posted April 26, 2024 10:17 PM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
Especially curious about the Aries moon & Cancer moon pair. My partner and I have this tight aspect, and many astrologers are like, well, that's a train rack. has anyone had this experience and worked out?

His moon is in my 7th house and my moon is in his 5th house though - wonder if that helps?

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posted April 27, 2024 01:22 PM            

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Originally posted by PlutoIsMyTeacher13:
I agree with above. Cancer moon very sensitive and Aries very insensitive by nature!

As a Scorpio moon I find Aries energy very difficult in relationship. My last bf was Aries rising (but actually a cancer moon) so he could deal it but it couldn’t take it! I’m a fire Venus and a water moon! It was a bad combo of two people who could deal it but couldn’t take it

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posted April 29, 2024 06:32 AM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
Thanks everyone for the response. Unfortunately, I am the cancer moon, so all the stress will probably be felt more on my side. He is a major Aries (Sun, moon, Venus) just like my dad he is A LOT in my face but the passion and force are hard to look away from. (my chart is mix of Virgo and Leo) We do have some supportive aspects - my Leo Venus trines his Aries Sun & Venus. and my Virgo sun conjuncts his Virgo Mars. also both are pretty Uranian in our charts. We are still in the early phase of dating so it's fun and exciting. But our emotional differences are becoming so apparent. Feeling safe and comfortable aren't the words to describe our relationship at all. We have so much fun socializing & exploring & partying together, we have an amazing sexual attraction but having a vulnerable conversation doesn't feel natural - I always have to initiate it and he tries to respond but never has concrete answers and gets uncomfortable and sleepy. so I started questioning if there would be a healthy future between us or if I should keep this relationship more casual. We have Pluto hard aspects to our angle in both ways, wonder if this is why it's so hard to let each other go despite emotional differences. his Pluto conj my IC and my Pluto squares his ASC tight orb.

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posted April 29, 2024 11:30 AM            

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Originally posted by SleepyDiary:
Aries Moons have a problem with being vulnerable and finds it really uncomfortable so be careful with needing to have those "vulnerable" talks too often also be careful about needing too much reassurance and being clingy or needy too. That is the biggest mistake someone could do when it comes to people who are Aries dominant is being too needy of them and not being challenging in some way. They love a good challenge and independence so clinginess is NOT their cup of tea and if you are someone who is more on the passive side you can just pack your bags and head out the door because these guys don`t do passive and don`t understand that approach. Be direct, outspooken and just speak your mind.

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posted April 29, 2024 01:02 PM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
You are absolutely right, I thought I was being straightforward to him about my need for a partner with commitment (on a Scorpio full moon day) but I think it was a mistake, learning that I can't force that on this person and have to play a bit of chasing games with Aries Moon/Venus since they love the challenges... I am a very independent person but we have a large age gap with different needs - it has been a bit of a rollercoaster say the least!

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posted April 29, 2024 01:24 PM            

I think in the case of Aries with Cancer moon, the best strategy is to give one another space, which may be hard to do for Cancer, I know since I have three placements there.

I once dated an Aries moon, he was sweet and considerate. Might have been his Venus in Taurus and Mars in Cancer though.

posted April 29, 2024 04:45 PM            

@girlwiththerainysoul - I can definitely see the moon square moon working out if the element of the sign is harmonious, the earth moon, and water moon sound chill tbh. Also, I am biased since I'm natally earth sun and water moon. i have natural ease with anyone w earth-water energy.

@itisokay Very accurate description i relate - " I genuinely know that they care about me, but they really don’t understand the things I get upset about. They are terrible at consoling. But they seem involved with my feelings, trying to sense how I feel." how they deal with my emotions feels OFF but at least I know they are trying their best...

posted April 30, 2024 05:44 AM            

But let me tell you my impression of him first. He was sooo sweet, probably the sweetest guy I've ever met (Cancer Moon and Taurus Venus). I remember him for his sweetness though. Soft spoken, highly sensitive (I had seen him cried for simple thing), worried a lot but always care and protective in a sweet and soft way. But since I saw him did the same thing to his other friends (the care and such), I really didn't realize I was his target (I don't know if someone would call this insensitive, but I see people by their actions and words, my feelings only can sense the good or the bad, not so much making an assumption based on the feelings only).

Our friendship is really good actually. He invited me to join his team and we ended up being a great team too. We blended really well and we never argue about things. Our team was very solid. Until one day, he wanted to come at my place and he told me about his feelings.

