posted February 10, 2019 08:48 PM            

It's a bit of a different style though.

With one (them being the Moon) I feel a bit awkward around and certainly act different. It's like a sense of awe I guess?

posted February 16, 2019 02:26 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
@MarsSaturnDelight it was good I enjoyed it but I don’t feel like I can’t walk away. Well maybe the feeling hasn’t kicked in yet since it hasn’t been that long. He was good though but I’m not going to let myself get attached.

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Haha, thanks for the update.

posted February 16, 2019 02:42 PM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
Haha, thanks for the update.

You might just be able to walk away, who knows? Nothing is set in stone. Enjoy.

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posted February 17, 2019 09:28 AM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
It has begun.......

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posted February 17, 2019 10:40 AM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
I actually enjoy his company it’s not all about the sex. We can actually hangout and not have sex that's what I mean.

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posted February 17, 2019 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
Again, this aspect is not only about sex. It’s also about connecting on a deep emotional level.

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posted February 17, 2019 12:05 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Yeah I get that but I don't want things to be too emotional between us that it dampers the fun. We have a lot of 11th house overlays and it's just fun hanging out with him. I just want to enjoy the fun I don't need the heavy 8th house emotional stuff.

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There may not be, without seeing the rest of the chart(s), moon in 8th may play second fiddle to more prominent energies, both natal and in synastry. So the 8th house stuff may not play out in full force.

But the more you force things for whatever reason, the less organic the connection will be. Thus robbing you of a truly unique life experience.

posted February 17, 2019 12:23 PM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
There may not be, without seeing the rest of the chart(s), moon in 8th may play second fiddle to more prominent energies, both natal and in synastry. So the 8th house stuff may not play out in full force.

But the more you force things for whatever reason, the less organic the connection will be. Thus robbing you of a truly unique life experience.

Just let it play out, let your natal show. Which it sounds like you want anyway.

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This is our synastry I’m the outside.

posted February 20, 2019 03:10 AM            

He is activating you 8th house quite strongly.
-all 8th house planets aspected, hard to
- 8th house ruler(s): Neptune aspected by Pluto, and traditional ruler Jupiter not only sits in your 8th, but is in square to His mars.

Your Aquarian moon is also squared by his Pluto too. Wowcher.

posted February 20, 2019 06:03 AM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
When I look at your chart, you have quite an 8th house influence, in your natal.

He is activating you 8th house quite strongly.
-all 8th house planets aspected, hard to
- 8th house ruler(s): Neptune aspected by Pluto, and traditional ruler Jupiter not only sits in your 8th, but is in square to His mars.

Your Aquarian moon is also squared by his Pluto too. Wowcher.

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posted February 20, 2019 06:29 AM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
[b]When I look at your chart, you have quite an 8th house influence, in your natal.

He is activating you 8th house quite strongly.
-all 8th house planets aspected, hard to
- 8th house ruler(s): Neptune aspected by Pluto, and traditional ruler Jupiter not only sits in your 8th, but is in square to His mars.

Your Aquarian moon is also squared by his Pluto too. Wowcher.

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Why, are you intimate with this other guy? Or is he just a friend?

If it’s the former, then he may be curious. If it’s that latter, he may be curious, maybe jealous.

posted February 20, 2019 08:07 AM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
Why, are you intimate with this other guy? Or is he just a friend?

If it’s the former, then he may be curious. If it’s that latter, he may be curious, maybe jealous.

Whether it’s a good sign or not, remains to be seen. Could just be wanting to learn more about you.

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posted February 20, 2019 12:41 PM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
Why, are you intimate with this other guy? Or is he just a friend?

If it’s the former, then he may be curious. If it’s that latter, he may be curious, maybe jealous.

Whether it’s a good sign or not, remains to be seen. Could just be wanting to learn more about you.

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posted February 26, 2019 01:48 AM            

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This is our synastry I’m the outside.

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posted February 26, 2019 05:47 AM            

I decided now that it would be a great idea to hook up with some random stranger, I found on Tinder (like okCupid) .. 🙈best way to get over my Ex for good, so I thought. And it actually worked .. at least for now.

I have this aspect with this new guy. It’s my 8th house and his Moon!

On our first meeting I was relaxed with no expectations, and felt quite confident about myself, too .. and then he entered the room, and my confidence just vanished! I didn’t know what hit me, really.

I suddenly became so nervous, talking nonsense, grinning the whole time like some teenage girl, ..He was just calm, while I talked myself into a hot mess! Within the first 20 minutes I told him everything about my ex, our baby, my hormonal changes! Now writing this makes me cringe .. so embarrassing. I wished so badly that he would just kiss me, so I could finally shut up. I spilled my tea, literally and figuratively..he asked if I was okay... about 3 times the whole evening!! 🙈🤪 When a guy asks this, it’s usually not good. At least he was laughing!

