posted November 01, 2005 02:57 PM         

Old age, I decided, is a gift. I am now, probably for
the first time in my life, the person I have always
wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair
over my body-- but I don't agonize over it for long.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful
life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter
belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself,
and less critical of myself. I've become my own
friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra
cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that
silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so
avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to overeat, to
be messy, to be extravagant. I have seen too many dear
friends leave this world too soon; before they
understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read until 4 am,
and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to
those wonderful tunes of the 50's & 60ies, and if I at
the same time wish to weep over a lost love, I will.
I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some
of life is just as well forgotten - and I eventually
remember the important things. Sure, over the years my
heart has been broken. How can your heart not break
when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers?
But broken hearts are what give us strength and
understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is
pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of
being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my
hair turn gray, and to have my youthful laughs be
forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many
have never laughed, and so many have died before their
hair could turn silver. I can say "no", and mean it.
I can say "yes", and mean it. As you get older, it is
easier to be positive. You care less about what other
people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've
even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer the question, I like being old. It
has set me free. I like the person I have become. I
am not going to live forever, but while I am still
here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have
been, or worrying about what will be. For the first
time in my life, I don't have to have a reason to do
the things I want to do. If I want to play games on
the computer all day, lay on the couch and watch old
movies for hours or don't want to go to the beach or a
movie, I have earned that right. I have put in my
time doing everything for others, so now I can be a
bit selfish without feeling guilty.

I sometimes feel sorry for the young. They face a far
different world than I knew growing up, where we
feared the law, respected the old, the flag, our
country. I never felt the need to use filthy language
in order to express myself. And they too will grow
old someday.

I am grateful to have been born when I was, into a
kinder, gentler world.

By my girlfriend,
Peace and Light,
Elisabeth

posted November 01, 2005 04:03 PM         

I have enough inferiority complexes in my life without having to eventually deal with getting old.
I think it's great you feel that way. You're very lucky to find joy in growing older. But you know, it's not like that for everyone. I doubt I would find much solice in getting old, since the only thing that gives me meagre comfort sometimes is that I have a long while before I have to worry about stuff like that. But when it enevitably does, I'll be faced with a dilema. I'm not the type to top myself, purely because I wouldn't have the nerve and I think things through like that over in my mind too much. So I probably will get old, thinking about it, and be miserable. I don't think I'm an optimist, I'm too cynical and nit-picky.
And I don't think I could handle the ageing proccess and I'm not too fond of plastic surgery so god knows what I'll do.

posted November 01, 2005 07:57 PM         

Wonderful writing! It IS a joy to have matured to the point you describe. But I can't help asking: How old is "old"?!?!?

I don't feel "old", yet some would call me old. I don't think any woman ever grows older than 25 in her own mind (arbitrary age there)!

I think one of the keys to your positive attitude (and my own) is Acceptance. I've reached a place where I don't worry about the things I worried about when I was young. I laugh a lot more -- the Universe can be a silly place!! OTOH it can also be mystifying, mind-blowing, and fill me with awe.

I derive such joy from just being here each day, to experience another day, to have the opportunity to learn more, and interact with yet more inspiring souls!

I am delighted to have achieved umpteen decades. It wasn't all happy times, but I learned from my pain and mistakes, and some people never do that.

TMNF, it's been one he11 of a ride! Please don't program yourself that you will "probably be miserable" because of this-and-such character/personality traits. Your ideas and values are changing very quickly at this time in your life. As some wise person here said: Rule #1 -- thou shalt not worry.

When I'm really old, I want to be like a stained glass window, with the light shining out of me in all sorts of fantastic colors!

posted November 01, 2005 08:25 PM         

Thanks guys!!!

I only post with my Solane Star

posted November 05, 2005 09:06 AM         

I am more relaxed, feel more free, more sexy, more confident than I ever did...more womanly hahaha.....I do things I never did when younger, like singing in public, playing an instrument and totally being myself....my sex life is only what I imagined it to be 20 years ago......

A white witch told me my life would really start at aged 50...haha...bring it on lads, bring it on......

No such thing as old......you are only as old as the man you feel.......SO.......well yer know what I mean dont ye?

posted November 05, 2005 10:31 AM         

Old/Young may be in the mind but the right attitude is constant evolution. To get better in any way all the time. Increased Health, Increased Wisdom and Increased Life. No need for deterioration.

