posted October 13, 2012 07:57 AM
for the lovely hera who rquestedgood luck with your man 
mars in caner
(Donna van Toen)
You have high emotional energies, adequate-to-low physical and practical energies,
and low mental energies. Your energy is predominantly emotional, sympathetic and
subtle. It is often channeled into gaining security, patriotism, and domestic activities.
Your strengths include your ability to give TLC, instincts, and feelings. You lack
perspective, direction, and spontaneity.
The fighting side of Mars is subdued here. You fight openly only when forced to do
so; you prefer to use guilt to keep things under control, or you will sidle into things
on the defensive, wondering if you'll be able to take the heat or be driven out of the
kitchen by more assertive minds / bodies. I call this the mark of the worrywart, as
your strong needs for security and nice things can put a lot of pressure on you to be
'the best' in some way - and of course perfection is hard to come by! Sometimes this
position of Mars indicates difficulties in the involved house, because Mars here is in
its fall and therefore hard to channel constructively. Other times, since Cancer is
associated with home and family, it can attract a great deal of domestic discord. Your
intuition is powerful; you should use it. But guard against negative psychism, and
round out your development by also taking courses in philosophy or theosophy, to aid
your psychic development. With practice, you could have good results with astral
projection, past-life recall, and tarot in particular.
Mars in Cancer tends to have a somewhat uneven or erratic sexual quality. People
with this placement can go for lengthy periods when they have little or no interest insex. These periods are interspersed with other periods of extremely sensuous,
amorous, and occasionally even promiscuous behavior. Sometimes, there are bouts of
impotence or other sexual problems. However, if you're sure you're loved, you're
liable to be both refined and faithful, even if not always in the mood for sexual frolics.
Mars in Cancer men have many appealing qualities, not the least of which is the fact
that they like women and are protective and solicitous of them. They make marvelous
friends; and if you're willing to settle for cuddles instead of fireworks when the're in
their disinclined stage, they can be quite capable of meeting your needs. Mars in
Cancer women often have some difficulty deciding whether they want to be Earth
Mother or Lolita - and sometimes take turns playing both roles.
You want an emotional mate who likes to touch and be touched. The chances are
good that you also want a family. You can be a clinging vine and smother your lover if
you're not careful. Your intentions are good - you want to protect, provide for, and
take care of him / her so that his / her every need will be fulfilled. You therefore do
best with a mate who's a wee bit dependent, someone who wants a strong person
who can advise and help him / her when need be. In general, this rules out anyone
whose overall chart shows a strong Aries (dependent this person wouldn't be),
Sagittarius (you'd cramp his / her style), or Aquarius (too independent for your
tastes) influence. Choose someone who has Venus in a Water sign, in the 4th house,
or conjunct his / her Mon for best results. His / her Venus on your Nadir might also
be a good choice if you want a comfortable, relaxed, stay-at-home sort of relationship.
You're able to succeed in a number of career areas, but would be best off to aim for a
position with a title, preferably a position that involves serving the public in some
way. You're motivated to gain prominence, and aren't too well-suited to partnership
unless your partner is a silent one. You are, however, a prime candidate to be ownermanager of your own business. You're not suited to assembly-line work in a factory;
nor are you suited to office work where you're one of several doing the same sort of
work; you need to express your individuality in the career area. Some good career
areas for you are: catering, cooking, bartending, advertising, office work (but not the
very junior positions unless you really feel needed and there's scope for advancement
once you prove yourself), shopkeeping, plumbing, nursing, hotel work, and fishing.
Working hard around your home is one way to find opportunities for personal growth.
It doesn't really matter whether your work is actually connected with your home or
merely done in your home; if your motivation is high, the opportunities will come.
Cooking, delivery work, and the business world in general can also provide you with
lucky breaks. In general, the less glamorous the field, the more opportunities you'll
find, as you're most highly motivated when you see unfilled needs or people needing
protection. This may often mean succeeding because you take on work nobody else
wants to do.
(Jan Spiller and Karen McCoy)
Static
You have a tendency to alienate others by competing with them for fulfillment of
emotional needs. You may aggressively demand attention and assume that the needs
of others are a threat to your security. When others don't give you the support and
attention you think you need, you can lose energy by using the Cancerian emotional
touchiness to reject them.
DynamicYou can be constructively assertive with others by using sensitivity to become aware
of others' needs as well as your own. When you are willing to set aside selfcentredness and adopt a position of responsibility, you can acknowledge the feelings
of others as well as express your own needs positively. You can gain energy when you
commit yourself to initiating closeness and objectively organizing situations in which
everyone's needs can be met.
