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Topic: Venus-Pluto obssessed love synastry
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curious girl
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posted March 04, 2013 06:13 AM
  
Venus Pluto seems to be one of the most interesting interaspects in synastry.I have been Venus and I have been Pluto in relationships. While I am Mars/Pluto and Venus in Libra in 8th, I can tell I am quite prone to such plutonic relationships. What´s the difference from my experience? When I was Venus, the love did not fade away. After years I can look at the person I trully love and feel the same love being renewed. I admire, I love, I am dependent on the Pluto person. When I was Pluto, however, I was so addicted and obssessed with Venus person (man with Venus touching my Mars/Pluto). However, I was not the first to feel the love and only when the counterpart expressed the feelings I became obsessed with him. Such "love" then lasted for years and only after I had enough (enough of things I did not like about that person) my feelings transformed to something else, kind of friendship. After all, it´s not only about Venus-Pluto, there is always something else in the play and it also depends on the condition of one´s Venus and Pluto in natal. IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon
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posted March 04, 2013 06:28 AM
I have venus conjunct pluto with my daughters father. He also has venus conjunct pluto natally.I was the pluto. We were both obsessed.
We are not together anymore. Broke up after 6 years.
I saw him in court the orhet day for child support and we both looked at eachother.
The love is definitely still there.
Its a forbidden love.
He is married. Hasnt seen my daughter in a year.
Ill nevet forget him. And i will never forget what ge did to my daughter either.
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curious girl
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posted March 04, 2013 06:33 AM
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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
I have venus conjunct pluto with my daughters father. He also has venus conjunct pluto natally.I was the pluto.
Your story is sad :-(. What is Pluto doing in your natal?
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Venusian Moon
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posted March 04, 2013 07:16 AM
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Originally posted by curious girl:
Your story is sad :-(.What is Pluto doing in your natal?
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Originally posted by curious girl:
Your story is sad :-(.What is Pluto doing in your natal?
Pluto in the 4th house Jupiter conjunct pluto Saturn conjunct pluto Neptune sextile pluto Pluto square Asc IP: Logged |
curious girl
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posted March 04, 2013 07:38 AM
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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
Pluto in the 4th house
Jupiter conjunct pluto
Saturn conjunct pluto
Neptune sextile pluto
Pluto square Asc
So Pluto conjunct Venus in your 4th, that´s pretty intimate. IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted March 04, 2013 07:38 AM
Venus/pluto is soooo hard! I had venus trine pluto with a guy, he had venus inconjunct pluto with me so it was a DW. We also had mars/pluto DW and mercury/pluto DW, and moon/pluto. The relationship is over now (I think it was the mercury/pluto hard aspects) but yes, very very obsessive...don't know how one can recover from it..hoping someday a friendship can exist but talk about cutting to you soul..we also had composite sun conjunct moon. IP: Logged |
Got Gemini??
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posted March 04, 2013 08:52 AM
I have exact Venus sextile Pluto with Miss Scorpio, I'm Pluto and she's Venus. While I'm not obsessed at all with her, I have been in love with her since I met her when I was 9 (25 years ago). I think the non obsession for me comes from there being other planets touching that sextile. My Moon is also sextile her Venus exact. Her Venus is conjunct her own Neptune so my Moon/Pluto conjunction sextiles her Venus/Neptune conjunction. And to top that off, her own Moon is near mine (don't know her birth time) which is also conjunct her own Pluto which sextiles her own Venus/Neptune conjunction. Phew that was a mouthful lol!In the composite, we have Moon conjunct Pluto exact and that conjunction is widely conjunct Venus in Libra. I love her dearly but I am not obsessed and neither is she. But if I could speak to just the Venus/Pluto sextile we have, I'd say that it deepens/intensifies my love for her. We used to go years without contact and when we reconnect, its always like no time has passed at all. Venus/Sextile Pluto I think also speaks through sex and eye to eye "looks." When she and I are physical, its very intense emotionally on a level that is different than anything I've ever experienced, its like our souls are making love through our bodies and eyes. But like I said, I think those other planets mixed in add greatly to that. ------------------
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Venusian Moon
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posted March 04, 2013 09:18 AM
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Originally posted by curious girl:
So Pluto conjunct Venus in your 4th, that´s pretty intimate.
We were soulmates who met at the wrong time. He always said what we had was beautiful and i will never forget you. Unfortunately theres a child in the middle paying the price.
I see him everyday in her.
My eyes are watering as i type.
Life goes on i guess.
Maybe we will meet again in another life.
