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Topic: Venus conjunct North Node Synastry- anyone have it in a long term relationship?
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cultstatus
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posted February 19, 2019 03:28 AM
  
Does anyone actually have this in a long term relationship?Was it super challenging to get together? Did it take a while? IP: Logged |
Plut0nian2
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posted February 19, 2019 05:17 AM
It's a shame I had this a few times but I can't say much about it other than the NN person being very attracted to the Venus person. I've read that this aspect means that the natives won't be able to be together for a long time.. it's more like they meet in this life in order to be together in the next one. Even though it's intense and it shows the NN person how to follow his path it doesn't seem to lead to a long lasting relationship. Some say if you have both NN and SN synastry contacts it can work. I had both SN and NN contacts to Venus and Mars but again I can not say much about it because I couldn't actually be with anyone, so all I ever had was a platonic relationship with them. I don't think it's the NN conjunct Venus to blame but it possibly played its role in that. If the NN person is ready to learn from the Venus person then it should be ok. That sounds easy but in reality our NN makes us feel uncomfortable unless we have supportive aspects to it natally. Otherwise it's difficult.
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cultstatus
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posted February 19, 2019 05:27 AM
We’re you north node or Venus? This is my first experience with it. I’m currently NN. I’m not ready for the relationship. But I feel like I’m falling for him. I feel like I’m supposed to be with him. The timing is just not right. I wonder if it ever will be. It’s so consuming I can’t think of anything but him. IP: Logged |
Plut0nian2
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posted February 19, 2019 08:48 AM
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Originally posted by cultstatus:
We’re you north node or Venus? This is my first experience with it. I’m currently NN. I’m not ready for the relationship. But I feel like I’m falling for him. I feel like I’m supposed to be with him. The timing is just not right. I wonder if it ever will be. It’s so consuming I can’t think of anything but him.
This!
Exactly the way I felt.. Keep in mind that I'm never ready for a relationship anyway, but I felt like this too and the pull is strong.. like it is meant to be, there seems to be a reason that person came inti your life. You just feel it. (I have NN in 7th H so I guess it's even more intense maybe)
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cultstatus
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posted February 19, 2019 03:01 PM
Anyone in a relationship have this?IP: Logged |
implosions
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posted February 19, 2019 03:28 PM
Not a romantic relationship, but I have this aspect with my younger brother, and it plays out like it's been said so far! (We're both in our mid/late 20s). I am the Venus (which is tightly conjunct Sun/Pluto/Mercury) and he is the NN.Although lots of love were there growing up, I grew up feeling very distant from my brother. there were outside circumstances that kept us from connecting at a young age, and it wasn't until the past year or so (he was 22-25, which I always see as when the NN begins to shake the dust off to have real steam after age 30/Saturn Return), that we really started to connect. It's really fascinating on my end to see him grow from a steady, stubborn and quiet Taurus SN, into a more probing, curious and willingness to take baby steps into the dark unknown of his Scorpio NN. He comes to me with questions or finds things I do naturally something to run with and find his own curiosity, etc. It's still growing, of course, but the trajectory of tentative steps towards really building something (in a healthy way) is fascinating! IP: Logged |
cultstatus
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posted February 19, 2019 04:27 PM
I’ve just gone through and checked all of my other synastries and I’ve got it with three of my best friends - one being my oldest friend. I don’t think I’ve ever fought with two of them and I fight with everyone! The third is like a sister and though I do get frustrated when she doesn’t give her all to our friendship I always forgive her. I just want her in my life, always. It’s such a deep, loving bond that never dies, we always come back to each other. Actually I just double checked and we have it double whammy, the one like a sister. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with how it manifests between you and your brother. But I’m specifically interested in anyone having this in a love context, as I just want to know if this cat and mouse game will ever end. I really do want to be with him. IP: Logged |
implosions
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posted February 19, 2019 05:52 PM
I would say it could be a hard one in a romantic sense- because the NN is usually somewhere we go back and forth from (as the nodes need balance). I'd say if both parties are inclined to a lot of freedom in their learning and attachment, it could work. I would also say it would be more stable later in life- usually early 20s aren't a great time for a healthy commitment with the NN because of it's nature of 'just learning to explore'.IP: Logged |
Einfühlung
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posted February 19, 2019 07:41 PM
Not in a relationship but I did have this in synastry with a love interest that I cut ties with real recently. I’m the north node person and it’s in Scorpio. It was very transforming. I’ve learned a lot about myself from him in matters of love. That I get too lost in the other person and lose myself in the process. For some reason I felt emotions I rarely felt before. I was really paranoid and angry from his actions(probably from the harsh Saturn and mars aspects), but it made me reflect and dig in deeper as to why I felt the feelings I had. I’m still not sure if it was subconsciously coming from a trauma I had in the past or the synastry. Other than that I learned to accept and work on my traumas and flaws and to look at things from different perspectives. After I cut off contact to heal from him, I self reflected and had a major revelation. That I am really really bad at love. Until now I didn’t know most people think 3 months is long enough to take the next step into starting a relationship. I always wondered why my sister said that I take too long when it came to these things. All my life I thought it was normal that people had to know someone for at least a year or so before moving things further(not even sure if it’s my Taurus sun moon and mercury to blame lol). I think because I was taking so long he thought things weren’t going anywhere and started looking elsewhere and on my end I was wondering why he was suddenly pulling away after showing me very high interest for a few months. I thought maybe he was really occupied with things. I was really surprised when he confessed that he moved on to someone else without telling me for a while. It really felt like he lead me on but in the end it was the opposite and communication issues. In the end maybe we could have worked out, but turned out I really wasn’t ready. But I don’t know since this revelation is still new to me. Maybe I’m wrong and he was the type that moved on really fast from boredom. I’m not sure if we’ll end up together. He said he wanted to be friends. Maybe out of guilt. I declined and said I need to get over him before that happens(because I know if I see him with them I would feel really hurt and embarrassed) But once I get over someone I’m done with them in the potential of becoming lovers. But with this revelation I’m not sure about that anymore, at least with him. Anyway, this was a very powerful connection. And I’m really thankful of him. Talk about perception, right?