(Babs Kirby and Janey Stubbs)
Someone with Mars in Cancer is going to move cautiously wherever failure and
rejection are a possibility. Like the crab, these people will approach their objective
sideways-on. They will act carefully, and pay attention to what kind of response they
are eliciting.
In relationships, someone with Mars in Cancer will not want to risk rejection, and will
often not make a move unless sure of being accepted. These people will use their
sensitivity to the non-verbal signals to gauge how safe it is before risking a refusal.
However, Cancer is a cardinal sign, so despite their self-protectiveness Mars in
Cancer people will initiate. When they feel emotionally secure, either because the
external situation is non-threatening or from an inner security established within
themselves, then Mars in Cancer people can act passionately and powerfully.
This is a sexually passionate placement with deep and intense needs for emotional
safety within a relationship. People with Mars in Cancer are particularly likely to
want sexual contact to reassure them that they are wanted, although their need to be
wanted extends beyond the sexual and will permeate their whole life. They may try to
make themselves indispenable to others so that they will never be abandoned.
In sexual relationships, they need to feel they belong, to feel protected and secure,
and will in turn offer a sense of protection and containment to their partner. Mars in
Cancer will often mother their partner and want mothering themselves. They enjoy
taking care of others, both physically and emotionally. They are likely to be gentle,
kindly and sympathetic.
Someone with Mars in Cancer will recognize and value the deeper exchanges of a
sexual union and the bonds that exist on a feeling level. These people are likely to be
possessive and to expect their partner to be completely faithrgul, though they will not
necessarily apply this same standard to themselves. However, they will remain
faithful if their infidelity would threaten their security or violate their feeling of
belonging to someone else.
(Syke Alexander)
Mars has a difficult time expressing itself through this sign, for the two energies are
radically different. Mars is active, assertive and individualistic; Cancer is passive,
introverted and desirous of union with significant others. The physical vitality and the
courage and confidence inherent in Mars are diminished when the planet is placed in
Cancer. You might find it hard to assert yourself or to go after what you really want
in an aggressive, decisive way. Instead, you tend to pursue your desires in a roundabout or stop-start manner, changing your course of action from day to day.
One thing you will strive to achieve is security, and you may invest a great deal of
energy to this end. You might seek security in material wealth adn work hard to
acquire as many financial asets as possible. Or, you could find security in your family
and put lots of your energy and enthusiasm into your family life. Perhaps much of the
activity in your life is centered around your home and / or family.Though you are not naturally a fighter, you are like a mother bear when it comes to
protecting your home and children, and would defend them to the death if need be.
This fierce protectiveness extends to all members of your family and your expanded
family - co-workers, neighbors, fellow citizens - and you might be known for your
vociferous patriotism and loyalty.
You are strongly sexual and sensual, but are really only fulfilled within the structure
of a committed, stable relationship. Sex without emotion seems meaningless and
empty. You are happiest when you can share your powerful feelings with a partner to
whom you are devoted and with whom you are comfortable and secure. Once
involved in an intimate relationship, you aren't likely to be unfaithful, and couldn't
bear any disloyalty from your lover. Infidelity threatens the sense of security you find
within the relationship.
Highly emotional, you can be rather 'touchy', easily upset and volatile. Most probably,
you are very susceptible to emotional stress and tension; and your feelings are
quickly engaged. Thus, your emotional responses - particularly anger - sometimes
seem disproportionate to the situation. Sensitive to what you envision as attacks on
you personally, you tend to over-react with defensiveness when you believe you are
being challenged in some way. You might feel vulnerable or weak, and try to
compensate by attacking first or hardest.
Men with Mars in Cancer may have a particularly difficult time accepting and dealing
with the great sensitivity and emotion they experience. Perhaps you choose to
channel this sensitivity into an artistic field. Since Cancer is in the sign of children,
nurturing and the creative process, you might put your energy into birthing 'children
of the mind'. However, it is also possible that you may feel weak or unmasculine, and
over-compensate with excessively 'macho' behavior or attempt to appear manly
through use of violence. Perhaps you harbor much anger towards women - especially
if Mars is stressfully aspected by Uranus or Pluto - and either denigrate them or try
to assuage your feelings of inadequacy through sexual 'conquests'.
Women with this planetary placement are most attracted to men who are warm,
affectionate, romantic, nurturing and sensitive. You find it rather endearing to see a
man cry, and are put off by 'tough guys' who hide their emotions. A devoted family
man, who loves children and takes good care of his mother, touches your heart. You
also want someone who is a good provider, who can give you a nice home and
financial security. Slightly plump homebodies who enjoy cooking and like nothing
better than to cuddle up with you in front of the fire appeal to you most.