I was curious on why he liked me, and surprisingly he liked me based on the opposite of his personality and me.

He told me that whenever he cried (it was more about he felt like a failure at that time) or worried about a lot of things or nagged about people about this and that, I was just there listening to him and said something that calming for him which made him less worry and had different perspective. I didn't angry or shut him out of his feelings or said that he was too much or confront the other guy. I seem didn't bother about how other people did stupid things and hurt me meanwhile even a simple thing he could feel hurt by other people, so he felt like I balanced him out. And he tried to find that person because he knew how much a sensitive he was and could be such an annoying naggers. He didn't want to be with someone the same as him, because it would become a toll for him.

He told me how insecure he felt a lot inside about himself especially, and everytime he was with me, my energy just gave him a confidence to do this and that, to believe in himself, especially about the project that he led at that time (because we spent a lot of time about that). How I made it easier, made him less worry about a lot of things.

He also told me that he was a person who couldn't handle too much being alone. He noticed me since the first year because I didn't seem bother sitting alone by myself and he often saw me walking alone and seem didn't bother if I should be with friends or not. Meanwhile, he must be with someone else or he would not feel safe or feeling nervous. He asked me if I didn't feel lonely or afraid being alone. And I told him, "Nope. I enjoy my own company a lot and it's okay being alone sometimes. Sometimes people can be draining to your system." He told me that was what he felt (draining), so I inspired him to be okay to be alone sometimes and he started to try it and he developed less worry. He realized he developed his feelings to me and since I was hard to reached out, he found an idea to invite me joining his team for a year.

He also wanted to confirm if I was what people (who are not close) thought: intimidating, being so serious, hard to be close or to be friend with, colder, insensitive, and so on. I asked him, what he saw me after a year being close to me. He told me, he was surprised I was not like what I appeared. He saw me cared a lot about family and closest circle (meanwhile he cared about almost everything), non judgemental, patient dealing with people like him, didn't want to create conflict, wasn't interested talking bad about people or bad situation like gossiping or nagging (because it happened a lot with his female friends he said), lovely and surprisingly kind, and actually just a private person who COOKed! That excited he was about the cooking part.

You know what, it broke my heart too when his tears fell a little bit when I said I could not be in any relationship at the time because I had other prioritize.

Well, I admit, Aries moon has a little bit of ambition in life, not too much like a Scorpio moon or Capricorn moon. So whenever my Aries moon has a target in life, I can be not so focus on other people and it can hurt them, especially cancer placement people.

From my Aries moon perspective, I saw Cancer moon is very different in terms on how we both process our feelings. Cancer moon cares about people a lot, Aries moon is not that much, only the chosen one. Both are sensitive but in a different way, one is about the self, the other is about the feeling. The anger of Aries moon may shock and hurt Cancer moon because the moon is very sensitive to different tone of voices.

I don't know how it will turn out in a long term romantic relationship, but my daughter has Moon in Cancer, making a square aspect to my Moon. But I think, my Venus in Pisces is making me tender and loving despite having an Aries Moon, I don't know, maybe, but I am very close to my daughter like I always take her with me and she always chooses me than anyone even her father (my husband). Whenever I and my husband get closer physically, she will not allow it and clinging on me, or jump in the middle.

posted April 30, 2024 05:05 PM            

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Originally posted by hearttreasure:

Well, I admit, Aries moon has a little bit of ambition in life, not too much like a Scorpio moon or Capricorn moon. So whenever my Aries moon has a target in life, I can be not so focus on other people and it can hurt them, especially cancer placement people.

From my Aries moon perspective, I saw Cancer moon is very different in terms on how we both process our feelings. Cancer moon cares about people a lot, Aries moon is not that much, only the chosen one. Both are sensitive but in a different way, one is about the self, the other is about the feeling. The anger of Aries moon may shock and hurt Cancer moon because the moon is very sensitive to different tone of voices.

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Thank you sm for sharing your sweet story. I really relate to these lines - I see a huge ambition in my partner, even though he is so much younger, he got that the aries power. Although I am a pretty workaholic myself too but my focus and ambition don't come close to his because I drag myself so much in my thoughts and this is becoming a problem & distance we have. It's truly inspiring to be around Aries Moon for that reason, I just want to act straight to my goal, instead of worrying and thinking over a million times...

posted May 02, 2024 11:17 AM            

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Originally posted by SleepyDiary:
It`s really challenging being a Water Moon person and dealing with people who are not, even sextile Moons or elements can be challenging because Earth too is not the most sensitive themselves and can be annoyed by the sensitivity of the Water Moon person and can lack the understanding of why we feel things so deeply and strongly. It`s also true what you say about Water moons who have Fire influence too that they might dish it out but not take it, haha.

