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From: New York, New York, USA
Registered: Jul 2005

posted November 07, 2005 03:38 PM         

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A few days ago I made the decision to break up with my bf. I did not feel certain that we belonged together; that we were a suitable match. There is someone who has recently come into the picture who has expressed great interest in me, and I noticed him too.
What concerns me is how stable he is (or lacking thereof). He broke up with his ex six months ago, but they still live together. She has a new bf now, and they all work together and he comes over to their place. He is having drama with his landlord, and is planning to move in a month-and still live w his ex, only they will have separate bedrooms. On top of that, he says he has pneumonia and is still out and about doing things he needs to do, which is good in the sense that he seems to eb responsible but the guy sounds like such a mess! I am quite flaky myself so I don't want more flakiness in my life.
I told my girlfriends about the scenario and both greatly disapproved of the ex scenario. They think there is something still going on there and he is not being honest, and that I am naive if I accept the situation.
We have not even hung out together yet, just bumped into e/o only twice and he got my number and we spoke for the first time on teh phone yesterday, but already this red flag has arisen.
He says that basically the three year relationship w her became more platonic and he still thinks she is an amazing person. Some of his friends think his situation is very odd, and some think they are being very mature.
I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed. I'm sad about the breakup w my ex, and there is this other prospect and I am having doubts about him, and I am feeling alone, and scared, and afraid to get involved w anyone, yet somewhat interested in this guy.
Some words of advice or insight would be appreciated.

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From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat. fayte1954@hotmail.com
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posted November 07, 2005 04:04 PM         

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I wish I could give you happier advice...but you said:
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He broke up with his ex six months ago, but they still live together. She has a new bf now, and they all work together and he comes over to their place. He is having drama with his landlord, and is planning to move in a month-and still live w his ex, only they will have separate bedrooms.

Not a good scenario that I can see.
However............
Do you know a man who has a name beginning with "R"?

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From: New York, New York, USA
Registered: Jul 2005

posted November 07, 2005 04:31 PM         

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Not that I can think of..

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