(Marcia Moore and Mark Douglas)
Keynote: Circumstances demand defensive action.
Symbol: A settler buys a gun in order to protect his home.
Mars in Cancer directs the full force of the feeling nature into the struggle to acquire
an estate and to guard that which has been obtained. A soldier's place is not normally
in the home. Therefore, aggressive Mars is in its fall in the domestic sign of Cancer
where militancy is distressingly out of place.
Although the fire of Mars and the water of Cancer are more apt to boil than the
blend, their enforced coalescence produces potent effects. The suppressed
emotionalism of fire-water combinations may result in smouldering irritation followedby sudden outbursts of temper or 'letting off steam'. When positively directed, the
pent-up feelings can be channeled into passionate dedication to a cause. Often such
an individual is driven to sublimate the ferment of feelings, which vie for control of
his nature, into fervid endeavour. The result may be a brand of genius which is tinged
with lunacy but which, nonetheless, gives rise to accomplishment.
Venus in Cancer can be smug in its reliance on traditional values. By contrast, Mars
in Cancer churns up obscure problems, particularly on the home front. Excessive
tension is liable to create internal distress in the form of nervousness and digestive
upsets. Women with this placement often undergo abdominal operations; men are
oppressed by possessive mothers; babies have difficulty retaining their food.
Unconscious resentments lead to a dependence on cigarettes, alcohol, or drugs which
wreak destruction upon the hapless cells of the body in socially acceptable ways.
Addictive tendencies may be triggered by the use of artificial stimulants to
counteract a sense of physical depletion.
A Mars-Cancer person should study and apply the principles of psychoanalysis in
probing the depths of his own mind. Here he can wield the cutting force of Mars like
a surgeon's knife in order to locate hidden sources of conflict. Frequently, he wil find
that many of his difficulties can be traced to childhood traumas or to uncongenial
parents.
Although this position gives strong domestic inclinations, the nesting instinct is often
thwarted by sudden, enforced changes of residence, political upheavals, or
uncontrollable circumstances. Almost invariably, some frustration mars the harmony
of the home. A typical Mars-Cancer woman had to work so hard earning money to
maintain her household that she would return from her job too exhausted to do more
than have a couple of drinks and fall into bed. Three miserable marriages and an
unloving mother had combined to rob her of the tranquil homelife she so desperately
craved.
Since Mars is the go-getter as well as a goad to action, it frequently provides a clue
to a person's profession. In Cancer, it inclines toward occupations connected with the
sea, food, housing, or children. The strenuous work involved in running a busy home,
institution, hotel, or restaurant is characteristic of this configuration.
A good swimmer does not fight the sea, but allows it to buoy him up. Similarly, the
Mars-Cancer person must learn that some battles are won through letting go and
surrendering to necessity. Otherwise, he may waste energy struggling for lost causes.
He needs to cultivate a quiet spirit, a happy disposition, and faith that the ongoing
stream of life will bear him toward his goal.
(Isabel Hickey)
Very sensitive. Over-emotional. There are difficulties with digestion due to emotions.
Strife in home conditions. Ambitious and hard workers, but changeable. Very
domesticated. Can not fight, for is not aggressive outwardly. Holds everything in and
steams inside. Timidity is strong if there are not other positive energies to help. Very
sensitive stomach. Should not put juices on an empty stomach, for it irritates the
stomach linings. People with Mars in Cancer have a 'red' stomach so acids can give
upsets. Should not eat when tired or upset. Digestion strongly affected by moods and
feelings.
(Jeff Green)
Mars in Cancer will correlate with a Soul that desires to create a safe, securepersonal reality in order for its evolutionary intentions to be actualised. The primary
structure or form that Mars in Cancer will instinctively orient to in order for this
security to be realised is that of family, home, and trusted friends. By extension, this
drive reflects the core evolutionary intention of the Mars in Cancer archetype - to
move from seeking its security needs through external forms or structures to
realising that the security it requires lies within itself. In order for this evolution to
take place, the Mars in Cancer person will typically be born into a family situation in
which the parents do not meet these projected security needs in some way.