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curious girl
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posted March 04, 2013 11:40 AM
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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
We were soulmates who met at the wrong time.He always said what we had was beautiful and i will never forget you. Unfortunately theres a child in the middle paying the price.
I see him everyday in her.
My eyes are watering as i type.
Life goes on i guess.
Maybe we will meet again in another life.
Oh dear, with the feelings you are describing, you definitely will meet again! IP: Logged |
curious girl
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posted March 04, 2013 11:43 AM
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Originally posted by Got Gemini??:
I have exact Venus sextile Pluto with Miss Scorpio, I'm Pluto and she's Venus. While I'm not obsessed at all with her, I have been in love with her since I met her when I was 9 (25 years ago). I think the non obsession for me comes from there being other planets touching that sextile. My Moon is also sextile her Venus exact. Her Venus is conjunct her own Neptune so my Moon/Pluto conjunction sextiles her Venus/Neptune conjunction. And to top that off, her own Moon is near mine (don't know her birth time) which is also conjunct her own Pluto which sextiles her own Venus/Neptune conjunction. Phew that was a mouthful lol!In the composite, we have Moon conjunct Pluto exact and that conjunction is widely conjunct Venus in Libra. I love her dearly but I am not obsessed and neither is she. But if I could speak to just the Venus/Pluto sextile we have, I'd say that it deepens/intensifies my love for her. We used to go years without contact and when we reconnect, its always like no time has passed at all. Venus/Sextile Pluto I think also speaks through sex and eye to eye "looks." When she and I are physical, its very intense emotionally on a level that is different than anything I've ever experienced, its like our souls are making love through our bodies and eyes. But like I said, I think those other planets mixed in add greatly to that.
Venus - Pluto have the reputation that they don´t deserve, especially with mild aspects that you are describing. Often Neptune softens the influence. Harmonious Moon aspects, too. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted March 04, 2013 11:45 AM
How do you define "obsession" in regards to love/ relationships? What do you perceive as its symptoms?IP: Logged |
Orange
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posted March 04, 2013 11:51 AM
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How do you define "obsession" in regards to love/ relationships? What do you perceive as its symptoms?
To love what you can't have. Pretty much. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted March 04, 2013 11:52 AM
Obsession = thinking a LOT about the other person, whether or not you are actually in a relationship with them.Imo. IP: Logged |
rhia
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posted March 04, 2013 12:11 PM
I have venus conjunct pluto natally, which means I would have my venus conjunct the pluto of anyone who was born around the same time as me (with a margin of a couple of years, I guess). For this reason, I think this aspect probably has more of an effect in my attitude within a relationship, rather than as a synastry aspect in itself. I don't like the term obsessed because it sounds so negative, but I definitely have very strong feelings! Although they are not aroused very often (probably in the order of once every few years). I have a pluto trine venus (wide) with the person I am interested in at the moment, as well as my venus conjunct his pluto, but I think my natal venus-pluto is most responsible for the depth of my feelings (although we have a number of other strong synastry aspects too). IP: Logged |
curious girl
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posted March 04, 2013 12:54 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Obsession = thinking a LOT about the other person, whether or not you are actually in a relationship with them.Imo.
And, to want them to love you even when you are not together, or to want them to love you even more and longer. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted March 04, 2013 01:15 PM
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And, to want them to love you even when you are not together, or to want them to love you even more and longer.
That goes without saying..  IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted March 04, 2013 01:36 PM
For what it's worth, my charts have:Synastry: Venus Conjunct Pluto, and Venus Trine Pluto. Composite: Venus Square Pluto. Natals: Venus Trine Pluto. Venus Conjunct Pluto.
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Got Gemini??
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posted March 04, 2013 02:28 PM
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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
How do you define "obsession" in regards to love/ relationships? What do you perceive as its symptoms?
Oh wow, I always defined obsession as kind of a negative thing. Definitely not like the definitions above. I always thought of obsession as someone who is fixated on one thing in an unhealthy manner; to the point that it is detrimental to that person's mental state/health. Think of all the movies where an obsessed person had a shrine that is full of photos, personal effects, and candles that is dedicated to a person in their basement. That is what comes to mind for me when I think of someone being obsessed. I mean, I guess by the other definitions in this thread, I am obsessed with my children's health, making it in life, and being happy because these are the things that mostly preoccupy my mind. However, I don't have any shrines dedicated to any of them lol.
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curious girl
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posted March 04, 2013 02:35 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
For what it's worth, my charts have:Synastry: Venus Conjunct Pluto, and Venus Trine Pluto. Composite: Venus Square Pluto. Natals: Venus Trine Pluto. Venus Conjunct Pluto.
