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Topic: My best friend and my lover have a stellar synastry chart... what do you do?
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kikoman
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posted April 07, 2024 10:08 AM
  
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Originally posted by vansio:
your “synastry” with him is “better” than her’s because you and his moons are at an angle, whereas, his and her moons are 6/8 (enemies). they don’t understand each other
Wait, I believe his moon is in her 7th and her moon is his 9th. Or are you using a different house system? IP: Logged |
kikoman
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posted June 03, 2024 09:39 AM
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summerlove22
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posted June 03, 2024 02:52 PM
Astrology aside, this relationship isn’t right for you if you are so worried about him falling in love with someone else. Especially when he doesn’t want exclusivity and you do. You say you are giving him space, but you need to think less about his needs and more about yours.
Why are you are keeping him happy when you are clearly suffering inside?There is not only one person out there for us and you can have compatible synastry with many many people. IP: Logged |
ana_bee
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posted June 03, 2024 03:19 PM
Hey Kikoman, I’m sending you a hug. I empathize so much with your situation … been there done that multiple times.. I also end up comparing charts with his exes or even my friends like you did and get anxiety if their charts look more promising. I’m going through that same situation right now. Met a guy, he’s 11 years older than me.. actually the first older man I genuinely feel attracted to… usually I date younger, bc I look quite young for my age as well. But this guy is so different. He’s into me just as much.. took me to trips .. introduced me to his friends .. he’s very much into me, but I’m still the more obsessive one, bc that’s just part of my nature. Lately I did a synastry & composite of him and a friend of mine… they never met, but he saw her in a photo and said she was hot. So I did that just for fun and boom .. one soulmate aspect after another .. their moons conj in her 8th house.. Sun/Moon trine , her Venus conj his Vertex, his Mars conj her Vertex.. her Sun trine his Venus..
only thing missing are SN/NN aspects between them, but the rest is picture perfect. No hard aspects in composite and a Scorpio stellium in the 4th house composite. Honestly I’m already thinking about introducing them, just to get it over with. Maybe karma will reward me and I meet my soulmate at their wedding! LoL Still hurts though. The sex I have with him is amazing , we both cried bc we felt so emotional. His moon is conj my NN and my Scorpio Asc his Vertex, his Sun is conj my Venus and we have Jupiter on Venus DW .. also Chiron conj Venus and Chiron trine Venus ..but we also have lots of squares and oppositions mainly in composite.. I’m afraid it won’t last anyway , so why not just introduce them …
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ana_bee
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posted June 03, 2024 03:27 PM
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Originally posted by kikoman:
Ok, here is an update - I introduced my lover and my best friend yesterday at a park and they instantly connected over the conversation. After the hang, he repeatedly said he really liked her which made me feel uneasy and jealous...
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kikoman
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posted June 03, 2024 04:47 PM
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summerlove22
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posted June 03, 2024 04:56 PM
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Originally posted by kikoman:
summerlove22 - for me, love like this happens very rarely, that's why I still can't easily let it go although I am suffering so much inside. But completely agree with you, this isn't the right healthy type of relationship i must let it go..
I get that, but is it really love? Is it actually the kind of relationship you want? Because if not, its not that rare. Before you allow yourself to fall for a man you need to see what he is offering and showing you. When a man acts casually with us we need to act with caution and ask ourselves is this what we truely want, and ensure we protect our feelings and not get emotionally involved.
I’m saying all this because I’ve been there, and I’ve learnt from these toxic situations so I know when to avoid/act cautiously before getting involved. If I where you I’d listen to a podcast that helped me a lot “Being her” by Margarita nazarenko, it will help you to gain clarity and get your power back.
Also read up about anxious attachment style, although she talks about this in the podcast also Good luck xo IP: Logged |
summerlove22
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posted June 03, 2024 04:56 PM
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kikoman
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posted June 03, 2024 07:38 PM
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Randall
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posted June 27, 2024 06:02 PM
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Randall
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posted August 03, 2024 12:20 PM
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kikoman
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posted August 07, 2024 12:52 PM
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Randall
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Randall
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posted September 30, 2024 05:27 PM
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Randall
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kikoman
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posted October 23, 2024 03:55 PM
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Bump!
Hi Randall, please don't bump this, I'd love to close this chapter, i wish i could delete the post. thanks! IP: Logged |
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