posted May 30, 2024 05:47 AM            

I'm laughing because this Gemini man is now my husband.

posted May 30, 2024 03:44 PM            

( The ascendant and the house may not accurately correct because the exact birth time of my husband is unknown, I only got the information that he was born in the morning, so I did my own research to what closely describe our relationship and perhaps the position of ascendant and the house is like this: )

posted June 04, 2024 08:04 AM            

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Originally posted by hearttreasure:
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posted June 08, 2024 07:17 PM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
thanks for sharing the chart. the Aries stellium looks very nice and positive and the trine with Saturn is solid. I guess once you transformed from the Pluto experience, the Moon square Pluto aspect can be a binding one too? The south node in the 7th seems to be Karmic.

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Oh wow, I didn't notice our south node in the 7th house. Thanks for highlighting it. I don't know whether this has correlation with the south node in 7th house but my husband told me that when he first saw/met me, he felt an immediate comfort and like we had been in a long time relationship before (we were not in a relationship at that time, just having a casual talk when I helped him with a task). I remember I cringed at him. After that he pursued me.

For me, pluto feels binding if you nurture 'the fear' in the relationship: fear of losing the person, fear of losing the relationship, fear of being left out, fear of getting cheated on, fear of the future of the relationship, fear of the opposite sex around our partner, etc. Sometimes it can make a lot of issues around too much of 'analyzing' or 'wanting to go deeper' because 'the fear' is heightened by Pluto. Pluto can trigger your deeper emotions, lets say, maybe the anger you never know you have, the hatred you never know you could do, the love you never know exist (in the meaning of intense, not necessarily the best).

So it really depends on the two people involved, I think it is very important if not two, at least one of you should be really aware of what it is healthy relationship to guide the other and what it is healthy boundaries.

For me, the term of binding is not only about Pluto but also can be found in other good aspect like sun/moon, venus/mars, sun/mercury, etc

In my relationship, I think we have learned that we should let the other person has their own life which means we should learned to put faith in the relationship, we should learned to create healthy boundaries, we should learned to trust each other about their own activities, we should let each other to be their own individual without trying to control them. But I don't know if we have been transformed completely because sometimes the shadow of Pluto is still affecting our relationship.

It is true that the deal breaker of Pluto is a betrayal or cheating. So, the relationship will be 100 times harder if it happens because Pluto is not known as a planet of forgiveness but it will heightened the Fear 100 times especially with the hard aspect. Unfortunately in our relationship my husband did this damage so we had a series of drama and intense situations.

posted August 04, 2024 04:18 AM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
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I was wondering if this is my intuition that my subconscious mind is warning me to run away from an ugly situation OR it's my fear that I haven't dealt with properly and am supposed to overcome...

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It crossed my mind once too and I chose running away, but he always found me.

In my relationship at that time, I think the one who felt more insecure was him than me. I only had a fear if he did the same mistakes AGAIN and the thought of time that wasted because of dealing with that stupidity AGAIN probably would make me so upset to myself for giving more chances.

posted August 06, 2024 07:42 PM            

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Originally posted by hearttreasure:
It crossed my mind once too and I chose running away, but he always found me.

In my relationship at that time, I think the one who felt more insecure was him than me. I only had a fear if he did the same mistakes AGAIN and the thought of time that wasted because of dealing with that stupidity AGAIN probably would make me so upset to myself for giving more chances.

But honestly, this is only based on my personal judgement of aspects because I am looking for a long term relationship and partner (if lucky for the whole life), the time my husband wanted a relationship with me, I was looking into his natal chart to make sure we didn't have: Moon square Moon and/or Mars square Mars and/or too much Pluto hard aspect to personal planets. For me, those things okay for friendship but it's probably hard in a relationship for long term, unless there are a lot of compromising to make.

