posted September 15, 2016 12:20 AM            

It could be completely different for you I would check to see if there Nessus is hitting either your last name or first name or any of the angles or possibly Nessus overlaying any of your houses especially the 1st,4th,7th,8th and 12th.

posted September 16, 2016 12:06 PM            

Honestly, i think his last name conjunct your Chiron might be the one that is the most damaging here because anyone conjunct your Chiron... that's gonna hurt cause Chiron is all about our own wounds and these wounds never heal. which sucks.

Also it seems you and me had the same experience with nessus and dejanira and involving name asteroids. Which is awesome because finally someone can relate to me! for once on lindaland!

so about your nessus in the 3rd house opposite his moon/his name in the 5th i think he feels you might've hurt his feelings However...his dejanira/your nick name/ his chiron conjunct your vertex, he will bring victimization to you, he will bring pain to you and involving only about it when its all about you (your nick name). Conjunctions to the Anti-Vertex is more like you contributing to the abuse, you letting him abuse you or take advantage of you etc. How do i know this? because this person ALSO had my name asteroid/lust/pan/nessus/aphrodite/telephus in there natal chart conjunct my Anti Vertex/Atropos/my Last name in libra in my 1st house. I let this person abuse me and i let them engage in having panic sexuality with me (PAN) because that's what pan is about, pan in mythology was not at all monogamous, pan just wanted to have sex with all these nymphs because he had urges.....

Anyways i hope this helped you in figuring out this kind of abuse. Trust me i feel the same way about this person "why are they breathing why is god letting them walk the earth so proudly?" trust me....i feel the same...but I'm also sure they feel the same about you because again nessus on his moon/his name and his nessus on your ascendant OUCH! they both really hurt but when you get involved in chiron and dejanira man....there is defently manipulation getting involved here.

Do you wanna talk about what happened with your ex fiancé? I'm so sorry that happened to you especially since you both were engaged that mustve hurt a lot . where was his briede or groom and your's by any chance?

Also check out Asteroid Sisyphus he was a huge manipulator but alter got punished for it yay! see where that is as well. 1866

posted September 19, 2016 07:23 PM            

At the end, an ex of mine started getting between us, and with my fiance making advances at his job, he was really turning into another person and gradually became really abusive both verbally and physically towards me."

I' m really sorry to hear what you went through. Now i can see the big picture and yes i do have to agree that sisyphus was defently into play the whole endless loop cycle never ending i can defently see that now that you mention sisyphus to your situation.

To be fair and honest the fact that he has Sisyphus conjunct his Sun ouch! i would not be in a relationship with anyone especially a male who has sun conjunct sisyphus. not good in my opinion. It's like dating someone who has Nessus conjunct the Sun not possible unless you can handle that kind of person/people then maybe its okay for you but its very negative but it also depends what else it is aspecting in the chart but conjunctions are always the strongest no matter if they are caught in a T square or grand cross etc. I also think guy's who have Deianira conjunct the Sun tend to be very abusive towards women as well because the sun is a yang planet, its the ego, now if dejanira is conjunct the moon then this person would not be an abuser in my opinion but i could be wrong...need to update Ami Anne on this.

can you post the composite by any chance? since you mention jealousy and all that I'm curious to see where nessus and dejanira and your names in the composite also lust can be very possessive asteroid.

posted September 19, 2016 08:27 PM            

in my marriage my Nessus was conjunct his Moon, 0degrees. Throughout our whole relationship I felt very unbalanced, and I was prone to emotional manipulation. I acted irrationally, and had a very short fuse. I am not proud of my behaviors with him.

Since leaving him, I apologized to him and have done a 180. Without him in my life, I finally feel stable. I feel like my true self, and I don't react like I did with him. I felt completely emotionally out of control. I cried a lot, was self centered, had a lot of anger, resentment and insecurity. The interactions between the two of us were very unhealthy. We were friends, but we were not true lovers. We were meant to come together to work through issues and of course we have two amazing children, but we were never true lovers.