all he knows of PL stuff etc... truly disturbs me.

::Hugs::

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