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posted April 13, 2018 07:46 AM            

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Or when you really miss someone. What aspects in synastry can make you feel this way? There is one person in particular I feel this way about. We aren't in a relationship but the thought of losing them really hurts me a lot. Whenever we argue or stop talking I just feel so sick. It tears me up emotionally. It's scary because I really don't want to lose this person. And sometimes I get jealous if I feel like someone else might cause this person to forget about me. Could be Moon/Pluto or Venus/Pluto.

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posted April 13, 2018 08:02 AM            

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This sounds like it could be a natal thing too or transits affecting your natal or composite with this person. If you have Scorpio or Pluto in your 7th, Venus-Pluto, or moon-Pluto aspects natally and of course strong Scorpio/8th house or cancer/4th in your own natal or composite/synastry with this person, this can cause a great fear and anxiety over losing someone you’ve grown emotionally intimate with and also cause the feelings of jealousy you mentioned. 4th house contacts too cause deep feelings of attachment.
You should post your synastry chart and the composite,
that may help us to be able to give you more answers

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posted April 13, 2018 08:15 AM            

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Moon or Venus to Pluto in synastry does that. Do you have that on yours ? Who is who if you do have it ?

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posted April 13, 2018 09:38 AM            

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I don't think it's only transits to my chart. Because I feel like this all the time. But I'm sure certain transits probably does make it worse. This is my natal chart

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posted April 13, 2018 09:39 AM            

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This is our synastry and composite chart.

Synastry (I'm the outside)

Composite

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posted April 13, 2018 10:01 AM            

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Wow yup, just as I expected, you have a strong 8th house including your Venus and Scorpio IC, this means your emotional attachments run VERY deep, and are extremely hard to let go of (Scorpio IC). He has his moon activing this 4th house energy for you, and also your stellium of 8th house plants in his 4th!
Your composite chart is further emphasizing the deep emotional bond and attachment and feelings of comfort and security/familiarity between you two with the moon conjunct your composite IC and even Pluto on the Ascendant and making hard aspects to the sun and moon!
Your relationship is very deep and intimate/bonded and intense (Pluto in 1st) and the feelings of attachment are very strong with the moon conjunct IC too! The hard Pluto aspects cause feelings of jealousy and possession and not wanting to lose each other because of this strong attachment, anytime we are attached to something that means a dependency, and because of that, a fear and anxiety of losing that thing which we value and gives us feelings of security and comfort and emotional fulfillment.

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posted April 13, 2018 10:08 AM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
Moon or Venus to Pluto in synastry does that. Do you have that on yours ? Who is who if you do have it ?

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The others persons Pluto is on my Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars. I have Moon square Pluto in my own chart. And Moon square Pluto in our composite chart. Makes me really act out. But then right after we argue I want to make up. And I'm always missing this person sometimes the feeling makes me crazy. I've never felt this way with anyone else it's scary. And then I always want sex with this person too. I love the sex I don't know I guess this is probably Pluto.

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Wow yup, just as I expected, you have a strong 8th house including your Venus and Scorpio IC, this means your emotional attachments run VERY deep, and are extremely hard to let go of (Scorpio IC). He has his moon activing this 4th house energy for you, and also your stellium of 8th house plants in his 4th!
Your composite chart is further emphasizing the deep emotional bond and attachment and feelings of comfort and security/familiarity between you two with the moon conjunct your composite IC and even Pluto on the Ascendant and making hard aspects to the sun and moon!
Your relationship is very deep and intimate/bonded and intense (Pluto in 1st) and the feelings of attachment are very strong with the moon conjunct IC too! The hard Pluto aspects cause feelings of jealousy and possession and not wanting to lose each other because of this strong attachment, anytime we are attached to something that means a dependency, and because of that, a fear and anxiety of losing that thing which we value and gives us feelings of security and comfort and emotional fulfillment.

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Thanks for your input sometimes I just really miss this person. And think I'd feel a lot better if I were around them more often.

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@Melinn it's a long story there isn't a DM option here. He and I aren't in a relationship we both live in different states. He's someone I hookup with every now and than. It all started four years ago we met online. We talked for a year online before meeting in person. We were really sexually attracted to each other. That was all I was looking for was just someone I could meet up with for sex. It was suppose to be a one time thing actually. So of course I wanted more after the first time.

