posted April 20, 2024 01:22 PM            

something I found about 8H synastry from googling, I relate to:

If your Venus is in your partner’s eighth house of a synastry overlay, you’re captivated by your partner. You feel completely subjugated and you give in to all of their impulses for pleasure. At the same time, you don’t try to run away. You’re enthralled at their requests, and you have a gut feeling that they can lead to you experience the deepest, darkest pleasure you could ever imagine. You find the house person very sexually attractive, and you willingly make yourself available to them.
Like a predator sensing weakness in its prey, the house person senses your inability to deny them any pleasure. They feel empowered by this, and they’ll have all kinds of wild, untamed fantasies of the two of you. They dream of doing things that they perhaps would never even consider in other relationships. You arouse the beast within the house person.
Venus in the partner’s 8th house is highly sexual, and even in relationships where sex is not an option, a sexual tension will be noticeable.
The sex in this relationship is not the “one-night stand” type. Rather, it’s emotionally deep, affecting both of you at a subconscious level. Since this is the 8th house, your involvement with each other will transform the both of you. The transformation process can be utterly painful, but it produces a new and improved “you.”

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Regarding the overlay

I recently encountered this amazing writing about synastry of attraction by Lotis White, someone shared the link as a reference. https://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/216505.html
basically says: if planets activate someones 5th, 7th and 8th house seems like significant in synastry. wanted to share with you because you seem like you have that going on with your date.

Cuz i have that with my date right now too. His Aries sun, Venus, and Saturn are in my 8H, His moon is in my 7H, and his Neptune, Uranus in my 5H conjunct with my Jupiter, activating all of my 5,7,8H.

posted June 26, 2024 10:35 PM            

His Venus, Mercury and Mars are all in my 8th. The mars was probably the most challenging and resulted in somewhat of a forceful merging of assets / resources. I have had to fight for my boundaries and balance there but since it’s Virgo I usually just lay boundaries and things out practically and he understands. If i react in emotion that’s a whole other story. We’ve come a long way at learning to react mindfully to one another, state our needs, boundaries etc. it probably won’t work with someone not willing to grow and commit to that kind of intimacy but the pay off is huge. We are a power couple in business and in play I think my favorite thing outside of the intimacy is that we hold eachother accountable and are honest in a way that makes us both better people but we are always kind about it.

posted September 02, 2024 08:05 AM            

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Originally posted by wayfinder:
I have 8th house synastry with my current partner of going on 7 years who is now my fiance. It’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in but we have actively worked on making it so. If both people are willing and up for the challenge this one can provide the vulnerability and compassion to accept all warts and all and challenge eachother to own their own shadows and foster healthy love. We’ve both grown so much. I called out obsessive or problematic behavior from the beginning and trusted that it wasn’t done out of harm but honestly from a society that often promotes unhealthy relational dynamics.

His Venus, Mercury and Mars are all in my 8th. The mars was probably the most challenging and resulted in somewhat of a forceful merging of assets / resources. I have had to fight for my boundaries and balance there but since it’s Virgo I usually just lay boundaries and things out practically and he understands. If i react in emotion that’s a whole other story. We’ve come a long way at learning to react mindfully to one another, state our needs, boundaries etc. it probably won’t work with someone not willing to grow and commit to that kind of intimacy but the pay off is huge. We are a power couple in business and in play I think my favorite thing outside of the intimacy is that we hold eachother accountable and are honest in a way that makes us both better people but we are always kind about it.

My past relationship had his Sun in my 8th while my mars was in his 8th and it didn’t work out. He didn’t want to be held accountable for the games he was playing and was emotionally manipulative and a liar. I’d constantly catch him doing sneaky things and called it off after a couple year of on and off. He would tell me that it was impossible to hide anything from him and it freaked him out but then again he had a lot to hide. Very grateful to have moved on to a better love.

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posted September 02, 2024 09:21 AM            

My moon in his 8H His mars and Jupiter in my 8H we also have composite 8H in Scorpio

This is no joke!!! Granted we have a lot of hard pluto aspects including Venus opp pluto in composite so it’s a lot of intensity but I can feel this 8H energy so much!!!