I think if I was really ready, things could have turned out great between us. We could have had a long term relationship. IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted February 19, 2019 08:30 PM
My sister and her ex-husband have the conjunction. Her NN his Venus. They were together for 20+ years, since high school. IP: Logged |
Plut0nian2
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posted February 20, 2019 06:44 AM
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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
My sister and her ex-husband have the conjunction. Her NN his Venus. They were together for 20+ years, since high school.
How tight is the aspect? Does ypur sister have natal North Node aspects (conjunction and trines?) IP: Logged |
Plut0nian2
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posted February 20, 2019 07:01 AM
Einfühlung I'm very slow too.. Each one is different. Don't feel rushed just because others seem to move in a faster pace.. By being slow you actually see who is worth it for you and who is not. If he gets so bored in the first phase which is supposed to be the best one then imagine what he would do later. Divorces and cheating rates are too high anyway. If someone leaves in 3 months just because you're slower or something like that, he is simply not interested enough in you.. he is more interested to f*ck/marry/have kids or whatever else. Your North Node in Scorpio is wanting you to learn to let go. Learn to lose people you love, learn to transform learn to let yourself completely with someone you love. It depends also on what house it's in IP: Logged |
HieronymusTush
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posted February 20, 2019 09:49 AM
I have this with two best friends. We find each other again and again throughout the years and somehow I feel like our life paths keep growing in parallel, or compatible, manners.Also had this in a relationship of 7 years where I was the NN person. To this day I feel the same about them, that although the love and connection have faded, that our life paths are not that far off. IP: Logged |
athenaia
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posted February 20, 2019 10:13 AM
I have this in my relationship. A wide NN/Venus conjunction (me being the NN), and then a tight SN/Venus conjunction (me being the Venus). The signs are in Aquarius and Aries, respectively We've been together 3 years, have known each other for 14 years. We broke up briefly in the summer but got back together a few months later. Pls don't quote IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted February 20, 2019 10:33 AM
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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
How tight is the aspect? Does ypur sister have natal North Node aspects (conjunction and trines?)
It’s 3° away and the only aspect his Venus makes to her chart. She only has an out of sign trine to her NN/Pluto. IP: Logged |
Einfühlung
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posted February 20, 2019 04:14 PM
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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
[b]Einfühlung I'm very slow too.. Each one is different. Don't feel rushed just because others seem to move in a faster pace.. By being slow you actually see who is worth it for you and who is not. If he gets so bored in the first phase which is supposed to be the best one then imagine what he would do later. Divorces and cheating rates are too high anyway. If someone leaves in 3 months just because you're slower or something like that, he is simply not interested enough in you.. he is more interested to f*ck/marry/have kids or whatever else. Your North Node in Scorpio is wanting you to learn to let go. Learn to lose people you love, learn to transform learn to let yourself completely with someone you love. It depends also on what house it's in[/B]
Thanks for the reassurance and input. My north node is in the 6th house and both our Venus is in the 12th. It did seem he was more interested in marrying and having kids after telling me about how he wanted kids and telling me the names he has for them. This was about 2.5 months into knowing each other and hanging out. I had a sense he’s only interested in his own needs after telling me that, and it was like he was trying to force those opinions on me without caring about how I felt about it. I was put off about it honestly. Maybe it’s his progressed moon that just moved into Libra at that time lol. I will know for sure if he’s still like this after it moves to Scorpio after a couple years. But who knows if we’ll be in touch by that time. He’s already moved in with them within two months of being together and he’s already been cheated on by them, yet he’s still staying with them because he begged to work things out with the cheater. I don’t know if it’s because he’s still really in love or too dependent or what. He says when it’s good it’s really good but when it’s not it’s really not. He says they remind him a lot of me. Ive never met them so I don’t know(I heard them in the background of our phone call and they sounded immature. but who knows if they’re really like that)He said we’re both ambitious and other superficial things. At this point I don’t believe the things he says anymore. I realized both of us needs some growing up to do on our own issues separately before interacting with each other again
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cultstatus
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posted February 20, 2019 04:58 PM
Athenaia was it hard for you guys to get together timing wise? IP: Logged |
Stellia
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posted February 20, 2019 08:01 PM
