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posted June 10, 2005 01:42 PM         

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Hello, I'm starting to wonder if perhaps our earlier instincts about the opposite sex are more accurate when we're young, like maybe we have a keener sense of who we mesh with personality and emotional wise when we are in gradeschool and middle school/junior high. It's almost like there is less drama and pressure before people get to the "hook-up" age/phase...
Just an observation, as there is a guy who is right now back in my life whom I fell for at the age of 10, and susbsequently was "obsessed with"/had a major crush on for almost 5 years after that. He would always stand up for me when other kids were picking on me, he had the warmest smile, and took the time to say hi when many kids ignored me. We were in a lot of classes together, including Band, he always admired my drawing abilities, and quiet intelligence, while I admired his genuineness and friendliness. He even asked me in 9th grade to draw a portrait (from a yearbook photograph) of his older brother who died towards the end of our 8th grade year. I felt touched and honored.

He was happy to see me when I was at his band's show recently , and we've kept in touch as bit. I just wonder why the connection is stronger than many of the rencent ones have been, as I thought I'd "gotten over him" years ago, but it felt so right to talk, like our emotions were in tune...

What are your thoughts on young crushes and their later validity when we "grow up"?

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"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
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posted June 10, 2005 07:08 PM         

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OMG, that is so sweet!

Sometimes I think I'm a romantic at heart.

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posted June 10, 2005 08:04 PM         

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I don't think it's simply limited to the ages you chose. I think it lasts through high school.

I definitely think there's some strange power there. Maybe it's that you have so much time to get to know someone at that age, and you can begin to meld your personalities in ways that are pure, or more pure than say a jaded adult. Who doesn't love to hear a married couple say that they were high school sweethearts? And who doesn't harbor a secret longing for their first love?

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posted June 10, 2005 10:23 PM         

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I definatly had a crush on the uneven parallel bars! Later on? The bar went vertical, if ya know what I mean! Now? I'm in love with a Hershey Bar!

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posted June 11, 2005 06:32 AM         

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I will take that Hershey bar with almonds Please!!!

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posted June 11, 2005 08:09 AM         

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I keep a bag of semi-sweet chocolate chips at my desk.

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posted June 13, 2005 01:10 PM         

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Good points, AcousticGod...yes, highschool would more than likely fit too. Personalities and attitudes at that point are more in flux and more willing to shift to some degree to connect with others. Connections at those ages are more a foundation for surviving and therefore we put more energy into stengthening them....perhaps.

I know I still have a lingering longing for the aforementioned Scorpio of early obsession...maybe I've always sensed we meshed, his Scoprio Sun/Taurus Moon, and my Virgo Sun/Leo Moon? I wonder to what degree he feels the same? I wrote him a friendly note a few days ago via e-mail, and have yet to get a response.

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"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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posted June 13, 2005 01:12 PM         

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Oh, and Battle of Evermore, I'm glad you are too, a romantic at heart I mean, for no matter how much they try to brainwash us that our Virgo-ness makes us cold and detached, we know how deeply sentimental our hearts beat.

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"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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