Firstly I am a natal moon in 1H which he also has his moon in my 1H so naturally I am very expressive with my emotions but having my moon in his 8H has impacted me deeply!!
I am so crazy with and about his man!! 😂 we’ve recently been going through a rough patch and I tried to provoke him into blocking me to no avail but the level of crazy with sending hundreds of texts messages etc I went to I almost didn’t recognize myself 😂😂 he fines it annoying when I get unhinged lol but clearly not bothered enough to block me and actually end it lol I think he secretly loves knowing he has this kind of effect on me!

I am so obsessed and addicted to him and he is as well he just shows it in a more reserved way of just never being able to deny me or let me go. His Mars is in my 8H and this is one of the sexiest thing I've ever experienced!! Our sexual chemistry is intoxicating and compulsive! Denys all logical we just crave each other and no matter what we desire each other! Fighting and mind plays can feel like a form of foreplay because the tension just adds to the passion. I could see how stalking is possible with this!!

We’ve gone through so many things that in reality should separate us for good but nothing has stuck! I find our passion for one another like a bit of a taboo thing. And we don’t rly like to share each other with the outside world. We spend most of our time just the two of us! Being in public can either feel like a huge tease because all I’ll be thinking about is how I can’t wait to get my hands on him when we get home or it will heighten my awareness of all the interactions he may have with other people esp women. It’s just as if I just want him all to myself so I prefer to spend time alone so we can only be focused on each other lol. Though I would probably get a kick out of seeing him flirt with another girl because I just would take that teasing lol! I think we are at the point now that though it would be uncomfortable to witness I think it’s clear we can’t leave each other alone so I couldn’t rly see myself being extremely jealous of another women. Don’t get me wrong it’s not fun but my issues aren’t about other women it’s about losing him! And as long as another women couldn’t take him away from me I don’t rly care.

There’s a saying “you can’t compete with a woman a man can’t leave alone” and I am that women for him as he is that man for me. So we tend to tease each other a bit with others but it’s a conscious thing! The mind games are just foreplay! 😂 I’ve gotten turned on by the fact that he was out having drinks with a girl but still texting me lol so I don’t think the issue is jealousy there’s only an issue if there’s a threat of losing each other to that person!

But yes all in all my experience with 8H has been all consuming! I’m not sure how I’m ever going to let this man go! The intensity and the chemistry is unmatched and I crave that! We are both heavy Pluto dominate so it’s kind of a necessity for us! The back and forth just make the bond stronger and the sexual control we have over one another is very apparent and tolerated! The sex binds us. It becomes the way we breathe together. Has raw as it can seem there is very much an emotional factor to it. The sex is our form of connection, reassurance, outlet, etc it is the weapons we both have to each others heads but gladly obey! There is a lot of unspoken love that isn’t spoken but felt through the sex. You just know something about it feels different!!

Personally I don’t know how I’ll ever be able to come down from this high! He is my drug and that feeling alone binds you! You share an intensity and a dark depth that no one else sees and you just know that would be hard to duplicate.

We’ve seen that worst of each other only to love each other more because of it! There is feeling of loving someone BECAUSE of their darkness and not IN-SPITE of their darkness! There’s a sacred bond that is formed in the dark!! And ironically we love to spend night time together. And not just for sex because even when it’s day time and we’re together there’s just something about that that feels weird. It’s like we are at home in the darkest with each other literally and figuratively!!

posted September 05, 2024 01:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Oppositegirl:
I'm really curious about 8th house synastry and your experience about it. Is mars in overlay 8th really give annoying effect to the house person because I am the mars, but my mars conjunct his juno in his 8th and he also have 8th stelllium.
And relate to what @kikoman mention before, is the effect of 8th synastry activate if there is any physical contact happen? Cuz mine just connect by online and I get some suggestions from friends that if we have physical contact it will be more intense.
He also have his jupiter in my 8th house almost conjunct my sun (wide orb, 8 degree)

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I am really curious about 8th House synastry as well, because his North Node, Venus, Uranus, and Pluto are all in my 8th house. Meanwhile, my Jupiter, Juno, Ceres and Pholus are all in his 8th house. We are inseparable and yes, it's intense in a very good way! I appreciate this 8th house synastry discussion.