posted September 23, 2005 02:31 PM
Hey BR...LOL..how are ya honey? I just now saw this (I was out of town for a week and missed the initial shout out).Oh..man, what ISN'T going on with my life. A whole new chapter...no... let's say a whole new BOOK- Pidaua's Passions Part 2 LMAOO......
You would think that I would be a bit of a mess after breaking things off with my Taurus Fiance, but I am extremely happy. I am moving to a new town in my county called Bisbee (it is beautiful) the house I am renting (and might be buying) is up on the mountain (56 steps to get to it) but the view is spectacular. So many stars, trees and there is the gorgeous canyon.
I love my job (although politics of Co gov can be a bit of a pain in the rear) I have met so many people from all sorts of places - fire department, law enforcements, hazardous materials responders...the learning curve has been exciting.
I found a few answers to Mr. T's issues, so at least I understand that what I went through was from his own childhood traumas and not me going crazy LOL...
Still Pluto showed me aspects of myself that I had buried. I used to push down my emotions and build a wall around me that no one could ever get passed. I did that because I felt I couldn't protect myself otherwise (you know we Archers can be very sensitive and people don't seem to know that part of ourselves). My parents were perfectionists and pushed me hard - I mentioned they were verbally abusive in another thread. I couldn't speak out, especially with my mom or I would end up with a slap in the face. So, I learned to push it way down (Like that song from Cheville). But, it had to surface in another way and for me it was an eating disorder that almost killed me.
Mr. Taurus was also very verbally abusive (actually his behaviour is typical of an addict, but I haven't any experience with one. I saw the red flags, but they appeared more like a washed out red LOL)I know more now from talking to other people. The evasiveness, the arguments over semantics "it all depends on what the meaning of is - is", the controlling behviour, the violent outbursts... etc.. all signs of someone struggling from an old abuse as well as being addicted (I won't go into that aspect of it, let's just say he is an addict to a substance).
He would go from demanding my attention, begging me to be with him, and when I would concede, he would leave me alone in the living room while he spent a few hours on the computer. If I said I was going to meet with friends since he was busy, he would throw a fit.
I learned not to say anything because anything I said would be used against me in some weird flipped out way. It would lead to an argument, which would lead to him pushing me around, which would lead to him blaming ME, which would lead to him ignoring me for a few days to "teach me a lesson".
Then it hit me "I AM NOT THE PROBLEM" and I started to work on myself (Pluto tearing down the walls that I built to hide my fears). I began to plan how I was going to get out of the relationship and where I would move. The stubborn part of me did not say anything to friends or family- until I got this job in May and met a fellow Archer that helped me see a way out. There was also a part of me that knew that if I held out, something was going to come out of it.
Pluto says not to tear down the structures before it is time. I knew leaving without a plan would cause more pain (and with is explosive temper - possibly more) than was necessary. As it happened- being patient and holding out has led me to place that just rocks my world (in a good way).
The transiting Pluto is not only conjuncting my Sun it is also conjuncting my IC (death of a relationship / changes on the homefront) it is sending tense beams to my natal Pluto / ASC conjunction. That means careers, homes..etc.. all are affected. The house that I am moving into needs some work. Should I decide to buy it there is alot I can do with it (and in 6 months I'll know if I want it). I would also expand some of the rooms and add on to the house.
Bob Marks said this about Pluto making aspects to the Sun:
"When transiting Pluto makes a stressful aspect to your natal Sun (a conjunction, opposition, or square) the first thing you notice is that you feel very drained. I remember when this one first hit me. To be certain that it was Pluto, I called someone whom I knew had this transit a few years earlier. “Oh yes” she said. “That was the year I thought I was being pursued by demons”! Pluto is a slow moving planet, so its effects will last about two years. Little things that you would normally ignore will suddenly seem extremely significant and overwhelming. Yes, you can feel drained, sometimes very drained. But the worse this gets, the more people around you will say how wonderful you look. That’s Pluto. Makes you look great on the outside while feeling terrible inside. It’s not called the planet of extremes for nothing. I’ve also noticed that in about a third of the cases, there is an attack of insomnia."
Well, I haven't had any problems with sleeping (yet) but I have had a few problems feeling just wiped out. That could also be because my social life has been the busiest ever in my life. I end up feeling exhausted (along with the other events in my personal life that seem to drain me). It is also true that people keep complimenting me on my looks. I am like HEY...can't you see my poofy eyes...the bags? Hello? LMAO... they just feel that way, but they look fine. LOL...
Pluto Transits in Aspect to the Natal Ascendant: When Pluto crosses over your Ascendant (conjunction), you can become a new person. Make sure it’s someone you like. I call this one the “Nobody better mess with me!” transit. You will tend to become more commanding and domineering. If you try to suppress this, you will attract people who will try to dominate you until you finally assert yourself. The square and opposition have a similar effect, but the emphasis is more on tumultuous relationships. Watch out for power struggles and manipulation that would even shock a writer for the soap operas.
Yep.... my life the drama... LOL.. but it is all working out. The energy is somewhat refreshing in a way. The one negative thing, and I mean really negative thing, is that I HAVE noticed that passive-aggressive or dominating people have been coming into my life more and more. I have to almost push them out (what you can't fix- you must throw out according to Pluto)
On a positive note, lots of Scorps have been coming into my life too LOL...
With my strong natal pluto already existing in my chart, my dealing with all of this isn't as stressful for me as when I had to deal with Saturn. My own Saturn is in Taurus, in the 8th house and is my one retrograde planet. I had a bout with that planet that lasted a good 6 years. First I had my return, then Saturn was in Gemini opposing my Sun / Venus and squaring my Pluto / Asc and Mars. Then it went into Cancer which completed my T-square with my Moon, Mercury and Uranus. Let me tell ya, those times were tough. FINALLY, it is in a friendly planet (Leo) and I am getting a bit of a reprieve - until it goes into Virgo, but in two years Pluto won't be a part of that struggle nor will it be kicking my Sun / IC/ ASC / Pluto butt. LOL...
I am talking waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much LOL