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Topic: Not so happy New Year
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Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 472
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted December 27, 2005 03:09 PM
 
My Scorpio boyfriend has gone and left me for the British Virgin Islands for New Years..I'm gonna go crazy not being able to talk to him for TWO weeks. He just left yesterday and I already miss him. He says he won't be able to call since he isn't taking his cell. (So I guess they don't have PAY PHONES there?!) Since you have to be 18 to drink there (he's 20) & he's most excited about that...of course. He sometimes says things that are pretty hurtful like "Can you imagine how good looking the girls are gonna be? D*mn!"
...and what am I doing for New Years? Spending it with my family. I wish I could be happier and not worry so much about this... How would you guys get over something like this? ------------------
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1scorp
Knowflake Posts: 2251
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posted December 27, 2005 03:27 PM
How long have you known him? I'm just curious... why would he say something about other girls? I mean... you're not exactly chop liver.  I'm guessing he's just trying to pull a reaction from you. Maybe gauge if you're jealous, etc. I would tell him to have fun... and that you'll see him when he returns. As for you... go out and have a good time. 
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Yang
Knowflake Posts: 2296
From: A temporary home
Registered: May 2004
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posted December 27, 2005 03:40 PM
Girl, go and have a good time. Before you know it, he will be back in your arms!IP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 472
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted December 27, 2005 03:43 PM
Well I've been with him for about two monthes. He likes to talk about other girls being attractive. He even names them..I figured he was just trying to make me jealous. And it's working  I DON'T let it show, though. And I did tell him to have fun. He did say it would be great if I could go with him Yeah when he calls I'll just be like "Oh my god I've been having a great time! You should be here!"
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crystelle
Knowflake Posts: 425
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Registered: Aug 2002
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posted December 27, 2005 07:32 PM
...OR the other option would be to confront him- ask him why he plays childish games
say, "by mentioning your attraction to other females, are you possibly looking for a (jealous)reaction from me?" (of course, being a scorpio, and young, he may possibly deny such a charge)My personal experience tells me that males influenced by the scorpion ways tend to need lots of re-assurance that you are really into them (tons of it, really) so consider that, and just talk to him about it. If he is mature enough, he should be forth right with you. IP: Logged |
taurean_scorpion
Knowflake Posts: 1356
From: santa monica, california
Registered: May 2005
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posted December 27, 2005 09:06 PM
yeah...i'd take crystelle's advice. because it's definitely bothering you, and he keeps doing it...if you don't do something about it, then it could hurt the relationship soon enough. IP: Logged |
sweetlibra
Knowflake Posts: 1382
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Registered: Oct 2004
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posted December 28, 2005 02:18 AM
"by mentioning your attraction to other females, are you possibly looking for a (jealous)reaction from me?" hehe whenever virgo tried to play tht game with me, I asked this question
and he wanted to know if I was jealous.
I told him I dont mind his having close friends from opposite sex, but I do mind if he gets involved(emotionally or physically) with someone else while having a relationship with me crystelle, I agree, having a scorp stellium,I do need a lot of re-assurance. IP: Logged |
1scorp
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posted December 28, 2005 09:00 AM
I'm inclined to agree with crystelle. You should say something... but he may not give an honest answer.  I have plenty of Scorpio in me... I can get jealous of someone I'm attracted to... but I hardly admit to it. I know it's childish... so I'd rather not own it. I do have a few uranus aspects to help with that. (or at least I think they do) Also correct in that we need to know that we're special to the one that we're with. I wouldn't fall into the trap (I could imagine that it would get ugly/old quick)... give him just enough attention when you're together. That should work. I dated an Aqua sun/Aries moon once. I never questioned his interest or needed more attention. He's 20... he's still young... he'll learn. I don't think that he has the right to make you feel inferior though. That's really all that jealousy invokes. It really is an ugly emotion.
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aqua
Knowflake Posts: 2805
From: dreamland
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted December 28, 2005 10:47 AM
{{hugs}} to you Lousianagrl !its alright ! happens in life sometimes ! the bottom line is ,now that u r not with him with for the new year but u r with ur family .so enjoy the best u can with ur family because its nice to be with them sometimes ! take care and enjoy !
{{{hugs}}} again !