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Yes, very true! That being said my current partner has a Leo moon conjunct my Leo Venus, which is conjunct our mutual ASC conjunction. So we’ve both got lots of fire/Leo. His Cancer Venus and Pisces Mars soften him considerably. He’s also got a lot of positive Neptune aspects to Moon, Jupiter and his ASC, so he’s actually quite watery along with the fire, with an Earth Sun ( Taurus) which works very nicely with my Virgo Sun.

It’s amazing how aspects can change the feel of someone energetically

posted May 02, 2024 11:21 AM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
Thanks everyone for the response. Unfortunately, I am the cancer moon, so all the stress will probably be felt more on my side. He is a major Aries (Sun, moon, Venus) just like my dad he is A LOT in my face but the passion and force are hard to look away from. (my chart is mix of Virgo and Leo) We do have some supportive aspects - my Leo Venus trines his Aries Sun & Venus. and my Virgo sun conjuncts his Virgo Mars. also both are pretty Uranian in our charts. We are still in the early phase of dating so it's fun and exciting. But our emotional differences are becoming so apparent. Feeling safe and comfortable aren't the words to describe our relationship at all. We have so much fun socializing & exploring & partying together, we have an amazing sexual attraction but having a vulnerable conversation doesn't feel natural - I always have to initiate it and he tries to respond but never has concrete answers and gets uncomfortable and sleepy. so I started questioning if there would be a healthy future between us or if I should keep this relationship more casual. We have Pluto hard aspects to our angle in both ways, wonder if this is why it's so hard to let each other go despite emotional differences. his Pluto conj my IC and my Pluto squares his ASC tight orb.

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That’s very interesting. My ex had Aries Venus too. I’m also a Leo Venus with a Virgo stellium. We both had Venus conjunct ASC in fire signs. Lots of fun and verbal affirmation, lots of chemistry but as you say the ability to connect verbally on an emotional level was not good. He couldn’t take accountability and there were lots of power struggles. We had Saturn square Pluto in the composite!!! Complete nightmare. I probably would have left earlier had I started learning about astrology earlier

posted May 02, 2024 11:25 AM            

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Originally posted by SleepyDiary:
Aries Moons have a problem with being vulnerable and finds it really uncomfortable so be careful with needing to have those "vulnerable" talks too often also be careful about needing too much reassurance and being clingy or needy too. That is the biggest mistake someone could do when it comes to people who are Aries dominant is being too needy of them and not being challenging in some way. They love a good challenge and independence so clinginess is NOT their cup of tea and if you are someone who is more on the passive side you can just pack your bags and head out the door because these guys don`t do passive and don`t understand that approach. Be direct, outspooken and just speak your mind.

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That being said, Leo Venus needs a lot of reassurance and validation. This is actually OK as long as you aren’t expecting to get it only from him. Make sure you are meeting your own needs. However water moon thrives on emotional connection. There is “being aware” and there is sacrificing so much that you just feel like your needs aren’t getting met.

posted May 02, 2024 11:31 AM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
Thank you sm for sharing your sweet story. I really relate to these lines - I see a huge ambition in my partner, even though he is so much younger, he got that the aries power. Although I am a pretty workaholic myself too but my focus and ambition don't come close to his because I drag myself so much in my thoughts and this is becoming a problem & distance we have. It's truly inspiring to be around Aries Moon for that reason, I just want to act straight to my goal, instead of worrying and thinking over a million times...

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posted May 03, 2024 12:42 AM            

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Originally posted by PlutoIsMyTeacher13:
That’s very interesting. My ex had Aries Venus too. I’m also a Leo Venus with a Virgo stellium. We both had Venus conjunct ASC in fire signs. Lots of fun and verbal affirmation, lots of chemistry but as you say the ability to connect verbally on an emotional level was not good. He couldn’t take accountability and there were lots of power struggles. We had Saturn square Pluto in the composite!!! Complete nightmare. I probably would have left earlier had I started learning about astrology earlier

Have you looked at the composite?

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posted May 03, 2024 06:37 AM            

It’s totally up to you. I think some people (including me) like a certain amount of intensity but as you say, quite often those intensely passionate aspects can cause other issues around power, etc..