I am highly inspired by Michael Douglas, ANthony Quinn, Harison Ford. Their wives are almost 30 years younger than them. That shows that they have not aged one bit mentally. Ditto Demi Moore. She thinks she is young enough for Ashton. It is the right attitude. And Madonna is looking/singing better now than when she was in her thirties!

posted November 05, 2005 12:04 PM         

Older women and younger men......mmmmmm.......strange tho how there is in some countries still a bit of a stigma attached, whereas its okay for old guys to date young women.....never really understood that.

What I do know is that the younger guy and older woman are sexually matched and usually at their peaks, whereas the other way around.....errrrrr....isnt that sometimes for financial reasons....or am I being terribly cynical.....

Hahahha just thought about me being with a bloke 30 years older....I would probably wear him out and he would probably peg it in a couple of weeks and leave me all his money.......nah I dont think so....give me a younger hot one anyday....LOL....

posted November 06, 2005 07:22 AM         

It always means.. "someone older than myself",
because no matter how hard we try there is always somebody we can not catch up to.

When I was 30 the horror of being 50 scared me.
Now I am 70 and I still feel 30, I have horror of 90.

posted November 07, 2005 05:16 AM         

Why there should be stigma for an older woman and younger guy? Simple, those who dont get enough sex are jealous of the older gal getting happy nights regularly and the younger guy never getting a "Not tonight honey, I have a headache."

posted November 07, 2005 06:42 AM         

We do agree on something then?

Do you know what a shaman healer told a few months ago....she told me that a lot of people around me (women that is) were jealous of me and saying I am with my man becos of the sex only....can you believe that? We are together for 16 years and he is only 11 years younger. We have been thro hell and high water together and people are small minded enough to think that. I despair of human beings at times. Having said that the healer said my sexual energy is very strong......"OMG' said I "does it show that clearly"....."yes" she replied "you are a very typical Scorpio"......hahaha no wonder they are jealous (excuse my very devilish humour....but some people provoke me) !!!!

Have you ever been with an older woman yourself....I am not sure what age you are but guess about 28 and 29 maybe?

Oh my..... isnt 16 or 17 a little young for someone to marry?

Anyway thanks for the reply.......interesting indeed....

posted November 08, 2005 03:30 AM         

I have never had sex with an older woman but my inner nature is Cancerian, I like to spoil and take care of the girl so I dont think I have the mental maturity to enjoy a relationship with an older girl, though Demi Moore can take me anytime. I like the dictum, a girl is as old as she looks. Let me use your addtional wisdom and modify it, A girl is as old as she looks and moves

Make the jealous people more jealous, Sue. That burns off a lot of your karma for free. You are blessed that you dont suppress your sexuality and double blessed because you are a loyal wife [Except if Johnny Depp is in Ireland LOL] It is shameful that people think you are with your husband for sex when you have had a 16 year marriage!!!

posted November 08, 2005 09:50 AM         

Yes I am a very enthusiastic person, in love and out.....I have a zest for life and revel in the devilment at times, so the others being jealous would somewhat amuse me....hahaha.

Johnny Depp indeed......nah I prob wouldnt if he came along......too old.....isnt he in his 40s now.......LOL !!!!

Love

posted November 08, 2005 11:05 PM         

I've weighed the same forever. I'm almost 29 now. Nothing fits and I don't feel like "me" anymore.

Getting older= slower metabolism, I guess. I'm miserable... don't want to go out anymore, taking a break from my bf because I just don't feel comfortable around him anymore (he says I'm beautiful and have nothing to worry about, but it's not enough. It's not about him.)

posted November 09, 2005 03:04 AM         

Hi Fayte,
Sounds exactly like me, thats why I dont touch alcohol and am looking at hermeticism. Basically, I am destined to be unlucky in love with Saturn in Leo 5th house but Neptune, Ascendant and Saturn are in a 3 way trine and my dreamworld is far more real to me than reality atleast in sensations.
Thats why I am training myself to turn celibate in the real world and get myself a nice Astral wife, than be moping around with mind games and doll chasing and expesnive divorces etc.

posted November 09, 2005 03:18 AM         

I am going to be 29 next year and I still feel like a teenager sometimes.

Aging is just mind control. If you think you wont age you wont. So many techniques are there to deprogram us of this sickness.

15 pounds more? It has a lot to do with emotional isolation. If some jerk has hurt you and you sub consciously want to avoid relationships by making yourself a tad unattractive, the body responds by storing more fat.