posted April 09, 2015 06:13 PM            

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Originally posted by alyssa27:
neptunian venus-i had a similar case..a guy was obsessed with me,he couldn't leave me alone he even threatened me and my family-his father was a politician-he said that he could learn and find everything for me and my family and hurt us..i was so scared..for a while i couldn't sleep,i didn't wanna tell my mother but i couldn't take it so i did tell her..she told me to tell him that i had kept all of the threatening messages-and i had kept them of course-and that i would take legal action against him(he knew my mother is a lawyer btw)..guess what?he send a goodbye message and disappeared from my life..i guess he got scared..
if the things get worse don't afraid to tell your family..even though i don't think it will get worse since u talked to him and he listened

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posted April 09, 2015 06:20 PM            

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Originally posted by astra7:
Well done NV. Glad to hear how you handled it. We have been having rather intense transits of late as well so no doubt it must have fuelled over-reaction on his part too.

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posted April 09, 2015 11:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
I think it was Vens sq Mars.

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posted April 11, 2015 08:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Aubyanne:
No worries in the least, Pel. I'd thought nothing of it. We all get to things in our own time.

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posted April 11, 2015 10:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Peluches:
NV,

Any news ? How's it going with him ?

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Hey Peluches!

Well for a few days things were fine, but now it seems he's back to his old ways...

He's asking me really weird and uncomfortable questions. It's honestly getting on my nerves at this point. He wants to know what kind of a future he sees for us and such, what he means to me, etc.

I don't want to be mean and tell him to eff off. I just told him I wasn't ready for a relationship yet.

He keeps telling me how hurt he is and such because he considers me his girlfriend ???

I feel so bad, I don't know how to get out of this now.

But I'll just continue ignoring him and being distant. Eventually he'll get tired and stop (hopefully).

I think he just wants my attention.

posted April 12, 2015 06:03 AM            

I have by transit neptune trine venus. I never was like I am feeling now. I was not so aware of how I was affecting others with my behavior. normally, if a guy was hitting on me, I just dismissed him without any after thought about me being cruel or such...

I can see from your name that you had a natural neptunian venus (not transit).. that makes me think that your way of relating always takes into account the other. from a spiritual perspective, this is closer to unconditional love. I can feel it now with the transit, but I have also observed that the transit makes me more compasionate about other's pain than about my own.

I suspect you are not taking too much into account your own wellbeing. You were straight with that guy and what happened? he just pretended or tried to stay calm, but he coulnt or dont want to help himself. he is in denial. I understant your compassion toward him, but before you think too much about his pain, think about how much he is hurting you with his stalking attitude. he is not thinking about you. he is talking about LOVE but from the selfish side. if he LOVED you he would respect your choice and would let you go eve if painful for him..

I would try one last message saying you have talked clearly and you prefer if he does not contact you ANYMORE.. if after that, he continue stalking.. i definetly advice the protection program if you live in a country with such protection..otherwise, get another phone and try to make all your friends aware, just in case...

I hope you manage to get rid of this situation.. it is becoming creepy...

posted April 12, 2015 03:26 PM            

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Originally posted by nordicsoul:
Neptunian Venus,

I have by transit neptune trine venus. I never was like I am feeling now. I was not so aware of how I was affecting others with my behavior. normally, if a guy was hitting on me, I just dismissed him without any after thought about me being cruel or such...

I can see from your name that you had a natural neptunian venus (not transit).. that makes me think that your way of relating always takes into account the other. from a spiritual perspective, this is closer to unconditional love. I can feel it now with the transit, but I have also observed that the transit makes me more compasionate about other's pain than about my own.

I suspect you are not taking too much into account your own wellbeing. You were straight with that guy and what happened? he just pretended or tried to stay calm, but he coulnt or dont want to help himself. he is in denial. I understant your compassion toward him, but before you think too much about his pain, think about how much he is hurting you with his stalking attitude. he is not thinking about you. he is talking about LOVE but from the selfish side. if he LOVED you he would respect your choice and would let you go eve if painful for him..

