posted May 24, 2013 09:44 PM            

When I am interested in someone I do try to find out every single thing about them. I might get obsessive checking out and trying to learn more about them on Google or Facebook to see if we'd be a good match or if there's anything about them I don't like.

I haven't done this in awhile and honestly I am really ashamed, but if I don't find a reason not to like them I have driven by people's houses and places of work to try to see them.

If really interested in someone, I can almost put all other things/work/responsibilities, whatever aside and I can only think about that person and learning more about them.

When I was in a relationship I didn't do this type of thing, it was more when becoming interested in someone.

When in the relationship it was like giving my soul away and I would take breakups really hard... getting so depressed that they broke my trust. I think it makes me feel like I would do anything for that person and really brings out a dark side in me.

Like when my old boyfriend broke up with me I felt such betrayal like we had a commitment for eternity or something.

I know a lot of people take breakups hard but I would be affected for years after and still checking up on them (creepy I know, I'm not proud).

I'm not like that as a person in general but in a love relationship I am! I don't consider it a fun aspect at all!

posted May 25, 2013 04:12 AM            

I have:
- sun, mercury and venus (taurus) in 8th house
- my pluto (scorpio) is in the 1st house
- moon and mars are in the 6th house in aries
- on top of that: my rising sign is exactly between libra and scorpio. Pluto in scorpio is the closest planet to my ascendant

“When I am interested in someone I do try to find out every single thing about them. I might get obsessive checking out and trying to learn more about them on Google or Facebook to see if we'd be a good match or if there's anything about them I don't like.”

BIG yes, that’s totally me…*shocked*
- checking out his/her b’day and the chart of the person
- looking for his/her profile on facebook, xing and other social communities or on the Internet.
...sometimes I really feel that failed my profession…I should become a detective...

Although my venus is in Taurus and I love to love with all my senses, I got some typical scorpio qualities, which aren’t fun :S

“If really interested in someone, I can almost put all other things/work/responsibilities, whatever aside and I can only think about that person and learning more about them.”

Again YES…I can’t concentrate on other things, because he/she is CONSTANTLY on my mind…

"I know a lot of people take breakups hard but I would be affected for years after and still checking up on them (creepy I know, I'm not proud)."
I am too much that way :S I still think of my last boyfriend, who really deeply hurt me. Our break-up was two years ago and I still can’t forgive him... Sometimes a look at his profile just to know what he’s doing now.

“I'm not like that as a person in general but in a love relationship I am! I don't consider it a fun aspect at all!
Luckily, I have Mars in Libra so no outbursts or anything... ugh.”

posted May 25, 2013 03:39 PM            

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Originally posted by deep_waters:
Any advice what one could do when noticing that he/she becoming "obsessed" by a person? *help* I don't want to behave in a way like I do and is mentioned above :S

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posted May 25, 2013 05:03 PM            

He was interested in me but I didn't like him and he would always walk by my work and I'd see him in his car when I was driving around. It was 'kind of' on his way home but he would ALWAYS choose to walk right by my work.

I didn't like it when the tables were turned on me, lol.

He was seriously one of the nicest, most harmless guys ever so I wasn't worried but yes it's a strange aspect.

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posted May 25, 2013 08:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Yes, I would say obsessive BUT not able to go for it unless there is a Mars with drive. I have an article on this. A Venus in Scorpio with a wimpy Mars like Cancer or Pisces will be very, very frustrated imo

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posted May 25, 2013 10:04 PM            

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Originally posted by yaygirlthecat:
I'd rather have my wimpy Mars in Libra with this or it seems like it could lead to violence or something!

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Well, I think a venus in SCorpio is better off with a Mars in Aries or SCorpio as they have intense passions and need to express them and go after them but that is just my opinion! xx

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posted May 26, 2013 05:19 AM            

oui, c’est comme ca... A mars in its core signs (aries + scorpio) can add more passion and intensity, since the person will take action.

“He was interested in me but I didn't like him and he would always walk by my work and I'd see him in his car when I was driving around. It was 'kind of' on his way home but he would ALWAYS choose to walk right by my work.

He was seriously one of the nicest, most harmless guys ever so I wasn't worried but yes it's a strange aspect.”