This can manifest in various scenarios, such as emotional conflict between the
parents in which the child learns that something can go wrong at any moment,
having parents who divorce, experiencing disruptions within the family structure on
an ongoing basis, having one or both parents who are emotionally domineering and
demanding towards the child, or having one or both parents that emotionally or
sexually abuse or violate the child in some way. When the projected and expected
emotional security needs of the child are not met, the psychological and emotional
consequences will lead to displaced anger, and to a total breakdown of trust. Sexual
abuse or violation in childhood will lead to a deep sexual anger and distorted sexual
desires as the child moves into puberty and adulthood. In combination, these
displaced emotional and / or sexual dynamics will be 'acted out' on other people. One
of the worst forms of this 'acting out' of displaced emotions can manifest as
pathological jealousy. Another example is reflected in the Mars in Cancer person
becoming 'emotionally frozen', stemming from the fear of being emotionally
vulnerable.
The house that Mars is in, the hosue that the sign Cancer is in, the house and sign
that the Moon is in, the sign of the Fourth House and the location of its planetary
ruler, and the aspects that these planets form to other planets and the houses that
those planets are in, serve as the primary ways through which the Mars in Cancer
person learns how to become inwardly secure. It is through these dynamics that the
displaced emotions of childhood are 'triggered'. As such, they serve to progressively
make the Mars in Cancer person aware of the causal factors that ignite his or her
emotional states or relations. In this way, emotional self-knowledge takes place over
time - a key intention of Mars in Cancer. The phasal relationship between Mars and
Pluto will show how this is accomplished.
Sexually speaking, the Mars in Cancer person will be born with fundamental fears of
insecurity linked with the act of birth itself. The anxiety of separation from the womb
of the mother is symbolised by not only the birth moment, but also the cutting of the
umbilical cord. As a result of the separation anxiety experienced at birth, the Mars in
Cancer person will exhibit a deep fear of sexual vulnerability which mirrors the fear
of emotional vulnerability relative to trust. The emotional and psychological
compensation for these fears is to create situations in which the Mars in Cancer
person attempts to totally control his or her emotional and sexual life. As a result,
Mars in Cancer can be very sexually and emotionally possessive, domineering, and
irrationally jealous. Hyprocritically, these people can demand that their partner be
abolutely faithful while at the same time giving themselves the right to have sex with
someone else.Their sexual energy and needs are directly linked with their existing
emotional dynamics. Because the emotional dynamics can be so complex in the Mars
in Cancer person, the nature of his or her sexual dynamics can be just as complex.
The root issue, again, is linked with the original anxiety of separation from the womb
at birth, and, through extension, with the various causal factors of emotional
problems from childhood. As a result, men who have Mars in Cancer can have a
preoccupation with the breasts of women, and a strong oral orientation to the
woman. Women can have a strong oral orientation to the man. This orientationreflects the child's need to bond with the mother at birth through breast feeding, and
the security that this creates in the child. In essence, it also reflects the Mars in
Cancer person's desire for the original security of the womb.
For some who have Mars in Cancer, various forms of sexual violence or dominance
can manifest because of their unresolved anger. In women this can manifest as
psychologically, emotionally, and sexually 'castrating' the man in some way; and in
men it can manifest as sexual power over women. Such men use women as sexual
objects in order to build up an otherwise weak self-image. Some will remain sexually
arrested or immature, which will also cause various forms of sexual dysfunction.
Sexual distortions can be focused on children or on people who are very much
younger or older. Some children who have Mars in Cancer, and who have been
sexually abused by a parent, will desire or attempt to have sex with other children, or
with a sibling.
Once this Mars in Cancer person realises the evolutionary intention of inner security,
his or her emotional and sexual orientation to life will change. Instead of being
controlling, domineering, and possessive, he or she will become supportive and
nurturing, and display an incredible emotional empathy that can truly heal the
emotions of others. He or she will reflect a deep emotional wisdom that is offered in
non-manipulative ways. He or she will be self-empowered, and seek to empower
others. Sexually, he or she will be secure from within him- or
herself, and will no longer fear being sexually or emotionally vulnerable. He or she
will encourage and support the emotional and sexual vulnerability of others. He or
she will desire to emotionally and sexually unite with another so that the sexual
experience becomes a source of emotional and psychic renewal. When this occurs,
the Mars in Cancer person has realised the evolutionary intention of his or her Soul.
As their lives evolve, these individuals must embrace the Capricorn polarity.
Essentially, this will mean learning how to accept responsibility in their own actions,
to become totally self-determined, to become emotionally and sexually mature, and to
access the causative factors for their various emotional states, along with the sexual
desires that manifest from them.
Lindaland
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posted October 13, 2012 07:57 AM
posted October 13, 2012 03:41 PM
It sounds a lot like him, indeed. Especially since he's a Fish.. Ugh boy, he's all water, I'm all FIRE.. trouble!
posted October 13, 2012 04:59 PM
hopefully in a pleasant way 