I would try one last message saying you have talked clearly and you prefer if he does not contact you ANYMORE.. if after that, he continue stalking.. i definetly advice the protection program if you live in a country with such protection..otherwise, get another phone and try to make all your friends aware, just in case...

I hope you manage to get rid of this situation.. it is becoming creepy...

my best
NS

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posted April 12, 2015 05:15 PM            

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Originally posted by astra7:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by nordicsoul:
Neptunian Venus,

I have by transit neptune trine venus. I never was like I am feeling now. I was not so aware of how I was affecting others with my behavior. normally, if a guy was hitting on me, I just dismissed him without any after thought about me being cruel or such...

[b]I can see from your name that you had a natural neptunian venus (not transit).. that makes me think that your way of relating always takes into account the other. from a spiritual perspective, this is closer to unconditional love. I can feel it now with the transit, but I have also observed that the transit makes me more compasionate about other's pain than about my own.

I suspect you are not taking too much into account your own wellbeing. You were straight with that guy and what happened? he just pretended or tried to stay calm, but he coulnt or dont want to help himself. he is in denial. I understant your compassion toward him, but before you think too much about his pain, think about how much he is hurting you with his stalking attitude. he is not thinking about you. he is talking about LOVE but from the selfish side. if he LOVED you he would respect your choice and would let you go eve if painful for him..

I would try one last message saying you have talked clearly and you prefer if he does not contact you ANYMORE.. if after that, he continue stalking.. i definetly advice the protection program if you live in a country with such protection..otherwise, get another phone and try to make all your friends aware, just in case...

I hope you manage to get rid of this situation.. it is becoming creepy...

my best
NS

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We need to draw more plutonic, black and white, no nonsense energy. [/B][/QUOTE]

I was not aware about how neptunian felt until i was hit with the transit. I had a stellium in cancer and neptune is in trine my venus exact in this moment and a wider orb for sun and mars... so now I can feel it... that gives me the advantage of understanding, but also the perspective on not being neptunian by birth, so I can see the difference...

I agree that some plutonian or Saturnian energy can help...

posted April 12, 2015 11:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Neptunian Venus:
Hey Peluches!

Well for a few days things were fine, but now it seems he's back to his old ways...

He's asking me really weird and uncomfortable questions. It's honestly getting on my nerves at this point. He wants to know what kind of a future he sees for us and such, what he means to me, etc.

I don't want to be mean and tell him to eff off. I just told him I wasn't ready for a relationship yet.

He keeps telling me how hurt he is and such because he considers me his girlfriend ???

I feel so bad, I don't know how to get out of this now.

But I'll just continue ignoring him and being distant. Eventually he'll get tired and stop (hopefully).

I think he just wants my attention.

If things get worse I can always block him.

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I've just read this whole thread, and I'm sincerely hoping

that you (as another poster indicated) have kept the crazy

messages for your own record, should you need them.

Also, I think it would be a very good idea, if you haven't

done so already, to TELL someone you trust (even though you're

an adult) like your parents or a friend/co-worker who has some

life experience.

This just creeps me out and tbh, the behavior scares me.

I'm guessing he knows where you live?

If not, shut it down.

I hope this works out for the best for you.

posted April 12, 2015 11:16 PM            

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Originally posted by nordicsoul:
Neptunian Venus...

I suspect you are not taking too much into account your own wellbeing. You were straight with that guy and what happened? he just pretended or tried to stay calm, but he coulnt or dont want to help himself. he is in denial. I understant your compassion toward him, but before you think too much about his pain, think about how much he is hurting you with his stalking attitude. [U]he is not thinking about you[/U].

he is talking about LOVE but from the selfish side. if he LOVED you he would respect your choice and would let you go eve if painful for him..

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Yes! This is so true.

I think it even borders on greed-

which has nothing to do with LOVE.

posted April 13, 2015 11:10 AM            

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Originally posted by Vajra:
Better block him now already. He indeed wants your attention, and tries to get it by trying to corner you with such questions to throw you off balance. That's quite aggressive (and "considering you his gf" when you've made it clear you don't want that is outrageous!). Every reaction from you feeds his needs, so don't feed him.

