posted February 20, 2024 07:49 AM            

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Originally posted by problematique:
this is a karmic relationship that from what i’m seeing needs to be finished bc it ran its course. put astrology aside. you’re not supposed to be in a relationship where you don’t feel valued since it’s giving you such a hard time you even needed to open a forum topic. saturn needed to teach you something. maybe a tough experience to grow and now you’ll know better. don’t spend your life with someone for duty. you don’t need love that feels like a chore.

saturn is good in synastry with an aspect here and there but this is just plain karmic torture.

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posted February 20, 2024 04:03 PM            

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Originally posted by AquaMoon323:
Definitely feel that way! It feels very hard to let go it’s literally like a pull I feel to keep him in my life. I’ve described the feeling as cutting off my arm. Feels painful and unnatural! As dysfunctional as we are he feels like he’s apart of me smh.

Question because I am the Saturn is most of our aspects as well as it’s my dominate planet does this mean only I feel this way? He doesn’t express certain things to me but he does always let me come back no matter what. I’ve never been able to go too long avoiding him to know if he’d crack also lol but so far this is the longest I’ve gone without seeing him and it’s difficult but I’m proud of that and I’m just trying to get to a place where I stop talking to him as well.

I guess what I’m asking is if I’m able to stick to this do you think he would just let me go or you think he feels the Saturn pull too?

And I guess even in that question it shows how hard it is to let go smh because deep down inside I still hope that even if I’m able to leave him alone that he will come back but I know it will never work so I have to just stop thinking like that smh this is truly difficult it’s not the normal stuck on a guy it literally feels wrong to leave him and thats a hard feeling to shake smh maybe because leaving him is the growth of my old self dying so it rly is like getting rid of apart of myself the part of me that he represents

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posted February 22, 2024 01:59 AM            

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Originally posted by AquaMoon323:
I agree! He is very reassured! I am very expressive and make a point to let him know how I feel about him and our bond and he is a Leo sun so very stubborn and prideful on top of everything else. But I shower him with reassurance and have had so many failed attempts to end things I’m sure at this point he doesn’t take any of it seriously and I can’t even blame him because I clearly can’t take myself seriously lol

But this is new waters for us I’m haven’t seen him since new years and this is the longest I’ve ever gone and not seen him. And even this week he asked to see me and I told him no which is also something I don’t usually do esp not with intent to come another day. But I have been texting him so I think he still thinks I’ll crack soon. But the texting is rly just me trying to find closure & I think today I’ve also reached a point where I won’t even text him anymore because I rly just have nothing else to say! I feel like I’ve said everything I feel 20 different ways and it doesn’t matter. So I’m happy I got it off my chest for me and I think that’s important given the fact that this will already be very difficult to let good I have to make sure that when I let it go I don’t feel there’s any stone unturned or something unsaid to reel me back in to communication at a later time so I’ve just been getting it all off my chest.

I have a love for him I’ll never quiet understand and I will forever be grateful for the time that we spent together and the lessons I’ve learned through our experience together but he is not aligned with the person I am becoming and I can’t live one foot in the door and one foot out. I know my lesson is in the choice. The discipline to let go of my comfort zone and start a new chapter in my life. And I hope he learns something from this as well. 🙏

Thank you so much for your feedback it’s been very insightful and gave me so much clarity to why I’ve felt the way I felt. Maybe a few months from now I’ll have a positive update that I’ve finally let him go and have moved on! 🙏 that’s the goal!

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posted July 25, 2024 10:00 PM            

The longest we’ve gone no contact was a month and I literally felt like I wanted to die. Your situation is so similar to mine in that the saturn acts like glue in the connection.

From what I’ve read it’s either your saturn is trying to push him to put his big boy pants on and mature and grow so that this will lead to a fruitful connection. Or, saturn is definitely trying to give some sort of wake-up call to you BOTH and saying it’s time to let it go and go for good or the cycle will just continue, as he is unwilling to meet you halfway.

posted July 29, 2024 12:40 AM            

The Hard aspects are also felt more strongly and as a result a lot of people with too many hard saturn aspects get married because they think they mistake intensity for passion. Actually it's unhealthy.

In a hard aspect the saturn person wants to possess the planet person.

posted July 29, 2024 06:25 AM            

Synastry:
My Saturn exactly conjunct his moon, right on his IC.
My Saturn trine his moon in my 5th
Saturn square Saturn
His Saturn trine my Moon
His Saturn conjunct my Venus in his 12th.
His Saturn opposite my Mars which is conjunct his DC.
His Saturn square my Uranus.

Natally we both have Saturn square Venus.

Unfortunately in Synastry we have Mars square Moon double whammy.

We have been on and off because I don't feel he understands or respects my emotional needs.

However, I do absolutely love him and I believe he loves me. He is currently asking to get back together but I can recognise that we are in a vicious cycle. I want so badly in my heart to just say "yes okay, let's get together again" but in my head I know it's no good.

I can't tell you the strength this is taking. Last time I spoke to him I literally said "I feel superglued to you" and he agreed. It's like we can't move on even though we don't work. I think the love will always be there.

My Mars in conjunct his descendant in his 7th. From about 6/7/8 months in, I had what i can only describe as a NEED to marry him. This from someone who has never wanted to marry ever in my whole life. I'm nearly 36, by the way. He said he felt the same, but then he hesitated and this wounded me greatly.

I also have my Mars (conjunct his DC in 7th) trine his 3rd house Mercury in my 5th. His voice alone hooks me in. I can feel like I am making great progress moving on, but if he phones me and I hear his voice I am back to square one.

I am determined to try and move on as I don't feel the relationship is improving my life. However, I don't think I will ever fully "let go". Maybe one day in the far future... Who knows. I have a feeling we could end up back together.

There is a song by The Cranberries which sums up how I now feel about the relationship. It's called 'No Need to Argue', and there is a repeated lyrics "You'll always be, special to me, special to me....."

That's how I feel about my ex.

posted July 29, 2024 06:30 AM            

For me the relationship was DEFINITELY transformative.

I learned so much about what I want from love, and for my life.

posted August 06, 2024 09:45 PM            

I am meeting my ex in 1 week to talk. I have some exams until then.

It seems we are likely going to get back together, after ~2months apart.

I told him I had been on a date with someone else... I have since ended that, as I know in my heart I cannot shift my emotions from my ex. This is the second time this has happened where I have impacted someone else's feelings when my ex clicks his fingers to rekindle. I feel bad about that.

I have been thinking a lot recently and have realised some areas where I could have been a better version of myself. I hope he has made some similar realisations, but we will see what next week's chat brings.

If he has, I really feel that he is "the one" for me and we can "make it together". But it crucially depends on some improvements on both sides.

I will post our Synastry chart over the next few days.

Could I take a look at your Synastry chart? Are you able to post a Tumblr link or something?