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Lol i am laughing because I have Moon Square moon with my bf. As well as our Plutos square ACs in DW, Pluto square/opposite Mercury in both ways... I mainly decided to be with him because I feel a strong sense of growth with him, I feel energized and transformed + ing.

posted August 18, 2024 11:41 PM            

My boyfriend called me this morning sobbing saying that he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend at this wedding and was so sorry to me, but he is still in love with me, completely out of nowhere.

posted August 19, 2024 08:23 AM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
Here is an update - Today is supposed to be the gnarliest full moon of the year in Aquarius with mutable Tsquare transit (Saturn 17° in 7H, Mars, Jupiter 17° in 10H, Venus 17° in 1H) & Uranus square Mercury Rx in Virgo. My Natal Virgo Sun(AC) sits at 16° and Natal Uranus(IC) at 14° making tight aspects with those transits creating a Grand Cross. I believe some type of karmic gate opened up to deliver some lessons to me today.

My boyfriend called me this morning sobbing saying that he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend at this wedding and was so sorry to me, but he is still in love with me, completely out of nowhere.

so yeah a prof that Pluto opposite Moon in composite did psychological damage to me. I'm wondering if this is a cheating aspect esp you had that experience too, although yours were square. In our composite, the Sun, Mercury, and Lilith are all in 8H. I've always felt anxious about him but I thought I was handling Pluto by having honest communication with him but he has been hiding something in the back this is a rly dark and shocking turnout. prob no going back.

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I'm sorry to hear that, I feel you. My husband did the same too, cheated on me with his ex (it was complicated though).

I don't think Moon/Pluto in composite is a cheating aspect, I think it is a sign that if you have this aspect in composite, you need and have to be aware of what might be the impact to your mental/psychic about the relationship if what you fear the most in the relationship happens. Natally I have Moon/Jupiter conjunct (expect that my feelings always try to push me to be happy, positive, content, generous, and full of optimism even after the storm/fight), so Moon/Pluto in composite hit me like a sh*t, to be honest I'm not a fan of that aspect but must accept that I live with it, even my daughter has the Moon/Pluto opposition in her natal chart, but since her Moon is in Cancer, in a position of domicile, I understand that home and her close circle (the biggest part is parents) must feel safe, supported, and trusted, to reduce Pluto effect in a future as those what Pluto actually crave, trusted person, trusted environment, even a small circle can make a good impact, imagine a small light in the darkness gives hope.

With Pluto relationship especially if it involves the Moon, I don't think it would be an easy and happy relationship, there must be one moment you deal with the dark side of it.

posted August 19, 2024 09:33 PM            

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The opposition of composite Moon and Pluto is an aspect of extreme emotional intensity, calling forth great involvement and strong feelings.
You certainly won't worry about not having a strong effect on each other; the problem will be to avoid having too strong an effect.
If improperly handled, this combination can give rise to extreme jealousy, struggles for dominance, and excessive possessiveness. As a result, one of you may completely strangle the other's individuality, or at least attempt to do so. If this occurs, the one being dominated will find it very hard to deal with, because the tactics used to dominate will be subversive rather than direct. For example, one of you may appeal to the other's sense of guilt in order to coerce the other. The aggression will often be passive rather than active; that is, the manipulator may pretend to be hurt by the other in order to get his or her way.
Such a situation must be avoided at all costs. The power of this aspect can lead to emotional violence, which could destroy the relationship and leave much bad feeling in its wake. If you are tempted to use these tactics, don't.
Be as straightforward and direct as possible. The results will probably be better than you imagine, and at least they will be less destructive. Every time you win by being manipulative, you actually lose, because the other person is building up a long-lasting reservoir of resentment that may explode when you least expect it.
If you are the victim of such methods by your friend or partner, be direct and call your friend's bluff. Declare that you know what is being done and that vou won't stand for it. If emotional manipulation is being used to prevent you from doing something you have a right to do, say so and go right ahead with your plans. Don't allow yourself to be the victim of any kind of emotional blackmail.

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