I had to deal with such behavior a few times in the past too (although it's hard to draw comparisons because people are different), and every time it got to this stage, I completely stopped being responsive, blocked communication, and treated the person as if they were a ghost I couldn't see when I met them somewhere accidentally, which worked very well every time - they gave up and left me alone after a while. However, I'm a Scorp AC and people say I've quite the evil stare when angry so that may have helped keep such people at bay. If freezing him out doesn't work in your case, you'll have to consider the full self-protection program (although I have little trust in the ability of the police to protect people from stalkers, at least over here where I live, and actually once got the recommendation from a lawyer to forget about them for such issues and hire a deadbeat instead, who would be way more effective in scaring the stalker away But maybe where you live there's more they can do for you.) However, it's quite possible the guy you're dealing with isn't the violent/dangerous type and so, hopefully that won't be necessary. Just stop giving him attention. Good luck!

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You're right. I should have blocked him sooner.

posted April 13, 2015 11:13 AM            

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Originally posted by midnightvenus:
Do you think that his Venus in a square to Pluto could make him romantically obsessive?

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Definitely.
He's talked to me about his past relationships and from my understanding, he's done the same with them!

posted April 13, 2015 11:43 AM            

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Originally posted by nordicsoul:
Neptunian Venus,

I have by transit neptune trine venus. I never was like I am feeling now. I was not so aware of how I was affecting others with my behavior. normally, if a guy was hitting on me, I just dismissed him without any after thought about me being cruel or such...

I can see from your name that you had a natural neptunian venus (not transit).. that makes me think that your way of relating always takes into account the other. from a spiritual perspective, this is closer to unconditional love. I can feel it now with the transit, but I have also observed that the transit makes me more compasionate about other's pain than about my own.

I suspect you are not taking too much into account your own wellbeing. You were straight with that guy and what happened? he just pretended or tried to stay calm, but he coulnt or dont want to help himself. he is in denial. I understant your compassion toward him, but before you think too much about his pain, think about how much he is hurting you with his stalking attitude. he is not thinking about you. he is talking about LOVE but from the selfish side. if he LOVED you he would respect your choice and would let you go eve if painful for him..

I would try one last message saying you have talked clearly and you prefer if he does not contact you ANYMORE.. if after that, he continue stalking.. i definetly advice the protection program if you live in a country with such protection..otherwise, get another phone and try to make all your friends aware, just in case...

I hope you manage to get rid of this situation.. it is becoming creepy...

my best
NS

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YES! You are correct lol
I have my Venus squared by my Uranus-Neptune conjunction natally.
Uranus and Neptune rule my 7th and 8th houses too.
It's indeed made me very spiritual, idealistic and unconventional in love. And I won't settle for anything less I need that full on deep soul stuff to even consider getting involved ~ which I do not feel with this guy at all.

Hm, yeah, maybe I will give it one last go and be clear with him. He's acting like a child now and being really co-dependant.

He actually now wants me to meet him in person so I can be sure of my feelings. LOL. Never in a million years.
He knows I'm very ambitious and have high aspirations for life, he literally said to me that while he is searching for a job, I will continue supporting him and be there for him. Sigh. Poor guy. I'm starting to believe he's actually delusional.

posted April 13, 2015 11:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Eirlys:

I've just read this whole thread, and I'm sincerely hoping

that you (as another poster indicated) have kept the crazy

messages for your own record, should you need them.

Also, I think it would be a very good idea, if you haven't

done so already, to TELL someone you trust (even though you're

an adult) like your parents or a friend/co-worker who has some

life experience.

This just creeps me out and tbh, the behavior scares me.

I'm guessing he knows where you live?

If not, shut it down.

I hope this works out for the best for you.

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Hi E ,

Yes, I have all the messages saved.

A few of my closest friends know about him and you guys on here, that's it.
But you're right, I should let someone who's more experienced in on this too.

posted April 13, 2015 07:55 PM            

My guess is, largely and only internet-or phone text conversations right? Look, just block the guy. He's not what you desire in a partner, and he doesn't come close to friendship so just cut ties and be on your merry way.