Similar experience. A few months ago, I met a man at work. He has venus, mercuy and uranus in scorpio. His mars and moon are in leo. I really do like him, ‘cause he is one of the nicest and charming people I've met so far (libra sun). Usually he is calm and a little bit shy, but when he saw me he started to hurry up to start a conversation with (Was on my way home and he caught me up in the hall) We have many pluto contacts in our synastry (including: venus conjunct and pluto). Also I feel that he observes me and ask probing questions (Is this venus or mercury in scorpio???) I don't wanna be a "open book" for him that he can read. So I stay calm but confindent and hope things get better

posted May 26, 2013 11:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Well, I think a venus in SCorpio is better off with a Mars in Aries or SCorpio as they have intense passions and need to express them and go after them but that is just my opinion! xx

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posted May 28, 2013 12:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemmy:
My ex had a Cap Moon also.Me?Gemini Sun,Venus,Moon,and Mercury.So yeah I know what you mean when they just don't wanna talk about something and how frustrating it is.

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posted May 28, 2013 10:08 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemmy:
I haven't coped.I'm in the same boat.We've walked away from each other a bunch of times.But then we decide to try again.We've been "trying" for over a year now.It's a pain.But thank God it's become easier for me to let go of.In the beginning I was so lovesick.

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posted May 28, 2013 02:58 PM            

When it comes to relationships or people I'm interested in I become very obsessed with them. I check their social networks, google them, I even have a app on my phone that allows me to run background checks. I'm like a private detective. I find out all kinds of personal things about the person. And with I'm very demanding and once I'm in a relationship it's all or nothing with me. I'm completely devoted, demanding, and loyal. With Saturn falling in my 7th house it makes me hold on to relationships longer than I should, and every time it gets harder and harder to let go. My last boyfriend we were only going out for about 4 months and one day he said he was moving away and never called again. I investigated what he said and found out he was lying. This drove me insane, I wanted to go by his job, to find out why he broke up with me. I called his phone, left messages, texts, still no response. I was so angry with him that I created a fake page on a social network and expressed interest in him to see if he would take the bait, and when he did I really let him have it. I was so hurt that I had to hurt him back. Now I'm completely obsessed with one of my facebook friends whom I never met and I can't explain why, it's just something about him that draws me in.
I am completely ashamed of my behavior and I've come to realize (since Saturn in Libra transited my 7th house) that the only way to control my behavior is to accept that nothing last forever and to enjoy life in the moment, I can't control everything and everyone (this is especially hard with my son) because I worry about him all the time and the only way I feel that he's safe is right under me, and I have to gain more control over my actions and be careful who I allow into my life. Now I'm going through Saturn in Scorpio's transit through my 8th house. I read an article that the only way to control Pluto's energy is to own your own shadow. I have some links below to some articles and websites I've stumbled across while doing research on controlling my negative Pluto energy. I hope it helps because I know dealing with this energy is not an easy thing to live with.
http://www.shadowdance.com/shadow/LearnAboutShadow.html
http://www.amazon.com/Hea ling-Pluto-Problems-Donna-Cunningham/dp/0877283982/ref=wl_it_dp_o_pC_nS_nC?ie=UTF8&colid=1EEYRVYXI7MRB&coliid=I2INXBW59SM3HC
http://www.ofspirit.com/carmenturnerschott1.htm
http://www.allthingshealing.com/Psychospiritual/The-Power-of-Choice/6417#.UaT7GkC1FNo[/UR L]
[URL=http://merliannews.com/Astrology_11/The_Mysteries_of_the_8th_House_House_of_Death_Transformation_by_Carmen_Turner_Schott_MSW_LISW.shtml]http://merliannews.com/Astrology_11/The _Mysteries_of_the_8th_House_House_of_Death_Transformation_by_Carmen_Turner_Schott_MSW_LISW.shtml
http://merliannews.com/Astrology _11/The_Mysteries_of_the_8th_House_House_of_Death_Transformation_Part_2_by_Carmen_Turner_Schott_MSW_LISW.shtml
http://sasstrology.com/2007/05/pluto-problems-in-relationships.html
http://skywriter.wordpress.com/2010/02/09/pluto-problems-got-you-perplexed-heres-w hat-helps/

