posted July 07, 2018 08:13 AM            

My boyfriend and I have a lot of nice aspects in our synastry. I was just wondering if this was one of them or not.
I read Lilith represents something dark. Does he think I'm bad?

posted July 27, 2018 06:29 PM            

For a Man's Sun on a woman's Lilith, his essence would draw this out in her. This part of him highlights or brings out her dark side, the side of her where she is totally free and unattainable, without bounds and where he (or anyone) cannot tame her or "own" her. It's sexy!

If it's his Lilith, she represents this part of him where he sees the type of woman who is unable to be caught. He wants her, wants to "catch" her and "own" her so to speak, but she's not able to be caught.

It can be obsessive for the planet person bcs they so badly want to capture this essence, but it's not possible. Lilith never gives in. Lilith cannot be caught, owned, or tamed.

posted July 29, 2018 09:07 AM            

For me, it was when I was a teen, and I was deeply betrayed, then, my Lilith was activated and got to know myself better. For others, other experiences awaken our Lilith, it doesn't always have to be betrayal. If our Lilith is still dormant, then I believe that in a synastry or chart in general, Lilith won't do much and express itself much. Sun will illuminate Lilith.

But if a relationship has a heavy Lilith theme, the purpose could be to activate each others Lilith and bring it to light so as to be understood.

Often, in a man's chart, it's the type of kinky darkness he wants from a woman.
In a woman's chart, it is who she is capable of being in a darker way.

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
Well Lilith is the part of us that we can't give in on. So who is Lilith and who is Sun?

For a Man's Sun on a woman's Lilith, his essence would draw this out in her. This part of him highlights or brings out her dark side, the side of her where she is totally free and unattainable, without bounds and where he (or anyone) cannot tame her or "own" her. It's sexy!

If it's his Lilith, she represents this part of him where he sees the type of woman who is unable to be caught. He wants her, wants to "catch" her and "own" her so to speak, but she's not able to be caught.

It can be obsessive for the planet person bcs they so badly want to capture this essence, but it's not possible. Lilith never gives in. Lilith cannot be caught, owned, or tamed.

It's sexual, obsessive, and resonant of Moon Pluto. She is the darker side of femininity, but through this power and strength there is much good to be had for the owner. If she is strong in a natal chart or synastry or composite, she needs to be understood to be handled properly. Otherwise, she's wild and can bring on chaos or unfortunate choices.

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Yes to all this^

posted August 01, 2018 11:04 PM            

I feel I know this because I've had these feelings only with two people and checked that I have their Sun and Venus on my lilith and another with Mars on my Lilith.

posted August 02, 2018 08:14 PM            

Those with strong lilith in their natal tend to run in to Lilith in relationships more frequently. IT's an energy they emit and therefore attract. Meeting someone who highlights Lilith in this person serves to encourage the Lilith person to deal with and own this part of themselves. Personally I love Lilith and find her strength and independence empowering.

If Lilith shows up in synastry for people who don't normally have strong Lilith, it can be all consuming and overwhelming. It becomes a strong energy that overpowers other things.

posted August 02, 2018 08:18 PM            

Also, I wonder what you think of Lilith that rests on a man's dsc ? Specifically Pisces-Lilith?[/B][/QUOTE]

posted August 02, 2018 09:11 PM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
Angel brings up a good point. You really need o look at the whole picture, but that should go without saying.

Those with strong lilith in their natal tend to run in to Lilith in relationships more frequently. IT's an energy they emit and therefore attract. Meeting someone who highlights Lilith in this person serves to encourage the Lilith person to deal with and own this part of themselves. Personally I love Lilith and find her strength and independence empowering.

If Lilith shows up in synastry for people who don't normally have strong Lilith, it can be all consuming and overwhelming. It becomes a strong energy that overpowers other things.

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Riiiight on!!

posted August 02, 2018 11:50 PM            

I feel like I am "too strong" for a woman. I'm definitely not his type sexually, so it doesn't help (he has Mars in Cancer). I am usually very confident in my sexuality, but not with him. I admit that do I tone down some aspects of my personality for him, fearing it would turn him off.

posted August 03, 2018 08:41 AM            

I think the Lilith energy scares me a little bit. I am usually terrified of the stuff he tells me about black magick, even though I know it is not completely bad. I also usually get really uncomfortable when he talks about his sexual experiences involving married women and other kinds of "forbidden" sexual relationships in the past. Now that he's committed, it has been quite a struggle trying to get that image of him out of my head. Ever since I started dating him, I got the stigma on myself too. But I know he is not a bad person, and I genuinely love him. In fact, I am the voice of reason when he is meddling with something he shouldn't be. I think this is also a manifestation of Lilith on my Sun.

posted August 03, 2018 07:16 PM            

Does your Lilith trine his moon?