And I've just been going to see him every once in awhile. He's having a difficult time financially right now and I've been helping him. So basically I guess it's turned into something else. I'm not in love with him and I don't want anything serious. But I don't want to stop seeing him I'm comfortable with this arrangement. I know it's because of the Venus/Uranus aspect. I really don't think the Venus/Neptune aspect is really a big deal for me. If anything it's the Venus square Uranus and the Venus square Saturn aspects that gives me the most problems.

He still seems to be ok with hooking up with me. But when we argue or when I think about us not talking anymore it makes me so upset. My Saturn is on his Moon and Venus so I know that's another reason why I feel this way. If it were up to me I'd keep him around forever I don't want us to ever lose contact. I've been talking to another guy recently. And even though I like the new guy I just started talking to. I still don't want to end things with this guy.

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And that's another thing I don't know why I have a desire to help him financially. I found out recently that he doesn't even have a place to stay. So I've been helping him so that he at least has money for food etc. It's just a lot I don't mind helping him. I know I'm not obligated to help him. But I'm so use to it now it's hard.

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@Melinn I wish there was a DM option so I could talk to you. I would leave my email but I don't think that's allowed.

You know Moon in Aquarius people are usually said to be detached. Do you think that's true? I am somewhat detached from people. I don't like to show emotions too much honestly. I hardly ever cry in front of people. But I've had sex with someone else in the past and I didn't feel this strongly about that person.

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posted April 14, 2018 07:23 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
The others persons Pluto is on my Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars.

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I don't see that in your synastry chart that you posted?

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posted April 14, 2018 07:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
I don't see that in your synastry chart that you posted?

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I'm on the outside.

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posted April 14, 2018 09:02 PM            

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yes, indeed...I don't see his Pluto aspecting anything in your chart but Neptune, hun...which is not relevant.
And a wide trine to your Mars, that's all/......what do you mean by your post?

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posted April 14, 2018 09:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
yes, indeed...I don't see his Pluto aspecting anything in your chart but Neptune, hun...which is not relevant.
And a wide trine to your Mars, that's all/......what do you mean by your post?

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His Pluto trine my Moon, Mars and is in opposition to my Venus, Mercury and Jupiter and it squares my Neptune. I was asking what causes the intense feeling for someone in synastry. The other people answered my question.

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posted April 14, 2018 09:42 PM            

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ok, look at his Pluto in the synastry wheel. His Pluto has only 2 lines to your planets. One red line to Neptune and one blue line to Mars. these are the only two aspects his Pluto makes to your chart. Neptune doesn't count and Mars is kinda wide but still can count No other aspects. Any other aspect is very wide to be considered effective that's why there are no other lines from his Pluto. No more than 4 degrees orb for Pluto because more than that is not effective.

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ok, look at his Pluto in the synastry wheel. His Pluto has only 2 lines to your planets. One red line to Neptune and one blue line to Mars. these are the only two aspects his Pluto makes to your chart. Neptune doesn't count and Mars is kinda wide but still can count No other aspects. Any other aspect is very wide to be considered effective that's why there are no other lines from his Pluto. No more than 4 degrees orb for Pluto because more than that is not effective.

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Well clearly something is effective otherwise he wouldn't have such an affect on me. The other people who commented did a good job with their explanations. You may not feel that the aspects are effective. But I know I feel something happening. All people are different some people may feel things while others may not. You don't have to agree. I was explaining how I felt towards this person. And I wanted to know what might cause this. That's it.

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posted April 15, 2018 12:21 AM            

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Is Chiron OR Venus - PLuto making any aspects in your transits?

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posted April 15, 2018 01:48 AM            

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Originally posted by astrosaz:
Is Chiron OR Venus - PLuto making any aspects in your transits?

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Transist Chiron is currently conjunct my Venus.

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@Melinn you said our natal charts are similar. Do you have any 8th house placements? What kind of work or career do you have?

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@Melinn you said our natal charts are similar. Do you have any 8th house placements? What kind of work or career do you have?

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Yes I thought "we" would be similar aswell, or, at first I thought we would be similar charecter wise, but that seems to not be the case that much.

However, I believe we have similar themes in our lives

Yes I do have Venus--Jupiter-Nn in my 8th.

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@Melinn Yeah I understand I have a difficult time deciding on my career. I have Chiron on my 10th house. I've read that having that placements makes it difficult for people to pick a career. I went to Massage Therapy school and I like that. But I quit going because the school was too far away. I found another school that's closer. But now I'm in Dental Assisting school. So I can't go back to Massage Therapy school right now. But I'm going back eventually I want to Massage on the side. I don't know if I like Dental I may change to Medical Assisting.

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