posted August 17, 2019 03:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Bardophile:
Hi! I have venus in scorpio and I have venus and pluto conjunct. For me, love, desire and obsession go hand in hand. I have such intense emotions I sometimes can't sit still. Everything I feel, I feel deeply and intensely. I never experienced having a 'slight' crush on someone. When I like someone, I really really really like that person. Same goes with falling in love. In love, I go for passion. It's hard to explain how explosive my emotions could get. I think my greatest obsession is to 'possess' the one I love. My greatest fear is to be slighted and abandoned by the one I love. I am vindictive, yes. If I could I would spend every minute of every day with my bf. I don't just want his love -- I want him to love me above anything else in the world. I want him to love me forever, in this life and in his future lives. Sex is very important for a venus in scorpio because it is an expression of love. I've never been promiscuous and I've only fallen in love twice in my life. I admit that I have cyber-stalked my ex-bf, my current bf AND his many exes. I have checked my bf's phone and his facebook account. I guess I just NEED to know what he's up to, but then again I also have mercury in scorpio (conjunct my venus and my pluto -- all in scorpio) so maybe that doesn't count. I love being a venus in scorpio because I don't take love or even sex lightly. I realize how valuable love is. I KNOW most of the things I said really sound creepy, but I don't care at all. Hope I don't sound like a rambling idiot.

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Haha, I don't judge. I somewhat relate to your passion in love

posted September 05, 2019 04:37 AM            

Unless there are mitigating factors i.e Jupiter or Neptune on Venus in Scorpio etc. Or Venus is in the 2nd or 7th house,these people tend to approach matters of the heart(and survival needs) with a lot of trepidation, suspicion & doubt.

Venus is where we are supposed to relax and trust. This is where the "attraction" principle is supposed to be heightened and how (much like an oasis in a desert), we are supposed to be the "beauty" in an otherwise dry place -or at least a demonstration of that ideal.

When Venus is in Taurus/Libra-barring other factors like Saturn/Pluto/Uranus/Mars on Venus.Or Venus in 8th/6th/ etc. we are able to relax & trust that good things will come to us.

Venus in Lib/Tau or 2nd/7th attract easily because of this innate belief and indeed, good things do seem to come to them easily-hence the "lazy" reputation they gain (because it seems like they are adverse to "working" for anything)

Perhaps this belief is supported by Venus in that attracting that which you want is more satisfactory than "claiming" or "actioning" after what you want?Whatever the reason may be, these people(barring mentioned aspects) typically come across as "passive".

Contrary to popular belief, Mars actually disturbs the centred approach of Venus(included herein is Saturn, Pluto and Uranus).The union between the two(no matter the nature of it), is quite problematic.

When the Mars planet is involved with Venus, the attraction factor is not so much focused only on "attraction" per se.But is heightened considerably towards "obsession".

Mars/Venus rules Aries/Taurus cusp in that there is an emphasis here on "possessing" or "getting" stuff. The reaction of these people often being "I must go after that which is MINE".

Mars/Venus also rules Scorpio/Libra cusp(Pluto/Venus also therein). Here the native fears loss,betrayals or separation. The result often being that the inner narrative is "I must guard what is MINE".

So when a Venus in Scorpio is finding out all tgere isto know about you; whether it be to Google you, ask people about you, check your social security number etc. is not so much for you as it is for them.

They are uncovering all tgere is to uncover so that there are minimal suprises for them. This is a defense against loss, a protection against betrayal. Because once they start dating you, Venus in Scorpio begins to worry(more especially if they like you), how they will lose you.

This is wherr the accusatory remarks stem from, the habitual calling, the looking deeply into your eyes etc. Its a way of them "claiming" you. And in many ways its "imprisoning".

That also may be why people who are involved with Venus in Scorpio feel like "prisoners of love"? In that the carressing i.e "i wanna be with you forever" is often followed habitually by the harassing i.e "why were you talking so intimately with that cashier?"

Mars/Pluto exist side by side with Venus when Venus is in Scorpio. This is painful(Sco) joy(Ven) or dangerous (Sco) affection(Ven) etc. the "Vampire Diaries" or "Twilight " saga stuff. In that "love"has a touch of death therein. Something extreme (like suffering or death) is always attached to affections.