Thing is, I have Venus SQ Pluto natally and I'm the total opposite of the guy. I can let go easier than anyone else.

My whole thing is "Either you're with me, or you're just not there." What would make me romantically sparkle, is the person whose loyal to me, and vice-versa.

Control isn't necessary, because "we"'d have something deeper: Commitment. Until a commitment is etched in stone, my heart is cold and frozen. I won't commit to anyone, only to be hurt. I've been there way too many times.

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Originally posted by LightandDarkWings:
Yeah, peeps were understandably concerned but they kind of missed the whole "Pakistan-Chicago" thing here lol. Far away is an understatement.

My guess is, largely and only internet-or phone text conversations right? Look, just block the guy. He's not what you desire in a partner, and he doesn't come close to friendship so just cut ties and be on your merry way.

Thing is, I have Venus SQ Pluto natally and I'm the total opposite of the guy. I can let go easier than anyone else.

My whole thing is "Either you're with me, or you're just not there." What would make me romantically sparkle, is the person whose loyal to me, and vice-versa.

Control isn't necessary, because "we"'d have something deeper: Commitment. Until a commitment is etched in stone, my heart is cold and frozen. I won't commit to anyone, only to be hurt. I've been there way too many times.

Bad part is, it's so easy to cut people out of my life that it's hard to get others to want to commit to it lol.

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I'm Canadian, he lives in Arkansas. Still quite a distance though, thankfully.

The reason I won't just straight up block him is the fear of him somehow trying to find his way to me again.
I feel if I take things that far, he'll act out even more.
So I'm trying to find the "easy" way out I guess, by ignoring him.

posted October 02, 2024 06:30 AM            

Sheesh I guess it’s been a pattern of men I tend to attract - men who become unhealthily obsessed with me and think I’m their one and only, who then try to control and cage me. I guess I’m just that amazing to have men fall for me so hard and fast, since it still keeps happening lol.

In all seriousness though, I’ve been through a lot since I made this post in 2015. I went through immense personal growth. I levelled up and became more mature, have better confidence, self love, self esteem, and better ability to be straight up and take no more bull from anymore! I’m 30 now and actively dating again, but I’m being way smarter this time around with whom I give my energy to!

LightandDarkWings,

You do realize people immigrate to other countries and permanently settle there right? I’ve been living in Canada since I was 6 years old, immigrated with my parents who came here via points basis, and attained citizenship with my parents when I was 10. I have no ties to Pakistan apart from being born there (I’m not even ethnically Pakistani, I’m Central Asian/European). I’m Canadian and l’ve been living here for over 20 years. Don’t mean to come off as rude btw, just reminding you that the place you’re born at doesn’t always indicate that’s where you’ll be for the rest of your life, or that it’s what determines your culture. Hope this helps.
That psycho I was dealing with at the time was across the border from me, down in the states, so of course I was concerned for my safety. But thank you for your reply, even though it was 9 years ago and I’m not even sure if you’re even active on the forum still lol.

For those wondering, I had to eventually block that guy, for the sake of my own safety and sanity. Years later he contacted me from a different number, saying he changed and that he broke up with his ex and he wanted to talk again. I wasn’t having any of it and instantly blocked him again and changed my number.

SO MUCH has happened since with other men I met - things that were a lot worse, but by the grace of God/The Universe, I got out of those situations. After enduring a lot of abuse, sexual assault, heartache, pain and a lot of financial loss cause of a scammer ex bf, I came out so much stronger and more resilient (and became more successful and financially blessed)! I’m doing a lot better now, much better than I ever have and I’m happy, thriving and living my best single life! I’m opening myself up to dating and exploring my options, but NEVER settling for less!

Hope this inspires someone out there who is going through a hard time. You WILL come out of this and make it through! There is light at the end of the tunnel! Get help if you need to, level up, work on yourself and surround yourself with positive, supportive individuals who want to see you do good!

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Extream and aversion you are describing must come from Venus sq Pluto. Then annoyance comes from Sun opp. Mars. Your SN opp. his Moon which made you feel familiar at the beginning but you soon turned off. His Saturn on your DSC must be too heavy too.

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