posted October 28, 2022 10:23 AM            

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Originally posted by MissBo24:
Can you tell me does it feel like to be the planet person? This guy has Venus Mars Mercury in my 8th house, I am the house person and I feel pretty drawn, obsessed and can’t let go of the planet person.

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Hi! When we first met i felt very natural and comfortable with him. It wasn’t big incredible sparks, just super pleasant. It was actually both of our longest first dates - we spent the whole date together. Initially, I didn’t perceive him as particularly sexy. Our first kiss he was sort of shy, but by the end of the date our kiss goodbye was so steamy magical i was taken off guard. He insisted to see me again asap. And we were inseparable from that day. I felt very much his interest in me, maybe it did feel a bit obsessive, but it also just felt so romantic. The courting was like nothing I had ever experienced. He actually did say he can’t get me off his mind. We became exclusive within a month and he told me that he loved me within two and that he had felt he loved me within two weeks of us dating. He had a trip planned for europe and invited me to come all expenses paid because he didn’t want to be without me for that month.

Its important that i set the stage because so much of what i felt had to do with his actions. The courting, the initiative, the investment. I felt completely in love and certain that this was it, this was the one. I didn’t feel obsessive. He has a good amount of planets that fall in my 4th and 5th house. I felt an otherworldly lure, a deep desire, like i wanted him to consume and posess me. But also it felt a bit transcendent, it felt just right. I was very affectionate with him, perhaps more than any other partner. I wanted to touch him and kiss him all the time. The sex was great with powerful eye contact.

BUT it all changed. He pulled away. He told me he has commitment issues. He wasnt sure if we should travel together. He had incredible overwhelming doubts. I was completely blindsided. We did travel together but it was so strained and we had many breakup convos during the trip and ultimately it ended with our relationship being up in the air. We stayed together, but it wasn’t the same. We tried about 4 times before he ended it for real.

Our breakup was awful. He shut down and was so avoidant. He agreed to a check in and then when i brought it up he said he didn’t care if we check in. It was honestly baffling. I felt he became quite cruel. Felt like he just completely deaded me from his life in an extreme way. I never wanted it to end. I still don’t want it to be over. Its the most emotional pain I’ve ever had in a romantic relationship.

posted October 29, 2022 11:18 AM            

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Originally posted by MissBo24:
With my ex boyfriend, he has his planets in my 8th house and when we were in a relationship I was the obsessed one but when things were over and I was so done with the relationship, the obsession turned vice versa. It has been 4 years since we broke up but he still texts me til these days and says how much he misses me and loves me.

How long were you with the person? Maybe you should post your synastry with him and the composite

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So wild! Yes it almost feels like our feelings reversed in the sense of desire and obsessiveness. And its so interesting because they usually say that the house person feels it more or whatever. But I think with the 8th house the depths are so deep and it gets so raw that it really does toe the line of love and hate to a degree. The extremes can be quite perilous. I think it requires a lot of maturity and willingness to endure the exposure that comes with this kind of connection. I think for both of us it brought up fears, but much more for him.

I’ve never had anyone have an 8th house stellium in my chart so idk how that feels. But 8th house all up in another’s chart? Beyond powerful life changing relationship. I just wonder if i can ever truly let go, and if he has, or if the pull will lure us back in to each other. I can’t tell if when an 8th house heavy relationship ends its over for good....for some reason that feels wrong if true.

posted October 29, 2022 03:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
I had a rough breakup with one about 7 years ago.
Loss of apatite, slept for 12 hours when we ended it, sad songs, threw a picture of us out the window for it to get snowed on and when the snow melted I shredded it in the shredding machine. I deleted all of his picture's off of my Facebook, threw away the lingerie and props, gave his stuff back, got my stuff back. Unfriended his friends and family on FB.

His Venus, Uranus, Neptune, and Saturn were in my 8th house.

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Oh my! I understand completely the intensity of the ending. From my end i was just seeking answers, asking so many questions, suggesting different psychological theories for why we ended up here - all in all just aggressively vulnerable and quite desperate to be heard. This was met with minimal ability to communicate and generally a lot of stonewalling. I could not fathom his capacity to shut me out so coldly. Our relationship was not cold at all - it still confuses me. Idk what his feelings truly are or were. Bit scary actually.

Who ended it with who? And why do you feel you had such a painful ending? Did you experience confusion too?

posted October 31, 2022 01:27 PM            

I've been thinking about him the most in the past week than I have in months. And I'm in deep investigation mode, trying to uncover the truth via this 8th house synastry post - so the scorpio and eclipse effects are present in one way or another for sure!