posted April 03, 2024 05:35 PM            

The only thing that matters is that YOU, at this time, got the opportunity to hang out with him, not your friend. And you share good charts, too! We're not destined to meet or to develop romantic feelings for every person whom we share great charts with. One chart shows a potential, which has to be activated by a relationship, not just one encounter. It takes experience and intention for one chart to manifest.

If you don't feel comfortable with them meeting, then avoid that scenario. But then you'd live with the obsessive thought "what would happen if they met?". I suggest you to only focus on your relationship with him, don't think about your friend, just pretend she doesn't even exist in the world you share with him. Focus on your chart, on the strong aspects that you two share. Think that you're his best choice, and that she's just one friend of yours.

posted April 05, 2024 05:18 AM            

I just had mine, and u should have a limit here... the age differece it's too big and this will have from the stance point some difficulty that should be surpaced, not to mention that a relationship come with its own difficulties even without added ones... if you asked yourself and you did the synastry between this guy and a friend of yours, this should answer your question from the start that it's not safe to continue it... you wouldn't have done it if you felt safe to continue

Take care because Saturn always comes with a lesson, unfortunately. He means well, but his only way of showing is through experience to know the reality of things, as cause and concenquences.

posted April 05, 2024 05:30 PM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
the age differece it's too big

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posted April 06, 2024 07:42 AM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
Thanks so much for sharing your experience mee_chryssa! The thing about my fear of losing him to my best friend might also be linked with my Natal aspect Venus square Saturn in 12H leo, I often feel attracted to charismatic people and feel like I am not good enough for them. I really want to get over this fear but admit that I was desperately looking for some type of confirmation in synastry.

I did think about the current transit Saturn in my 7th house too, I've been single for a long time in the past several years and I almost gave up on it. But since Saturn entered my 7th, my lover showed up out of nowhere, so maybe this could be a positive Saturn in 7H thing rather than a negative one that the universe set me up with. but I can see this certainly will be challenging and require lots of work considering the age gap and my natural fear response...

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posted April 06, 2024 07:45 AM            

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Would you say this if the woman was the younger one? Why is it only addressed when the man is younger. My friend and her partner have been in a marriage over 20 years and she is 15 years older than him.

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posted April 06, 2024 07:47 AM            

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Originally posted by antiphon:
They will most likely hate each other because of mars square mars <2° orb and mars quincunx sun exact. Not even close to “textbook soulmate synastry”. A lot of the positives you list are wide orbs.

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yes, they do, it's a difficult aspect, but beside the aspects she mentioned - textbook soulmates - they also have opposite ASCs, her Sun on his ASC, these ones are very strong andd very compatible, beats any aspect.

posted April 06, 2024 07:54 AM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
Thanks so much for sharing your experience mee_chryssa! The thing about my fear of losing him to my best friend might also be linked with my Natal aspect Venus square Saturn in 12H leo, I often feel attracted to charismatic people and feel like I am not good enough for them. I really want to get over this fear but admit that I was desperately looking for some type of confirmation in synastry.

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I don't know how to explain it... but I'll try.

You are good enough for the guy that loves you, with your flaws and everything, if he doesn't seem like it, it's not him.

You know right from the start about what a relationship is. What's between you and another person. You need a month, the least 3 months to put your finger on it. Meanwhile, you just have to get involved as much as it feels right to do it.

There are affairs, your life long partner, your friends, good friends, and they all show you right from the start what they are about. You don't have to wait for the relationship to change it course because it's right on track from the start, you just have to recognize the signs and don't lie to yourself about what it really is.

The relationships on-off are always going to stay on-off.
The ones that are commited will be from the get-go commited
The friends that care for you, will care right from the start.

You can see the love and you don't question it. If you start questioning it, something it's wrong.

Don't dismiss your fear. Maybe it's something your mind recognizes and it's sending a signal that you've seen this behaviour before and it didn't end well. Usually, with these signals, you just learn to listen to yourself and don't get involved, move past it. Your experience remains with you and it helps u in the future. Especially as a woman. We see things beyond the logic, so listen.

posted April 06, 2024 11:02 AM            

The guy you are looking for is either Cancer/Capricorn or Pisces/Virgo Sun and/or ASC. I would incline more to Cancer or Pisces or Capricorn, more than Virgo, because Sun is on your ASC so I guess you are a very bright person and pretty expresive, even though it rules the 12th, thus the fears you have.

posted April 06, 2024 12:05 PM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
yes, they do, it's a difficult aspect, but beside the aspects she mentioned - textbook soulmates - they also have opposite ASCs, her Sun on his ASC, these ones are very strong andd very compatible, beats any aspect.

even with all these aspects, they don't mean that they will get together. There are tons of people born with the same placements or aspects in the natal chart.

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IMO soulmates are rare so indications of soulmates must also be rare. If sun in the 1H is a sign of soulmates, then you millions of soulmates.

posted April 06, 2024 05:03 PM            

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We expressed feelings for each other, but haven't discussed exclusivity. He told me that he doesn't like the word "boyfriend or girlfriend" cuz is binary. His ideal is "partners" who support one another yet are not codependent... We are both very independent people, especially he is, and I wanted to give him as much room as possible.

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Your natals do aspect the composite, mostly squares but at least the relationship holds some importance to the both of you. Your chart ruler is square his pluto.. obsession. His moon is in your 7th but it's not making easy aspects to your planets. Your moon is in his 5th which is empty and the only significant aspect from his Merc is to your pluto.. also obsession on a mental level. Imo looks like a transit relationship / something to learn from.

posted April 06, 2024 07:19 PM            

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Thank you Antiphon, That's good to know that Mars Square Mars is a difficult aspect in synastry... and orbs matter. Do you have any 2 cents on my synastry with him? You seem to know a lot about Synastry.

Since this relationship started, I've started learning more about synastry and closely looking into my past relationship patterns, one interesting fact I've learned is that my ex(the only proper relationship in my life) & My childhood best friend & my college best friend all were Aquarius rising. and My current lover is also Aquarius Rising which makes many of my planets overlay in his 7H. We have a pretty nice house overlay on each other's chart, but our planetary aspect doesn't have any great standout. Our temperament is so different though, He is 3 Aries(sun moon Venus) vs I am 3 Virgo (sun rising mercury). I don't feel always seen by him emotionally, but I feel that he sees my potential and understands what action is required for me to transform. it's not so stable but exciting. I am looking forward to hear your thoughts.

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I think you attract Aquarius rising because you have natal sun square uranus. Uranus is the ruler of Aquarius. I know someone who attracts Capricorn and they have natal
Sun square Saturn. I believe this occurs when you have difficulty integrating the energy of the square into your personality.

In synastry, 7H overlays are great. It’s much stronger to have planets conjunct or close to the descendant, because it’s more rare. Planets overlaying the 7H, but in a different sign than the descendant, is also weaker.

The most important aspect you have is moon square moon, which shows difficulty with relating to each other’s emotional needs and understanding each other.

You might see him as too aggressive and explosive for you; he might see you as too fragile and emotional for him.

posted April 07, 2024 04:49 AM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
no, I wouldn't. It can work out, but chances are very little. 90% of relationships are with the man older. This guy has Venus/Saturn conjunct, so it might be the case for him because Venus in a mans chart means his wife and with Saturn it typically means she's older, or Saturn in the 7th.

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