posted December 20, 2019 08:49 PM            

I met this person recently, and he is already talking marriage and kids lol... I felt a connection of some sort, BUT physically he is not my type...

I know that its too fast to even think of marriage, but a part of me likes it that he does want and think about those things. However, I just can't seem to get over how I don't find him attractive...but I am kind of selling it to myself in my head...which means I do like something about him to be doing that

posted December 20, 2019 09:13 PM            

Oh I now see the reason for Composite Mars/Pluto in the twelve, with you not finding him attractive! Since it's the unearthly 12th house, I am afraid this feeling is not going to change for you.
This might also explain Composite Chiron in 7th opposite Neptune, as it apparently looks like a very positive, even potentially "perfect" union, but missing a deep core elements for intimacy... also, Comp Jupiter in 6th quincunx Uranus might point to the more "physical" issue as a reason for emotional coldness...

Dont know what to say my friend. This has happened to me long time ago, with someone who has become my best friend of a lifetime... it all seemed perfect between us, he looked like my perfect ideal man, and he was madly in love with me... but, not matter what, I clould not feel the physical attraction/chemistry...

Composite Jupiter in 6th trine to Venus might suggest that with time you might actually get closer in an intimate way and a balance between the good and the bad, so I would not rule out that, even though you might not be completely drawn to him at physical level, some deep affection can develope and what's missing can be replaced from more important aspects of your relationship.

posted December 20, 2019 09:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Saggy7:
Stoika, I would so love it if you could look at the charts of an ex who I also recently got in touch with... I don't know his exact time of birth, I could just put noon or unknown?
And can I post it here instead of starting a new thread?

I am really curious about him and I what is it that occasionally puts us in touch even though we argue over just about anything..

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posted December 20, 2019 10:48 PM            

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Who’s who?
Is the female or male on the inside? and are both time of births accurate?

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Hi Luna! I always put my birth info first, so not sure if that puts me inside or outside

posted December 22, 2019 05:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Well, yes, he's Aries Sun and Venus/NN square to your Venus, and with Composite Mars square Venus it is very possible that he finds excitiment in pursuing you and then he would lose his interest once he makes you "his", so I think this is a man who needs to be constantly inspired to long for a woman and chase her, and with those aspects it is especially so with you. But there is a very strong attraction and passion between the two of you that can be contsnatly fueled, although this implies also arguments, fights and on-off dynamics. I would think you might be the one to get more obsessive cause you have Mars and Moon conjunct Pluto/ASC it all in Scorpio, so your feelings are very intense and romantically you need to keep control of the situation, but with his independent/enterprising nature he would impose his own life style/needs and would react against your control issues, especially with his Mars falling in your 12th house you might feel and fear to lose such control over him and the rrlationship. But you natally seem to need a lot of passion in romantic relationships and also a balance between stable committment and your own independence, cause with your Sun/Saturn/Uranus you do have your own balance/stability but with NN being square to this you might find hard to adjust your own inner balance within a romantic relationship, i.e. something in your relationships never completely match your own expectation and you cant find the right harmony between your inner nature and the other person's... in a way that your intense feeling and draw is never completely fulfilled by the other for one reason or the other... Your Mars/Moon/ASC would ask for a man with plutonian qualities but also a more venusian one like a Taurus, cause your 7th house is ruled by Venus, but also with independent/intellectual skills that would inspire your outgoing but passionate spirit, so you also need some "fire" elements in a man, I believe. Of course fire and water is not easy to put together and you might always bump into some contraddiction in relationships, unless you are able to downsize a little your expectation for fireworks to enjoy a more stable situation, and from this perspective I think that with your capricorn Venus, an man with a earthly Sun, Venus or Mars might be a good match for you.

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Dear Stoika!! Thank you! ❤

So we actually have both Sun-NN and Venus-NN square in composite?
Nice, Ive read good things about NN-Venus contacts, obviously it would probably be better if it wasn't a square.

When you say "with these aspects it is especially so with you"...does it mean that the aspects we have show his longing for me?

And O M G! Yes, I do need a lot of passion and intensity but same time I sometimes like things to be light hearted, especially in the beginning of getting to know someone. I've had men coming on too strong, too intense and I didnt like it. It has to be a special kind of intensity that works for me I guess...

I loved reading the part about my inner balance vs the balance in a relationship. Very insightful, Stoika! And eye opening and its true! And also at the end when you say, its never good enough for me/high expectations etc etc...all true!!! That's exactly where a lot of my sensitivity or hurt feelings come from when partners don't live up to my expectation.

This ex actually has a Cap Mars along with that Aries Sun and Venus.

Stoika, would you say that him and I have more potential based on the chart or guy nr2 (Sag sun, Scorpio Venus and Pisces mars from my old thread).