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Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 472
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted December 28, 2005 09:17 PM
Thanks guys for the advice! Well I guess he's not going to call. But still hoping Crystelle~Is that your name? It's pretty  IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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Registered: Feb 2002
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posted December 28, 2005 09:38 PM
Well . . . I would say something to hit a nerve the next time a Man taunts me with these kinds of comments . . .With the cutest smile: "You sound like one of the girls when you start gushing and get all excited like that." With a nonchalant voice: "Gosh, we must be getting so comfortable with each other with this kind of talk, the next thing that may end up happening is me sitting next to you watching football with the guys wolfing down nachos. And your buds would probably say those "oh hot babe" stuff to me and it would be so flattering to get such praise without you getting angry. You're becoming such a wonderful friend."  Have fun. By the way, it's kind of strange and revealing what a person's value system is when they are all excited and have the money to buy alcoholic drinks and yet not have the funds to buy a phone card to use the phone in the hotel lobby or wherever he is staying . . . So here are some hotties for you to check out . . . Feel free to add some other guys onto this thread, Knowflakes, and have our Lousianagrl all gushy for New Years!   P.S. I had refrained from writing this part earlier, but decided to include it just to round out and complete this reply. A cell phone could be taken any place where there are cell phone towers, even in foreign countries. You could buy a pre-paid SIM card at a local cell phone store, pay a small fee to unlock the phone to accept the more widely available wave, and you can talk to anyone. For travelers, hotels also rent out cell phones and negotiate the destination charges. IP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 472
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted December 28, 2005 11:14 PM
Aphrodite~ Ohh thanks girl! Trust me, I'll have fun with it  Oh and I like the pics... The cell phone thing was interesting. Yeah lets just face it--he doesn't want his girlfriend questioning him while he's on vacation. I probably wouldn't take my phone either! Just to make sure he didn't take it, I called him and got the answering machine. i was somewhat relieved IP: Logged |
Iqhunk
Knowflake Posts: 2132
From: Chennai
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted December 29, 2005 12:48 PM
Sorry for this strongly worded comment, but if a guy wants to leave someone like Lousiana Girl for more than 24 hours when it is not a compulsory business trip, he could be a closet homosexual.... IP: Logged |
crystelle
Knowflake Posts: 425
From: :)
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted December 29, 2005 09:24 PM
i agree! You are the cutest thing!! He is crazy! IP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 472
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted December 29, 2005 09:30 PM
Iqhunk & Crystelle~ Aww shucks...  IP: Logged |
silvermoon
Knowflake Posts: 324
From: Monterey Bay California
Registered: Nov 2005
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posted December 31, 2005 01:45 AM
Hi Louisianagrl, All I can say is this: Remember your past experiences, follow your intuition and,above all, take care of yourself. I know it's hard, but try to find a way to enjoy New Year's without being focused on what he may or may not be doing. You deserve joy and respect and if it's not with him,there are other men out there worthy of your lovely self!   silvermoon   IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 11943
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted December 31, 2005 03:06 AM
I didn't know you were old enough to be going out with a 20 year old.you're only two months into this, so really if you want him to stop acting this way you've got to do something now. You can't let him establish in his mind that it's ok to act that way. If you can cause him to be more respectful now, then you'll know he may be alright for you, but if not you'll see him how he really is and it will be easier to do what you need to do. IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 1382
From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted January 01, 2006 03:06 AM
Wise words AG!!! 
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oddball
Knowflake Posts: 308
From: Canada
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted January 01, 2006 05:49 AM
Judging by your posts and all the compliments you get here in LL, you're probably used to getting guys fawning over you. I'm assuming he's doing this purposely because he knows this will make you more drawn to him because you'd be afraid of losing him to other women, whereas the guys who act awkward and shy around you would be unappealing because they're an easy catch. This type of behaviour portrays alpha male-ness, imo (i.e. independence, wealth, 'I can get any girl I want', 'I am the person who you need to lean on', etc.) on his part, so its only natural it would suck you in. Either that or he might be a jerk without morals, I don't know, you know him not me. And I wouldn't pine over him, like AG said, two months isn't a long time unless you knew him before you started going out. Besides, you're still pretty young and maintaining relationships doesn't mean anything until you get older anyways, because they're all going to end. Keep your eyes open... If you disagree with anything for any reason, say so.Here's more eyecandy LOL. Unfortunately I'm not exactly a Michelangelo sculpture or Schwarzenegger in real life...nor is my head that small or my neck that pixellated.
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marsconjunctmercury
Knowflake Posts: 912
From: Isle of Wight U.K
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted January 01, 2006 07:04 AM
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He sometimes says things that are pretty hurtful like "Can you imagine how good looking the girls are gonna be? D*mn!"
Unacceptable comment i'm afraid. Designed to make you worry. Game playing. ------------------
4th December 1974 18:00GMT Isle of Wight U.K
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ariestiger
Knowflake Posts: 1136
From: UK
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted January 02, 2006 05:47 AM
I agree. Next time he says something like that, applaud. Poke him in the ribs, say cheerfully, "Yay! Bugger off!" and smile as if you know something he doesn't... AT IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 11943
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted January 09, 2006 02:06 PM
At 14, you should really just let him go.IP: Logged |
oddball
Knowflake Posts: 308
From: Canada
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted January 09, 2006 06:49 PM
Agreed. I would stick to people your age group, a 20 year old is much smarter than you just because he is much older than you; it is entirely possible that he is a sexual predator who chooses younger people because he would find you easier to manipulate them without them being wise enough to notice. Again, just my opinion...IP: Logged |
thirteen
Knowflake Posts: 1107
From: Rochester Hills, MI USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted January 10, 2006 11:07 AM
Yes, you don't need comments like that. That is one of those red flags that you need to pay attention to. If he keeps doing that to you then I wouldn't keep him around. You will have lots of guys in your life and you can pick a good one. They are out there.IP: Logged |
Iqhunk
Knowflake Posts: 2132
From: Chennai
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted January 10, 2006 01:34 PM
LouisianaGirl, are you only 14 ????????????
[Me stirred into Big Brother mode...]
Forget the boyfriend and hit the Barron SAT prep books. Trust me, you wont regret the decision.IP: Logged |
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