It that why you came up with the nick name "YoursTrulyAlways"? IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted March 04, 2013 02:42 PM
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It that why you came up with the nick name "YoursTrulyAlways"?
I wasn't thinking about that when I came up with the nick name, but I guess it applies. YoursTruly is one of my e-mail addresses, but it's a bit generic, so I added a little variation. But I've been married for almost 20 years now, so I suppose it applies. IP: Logged |
Dreaming111
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posted March 04, 2013 05:08 PM
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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
I have venus conjunct pluto with my daughters father. He also has venus conjunct pluto natally.I was the pluto. We were both obsessed.
We are not together anymore. Broke up after 6 years.
I saw him in court the orhet day for child support and we both looked at eachother.
The love is definitely still there.
Its a forbidden love.
He is married. Hasnt seen my daughter in a year.
Ill nevet forget him. And i will never forget what ge did to my daughter either.
You sound really upset about it. Are you upset at him? His wife? Society for making it forbidden? Did he leave you? Does he try to contact you? IP: Logged |
Mandy pie
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posted March 04, 2013 06:27 PM
I met someone who's pluto sextiles several of my planets... I definitely fell into obsession mode soon after meeting this person And I don't even find them sexy or anything... in fact I find them to be a little weird and definitely not physically attractive and YET thoughts of them would constantly enter my mind and even my dreams while sleeping! I would have dreams of my having sex with them and then the second after I was done the person would suddenly turn into a grotesque creature with deformities and everything. And all we did when meeting in real life is talk business!My pluto also makes contacts to his planets, but his pluto makes much tighter contacts with mine and I think perhaps that's why I became the obsessed one. (assuming he didn't also go through the same with me, which I don't think he did.) I've gone through plutonian relationships before and it's really easy to fall into pure instinct and just fall into the bad patterns. I'm trying to learn from this relationship by breathing through the intensity it seems to bring into my subconscious mind rather than just falling into the energy of it. IP: Logged |
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posted March 04, 2013 06:47 PM
I met someone this weekend i have DW Venus Trine Pluto with in synastry. As well as V T P in composite. I am obsessing. And I barely know him. I haven't talked to him in an hour and I want to hide my phone from myself and go to sleep. Hahaha. Like, NOT rational at all. It's technically not even romantic at this point. IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon
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posted March 04, 2013 07:24 PM
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You sound really upset about it.Are you upset at him? His wife? Society for making it forbidden? Did he leave you? Does he try to contact you?
Why would i be upset at society? Lol
His wife forbids him from seeing her. He listens. I dont know what she threatened him with.
He use to bring her to his house all the time and she would play with her brothers.
His wife called my 4 year old a b@$t@rd once.
He use to contact me alot. We have a child. We would have to talk. We remained best friends after everything was over.
She found out he called me months ago and blew up.
Must have been very bad. We dont contact eachother like we use to anymore.
I spoke to him on the phone 2 months ago when he called. He wanted to know if i still loved him and seemed sad i have moved on with someone else.
Then he spoke to the baby. Thats about it. Saw him in court last week. Will see him again in april.
Its not good for us to be alone together.
The attraction is intense. My mars is in his 8th house. We also have mars conjunct venus. He is a scorpio/sag cusp, taurus moon, libra venus, and sag mars I am gemini/cancer cusp, taurus moon, taurus venus,libra mars.
And yes i am still upset about it. I met him when i was 24.
I remember i got a psychic reading when i was 21. For free. She saw a tan skinned man dancing with a little girl. She said it wasnt a baby but a toddler ;(
Hes not a bad man we just met at the wrong time.
He treated me like a queen.
I was very sick when i was pregnant because i was a vegan and everything made me barf! He took care of me very well.
I will never forget the first day we saw eachother.
He always said no matter what happened between us we would always have something that is a part of us.....the baby that we made with love.
*shrugs shoulders
Whatever
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Long - standing
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posted March 04, 2013 10:28 PM
Never thought about Venus/Pluto seriously, but when checked the synastry with my boss: we have Venus/Pluto conjunction and Venus/Pluto trine .. oh...He is a venus in conjunction,I have been worked with him for 16 years, and all the time i run away from this obsession, he is a virgo, i am an aries, several years ago i hid in onother department, but still he remembers, he knows all people i work with so sometimes i recieve messages: i was the worså, i was the best... at last i learned to live with it, but till now i am not sure in his intentions, the only thing which saves me - his poor imagination, so i can predict (though not very sure).IP: Logged |
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