I can confirm the Lilith conjunction sun description. He does need to be careful about using magic. It’s powerful and with this conjunction he needs to stay clean and upright. In the second house in Leo it’s going to be about power of the self, and likely through obtaining material objects as proof or validation. Lilith fights for justice, so here he will have a strong sense to fight for his own personal justice. With a natal trine from Saturn I feel like this gives him the discipline and determination to not give up, to plod slowly and steadily away at his aims. Your Pluto completing the grand trine gives him more stability and the ability to affect this justice in his life through the change you bring to him.

posted August 05, 2018 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
Can you post the chart where I can see the orbs? Or post the two separate natal charts? I need to see the degrees of the asteroids too.

Does your Lilith trine his moon?

I can confirm the Lilith conjunction sun description. He does need to be careful about using magic. It’s powerful and with this conjunction he needs to stay clean and upright. In the second house in Leo it’s going to be about power of the self, and likely through obtaining material objects as proof or validation. Lilith fights for justice, so here he will have a strong sense to fight for his own personal justice. With a natal trine from Saturn I feel like this gives him the discipline and determination to not give up, to plod slowly and steadily away at his aims. Your Pluto completing the grand trine gives him more stability and the ability to affect this justice in his life through the change you bring to him.

You mentioned you are stabilizing to him, I sense this is partially why. I really like the Jupiter trine venus aspect between you, and even the moon opposite moon. I do feel like this provides balance and a lightness to his intensity. But I can understand how this makes you feel uncomfortable. It is a burden to you feeling like you are the line of good and evil for him, maybe? And he feels safe with you so he exposes some of his darker side to you, which you’re not so sure of. Moon opposite moon is working here too bcs you both handle things very differently. Cap moons are very practical and pragmatic, so he can be very black and white about what he is doing and what he has done. You on the other hand are responding to the emotion his actions and experiences bring up in you. This is part of the growth and testing of the relationship, expanding personal boundaries and awareness as well as learning to define your own limits.

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Yeah, this is all true. I do feel that I balance him out. His curiosity gets him a lot, could land him in trouble. He used to go too far with everything he studies before we even dated.

posted August 05, 2018 04:53 PM            

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So he's not at all sexually attracted to you, or you him, yet you are in a romantic relationship?

Do you mean you don't find him physically attractive? Because attraction can happen through energy too.

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Idk how to really explain this, but let me give you an example.

He likes sweet innocent-looking girls (Mars in Cancer) in bed. They turn him on. He's not very much into girls who are sexually provocative or girls who own their sexuality. He likes shy types in bed.

It frustrates me because I'm not like that. I have Mars in Libra in the 5th house. I enjoy sex. I own my sexuality. I don't show it outright like Mars in Aries would. But I like to tease. He's not into that. He likes girls who are completely oblivious that something sexual is going on. He doesn't condone rape but likes it when he knows it's only roleplay. I like men that I can tease.

Idk what most people would call this. Our sex life is lackluster because of this.

We still do it, but not how most couples who are sexually compatible would do it.

posted August 06, 2018 06:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
Idk how to really explain this, but let me give you an example.

He likes sweet innocent-looking girls (Mars in Cancer) in bed. They turn him on. He's not very much into girls who are sexually provocative or girls who own their sexuality. He likes shy types in bed.

It frustrates me because I'm not like that. I have Mars in Libra in the 5th house. I enjoy sex. I own my sexuality. I don't show it outright like Mars in Aries would. But I like to tease. He's not into that. He likes girls who are completely oblivious that something sexual is going on. He doesn't condone rape but likes it when he knows it's only roleplay. I like men that I can tease.

Idk what most people would call this. Our sex life is lackluster because of this.

We still do it, but not how most couples who are sexually compatible would do it.

I find him quite attractive but not in a sexual way. The way he is with sex brings down my confidence in my sexuality. I have always struggled through life with people saying I need to be softer, less outspoken, less assertive, etc. They want me to be more feminine but it's not in my nature. He knows this and doesn't force me to be. He only like damsels in distress for sex, not so much for relationships. He finds strong women a better suit for him romantically.

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What he does to your sexual confidence feels like a harsh saturn mars aspect. I struggle with the bi-wheel charts bcs I like to see degrees, but you actually sound like a strong Lilith Sun person. Your experiences in your life where you are "too" strong and need to tone it down sound very Lilith like.

He has lessons to learn with Lilith too, which is likely why you two found your way to each other. And perhaps the fact that he is strongly connected to his own lilith is challenging you to be yours. I found integrating and accepting Lilith in my youth was much more of an issue, whereas now I can handle and use her energy positively.

posted February 25, 2019 06:43 PM            

Around the beginning of when we met, I was with someone else born a week later than him, still with Saturn on my Mars (not quite as close) and still in my 8th but it was some of the hottest sex of my life! I didn't like the guy emotionally AT ALL but just having the degrees change over the course of 1 week, it got rid of a lot of the Saturn/Mars energy both in synastry & composite. What a difference!

Because not only was my guy's Saturn on my Mars, mine was loosely opposite his, creating a wide Saturn square Mars in composite. He has exalted Mars in 5th and I have Mars in 8th so it was a letdown to say the least. After almost 3 years, we could just never get it together. Sooooo frustrating but the that pull of Saturn was strong. Over time, his criticism of me lessened and he got more comfortable & less harsh/uptight around me but ultimately, I think the composite really made it impossible.