Another vote here for 'not in a relationship...yet' 😁It's a life-changing contact, whether or not we end up getting a proper shot at it. His NN exact on my Venus (and my sun/moon midpoint within less than 1deg); my NN conjunct his moon. Both NNs in our 7th houses, too, as it happens. The timing's not right. Still. But we remain very close. Our friendship has taught me what unconditional love actually means. Love without attachment. Maybe it'll work out, maybe it won't. We have a lot of other strong contacts so there's still a hope we might get it together. But right now, he's not ready. (He's the NN) IP: Logged |
athenaia
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posted February 20, 2019 09:36 PM
@Cultstatus, yes it was. We first met in 2005, stopped being in each other's circle in 2007, briefly ran into each other in 2013, then by chance entered the same place of work in 2015. We were both in a relationship at the time, eventually our relationships dissolved, we got together in early 2016. Then summer of 2018 we broke up for 5 months and have been back together since. So things were not always aligned between us Pls don't quote IP: Logged |
cultstatus
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posted February 20, 2019 10:11 PM
Wow, thank you so much for sharing. Did you feel that you would eventually end up in a relationship through the years apart?I met this person start of 2016, he just got out of a long term relationship and wasn’t interested so the communication just stopped. But for me it was the closest thing to love at first sight I’ve experienced. Then, as soon as I moved from that city mid 2018 he tracked me down and started pursuing it and now I’m not ready at all to deal with it due to trying to build stability and my career. I’m moving from this city at the end of March and he’s coming to this city for a month in April. It’s kind of laughable how divinely misguided it is. IP: Logged |
ana_bee
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posted February 21, 2019 10:32 AM
I‘ve experienced 3 instances of this aspect.Once I was the Venus (Aries) person. The attraction was mutual and initially very intense. I pursued him. I made the first step, and he followed. But I somehow lost interest. It was an affaire years ago. We were both involved in long-term relationships. After seeing our situation realistically I realized there was too much at stake. It still changed both of us: we did break up with our partners eventually after some time.. Falling for him made me realize that my relationship was over, and he experienced the same effect.. it just took a while to follow through. In two other instances something similar happened with two friends of mine. Hot attraction, yearning and longing, but it never materialized into anything substantial.
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Plut0nian2
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posted February 21, 2019 05:59 PM
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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
It’s 3° away and the only aspect his Venus makes to her chart. She only has an out of sign trine to her NN/Pluto.
Do they have any SN synastry aapects? IP: Logged |
Plut0nian2
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posted February 21, 2019 06:35 PM
Einfühlung Your NN in Scorpio in 6th H may mean that it would be good for you to work by helping other people, like a psychologist/surgeon/massager some kind of Scorpio healing. I don't have experience with this NN placement so I'm kind of guessing since 6th H is our routine (work/job/school/daily life) NN maybe makes it a bit challenging for you. To be honest it was more than obvious to me from your first comment that he just wanted someone to do kids with. You deserve better than that. And since he didn't care about your opinions and tried to change your mind about it, it seems that he was quite obsessed with having kids. Just him moving so fast to another is enough to understand that he wasn't really interested in you. And that BS about her reminding him of you is probably something he does to keep your hopes up in case things don't work out with her. If he liked you enough he would stay with you instead of finding someone that reminds him of you. Yet she is cheating and he is staying trying to make things work.. But he couldn't wait for you even though you wanted him. Please don't ever think to do smth you don't feel ready to do just for someone's else sake. Especially if it's something that will completely change your life like a kid. Take that "not feeling ready" as a sign. It's probably your intuition. Even if you never feel ready it means it's better that way for you. There are many more women who regret doing things they didn't feel ready for in order to not lose someone or because they were getting old etc. I wish they would admit how much they regret things they've done but since it's not socially accepted they pretend to be happy. Your sister may be less emotional than you for example. If you decide to marry someone and have kids with him it will be something that will kind of ruin your already difficulr daily life if he is emotionally neglecting you. Anyway I think you did well, mourn as much as you need to and then move on. I would recommend to cut contact with him because it makes it even more difficult for you.
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Einfühlung
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posted February 25, 2019 07:54 PM
@Plut0nian2thanks for the help. i've been feeling really lost lately in regards of career and thinking about changing into a different one. right now i'm doing graphic design on the side while helping with my family business. the career change i'm looking into is in the health field and takes about 6 years of school. i'll be around 31 by then but better late than never. it's still young i think. it's not for sure that i will make that career change though. we'll see as for him i stopped contact right as he told me the truth and after a couple hours of conversation clarifying what he did. i think we're both not ready. we're in our 20's and 20's is still a time to learn about ourselves in order to grow and mature so that we can be sure of what we really truly want in life IP: Logged |
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