If you look at both of your natals and don’t see many aspects that indicate potential problems with either of you around being able to handle this, and you feel that you could both calmly and smoothly talk out any differences then I’d say “go for it”

My concern is that he seems uninterested in doing this, from what you’ve said. One of the difficulties around Aries energy for me is the tendency for “me first” and sometimes lack of care around the impact of their actions upon others. My sensitive watery moon just couldn’t handle the insensitivity that came along with it. I’ve got strong needs around emotional connection.

posted May 10, 2024 01:06 AM            

With Aries you need to be direct, you cannot nag (but for Virgo not to nag? 😅 . I don’t know how you can do this but pls try. I’m with a Virgo and in my 6yrs exp with him… he either keeps quiet or he chews my ear off. He says he’s just giving me some suggestions. I’m a Taurus who’s usually chill but there have been times I blew up. Don’t get me wrong, I love my guy very much. He’s the sweetest person. So anyway picture this with impatient Aries. They cannot take it and Aries has the worst temper. On bad days Aries will tell you off. On good days they will just storm out. And Cancer will pout and become moody for a long time. Aries won’t be able to understand why Cancer behaves this way. Because they blow over fast. So if you wanna say something to him, keep it short and sweet. Don’t be afraid to tell him off because he can take it. He might even prefer that.

posted May 10, 2024 10:35 PM            

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I’ll be curious to see your charts. 😀 I think square Moons can work if there are other nice aspects to them. Your Moon rulers are Moon and Mars. These 2 combined spells ‘drama’. Honestly I’ll also be concern for a Virgo Sun to have to deal with an Aries because Virgos are generally overthinkers, very meticulous… and Aries doesn’t think much; they just do it. While initially it feels exciting because Aries gets you moving but in the long run this will press all the Virgo buttons.

With Aries you need to be direct, you cannot nag (but for Virgo not to nag? 😅 . I don’t know how you can do this but pls try. I’m with a Virgo and in my 6yrs exp with him… he either keeps quiet or he chews my ear off. He says he’s just giving me some suggestions. I’m a Taurus who’s usually chill but there have been times I blew up. Don’t get me wrong, I love my guy very much. He’s the sweetest person. So anyway picture this with impatient Aries. They cannot take it and Aries has the worst temper. On bad days Aries will tell you off. On good days they will just storm out. And Cancer will pout and become moody for a long time. Aries won’t be able to understand why Cancer behaves this way. Because they blow over fast. So if you wanna say something to him, keep it short and sweet. Don’t be afraid to tell him off because he can take it. He might even prefer that.

But of course all those I said above will alter depending on your natal aspects. Eg. I’ve 2 friends with Cancer Moon aspecting Jupiter and Uranus. More independent and happier, less moody/sensitive but still very caring like typical Cancer Moon. This compared to another friend with Cancer Moon square Mars who is always moody, sensitive and easily offended.

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Hi Hikaru29, Here is our synastry chart & table.
https://i.imgur.com/qtgkLxe.png
https://i.imgur.com/YwFK795.jpeg

I agree Virgo and Arise are not an easy pairing. One interesting part is my dad is a heavy arise (Sun, Venus, Mercury) and My Mom is a heavy Virgo (Sun, Venus, Mars), it's very similar energy pairing with My date and me. I might be used to the disharmony in personalities watching my parents, haha. they are still together and somewhat loving for over 30 years of marriage.

posted May 11, 2024 02:30 AM            

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Originally posted by kikoman:
Hi Hikaru29, Here is our synastry chart & table.
https://i.imgur.com/qtgkLxe.png
https://i.imgur.com/YwFK795.jpeg

I agree Virgo and Arise are not an easy pairing. One interesting part is my dad is a heavy arise (Sun, Venus, Mercury) and My Mom is a heavy Virgo (Sun, Venus, Mars), it's very similar energy pairing with My date and me. I might be used to the disharmony in personalities watching my parents, haha. they are still together and somewhat loving for over 30 years of marriage.

We have Psych and Eros conjunct, not sure if this is a binding factor despite the moon sq moon.

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He has some earth (Mars, Mercury) to match your earth qualities and his Sun-Venus conjunct Saturn so he is more grounded and contemplative than the typical Aries. Sun trine Venus, Venus trine Venus and Mercuries trine are very good aspects to have in Synastry. You will have shared love and communication styles. Having said that, you still have a lot of quincunx aspects e.g. your rising signs are also quincunx signs which literally means you need to work harder to understand each other.