The story has a twist though:
When he escorted me to my car, and we started kissing, it was an incredible rush. We were on equal ground there. The connection felt so deep and intense. Surprisingly everything just felt right! We had sex by the end of the week, and it was just unbelievably amazing. Everything just felt so genuine and right, tender and passionate. It’s the kind of sex i’ve had with my ex, only after having known each other a lot better, and that connnection was meaningful as well. But this was instant compatibility! Mutually felt. He told me how amazed he felt, that he’d never experienced a connection like that, this fast! He told me he feels like I see him exactly the way he is. And I also feel like I know him.. like i’ve figured him out already.
Unfortunately I told him that i’m not looking for anything serious..after having mind-blowing sex the whole night! I said it in a casual way, and regretted it instantly. I don’t even know why I said it. It just slipped. I guess I felt vulnerable and needed to take control over the whole situation! He said “alright”.. but was quite irritated.
After that he started distancing himself a bit.. so it feels. And now I’m obsessing over it. And of course I’m retreating as well. So I’m acting casual, and he’s casual, too now. He texts me every day to wish me a good morning. We talk about our day and the weather. Everything’s just fine the whole time.🙈 But when we meet again, we’re so close. It’s almost like we’re different people. If I think about it now, the situation is exactly what I was looking for in the beginning! I think this aspect is responsible for me wanting more and sending mixed messages the whole time.

So from my experience:
It is a powerful aspect. As the house person I feel very much affected! He had an instant impact on me. I feel exposed around him, vulnerable, like I cannot hide anything from him.

He felt attracted to me right from the beginning, but the intensity only came after we had this make out session. He feels the connection as deeply as I do, but I think he has the upper hand after all.. in the sense that it might be easier for him to leave. But this might be my own insecurity talking.

Now I must say, i’m quite Plutonian. So obsessing about someone or something is part of my personality.

Other aspects:
My Pluto conj his SN
His sun/moon midpoint(in 8th) conj my NN(in 7th)
My sun/moon midpoint (in6th) conj his NN (in7th)
His Vertex conj my Dsc
His Juno conj my anti-Vertex
His Psyche conj my Vertex and Moon in 8th house
His Asc conj my Juno
His Sun conj my Eros/Psyche conj
His Venus conj my Venus/Mars/Lilith conj
His Mars trine my Venus/Mars/Lilith conj
Sun in 5th house DW
My Sun conj his Jupiter in 5th
His Venus in my 5th
My Venus in his 7th

About his Moon in my 8th house: (synastry aspects)
Pluto trine his Moon
Sun trine his Moon
Mercury trine his Moon
Asc trine his Moon
Venus/Mars square his Moon
Neptune opp his Moon
Juno square his Moon

Our composite isn’t that great:
Uranus square Sun is the most exact aspect
The rest is also rather underwhelming, beside a Moon/Pluto trine and a Jupiter/Mars/Eros conj in 4th house (1degree)
Sun is in 5th house
Vertex in 8th
NN in 7th conj Lilith / SN in 1st conj Juno
This will be an intense fling, I guess!

So actually that’s what I was expecting at the beginning of my online dating journey. But now I’m developing feelings for him, while at the same time hoping to just get away. I can imagine that 8th house stuff produces contradicting feelings.

posted February 26, 2019 02:07 PM            

It’s interesting because in my particular situation I basically did the same, though I am the house person. I told him that I’m not interested in anything serious, that I’m only looking for a good time.

posted February 26, 2019 05:44 PM            

Thanks so much for sharing your story! So interesting because certain things you mention very much reminds me of the story with "my" 8th house man (I'm the moon person). Can I ask which house your moon falls in his chart? And why do you think he has the upper hand? Reading your story sounded to me like he must think the exact opposite. He initially opened up with you telling you how special he felt your connection was for him...and you tell him you only want something casual. From his perspective you pushed him away first. It was interesting that you said how you are giving off very mixed signals. That was very much what I felt about the 8th house man...and always contradictory. Your first encounter i.e. make out session very much sounded like my experience with him...and also the fact that we each became defensive the next time..Also, very similar experience like you reg. opening up to each other. Even though we basically were strangers he told me all about his break up with his ex, his depression, his writer's block and his difficult relationship with his parents the first time we were alone..I shared very painful details about the death of my Mum I havent even discussed with very close friends..go figure.

posted February 27, 2019 02:46 PM            

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@childofvenus
Why did you want to be friends with benefits? Was it something you actually intended or was it due to insecurity on your part?

It’s interesting because in my particular situation I basically did the same, though I am the house person. I told him that I’m not interested in anything serious, that I’m only looking for a good time.

I actually was.. before I met him.. then developed feelings in an instant. I’m wondering if this aspect produces lots of conflicting feelings. Like you start wanting this person, despite knowing that it’s not the right place and time for that. (?)

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posted February 27, 2019 02:51 PM            

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Yes because he’s a Gemini and I know they aren’t faithful. And also because I like being friends first. I do like him though but I’ll never tell him. Not unless he tells me he likes me first. But even still I don’t think I’d get romantically involved. Because Gemini’s don’t like commitment I don’t see them as the long term relationship type.

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