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Topic: To all you mean moms ...
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Eleanore
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From: Okinawa, Japan
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 27, 2006 10:06 AM
  
Someday when my children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will
tell them, as my Mean Mom told me: I loved you
enough . . to ask where you were going, with whom,
and what time you would be home.
I loved you enough to be silent and let you
discover that your new best friend was a creep.
I loved you enough to make you go pay for the
bubble gum you had taken and tell the clerk, "I
stole this yesterday and want to pay for it."
I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours
while you cleaned your room, a job that should have
taken 15 minutes.
I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must
learn that their parents aren't perfect.
I loved you enough to let you assume the
responsibility for your actions even when the
penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
But most of all, I loved you enough . . . to say
NO when I knew you would hate me for it.
Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm
glad I won them, because in the end you won, too.
And someday when your children are old enough to
understand the logic that motivates parents, you
will tell them.
Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the
meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids
ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal,
eggs, and toast. When others had a Pepsi and a
Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches. And you
can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.
Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all
times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She
had to know who our friends were, and what we were
doing with them. She insisted that if we said we
would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an
hour or less.
We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve
to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work. We
had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to
cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash
and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie
awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.
She always insisted on us telling the truth, the
whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time
we were teenagers, she could read our minds and had
eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really
tough!
Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn
when they drove up. They had to come up to the door
so she could meet them. While everyone else could
date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until
we were 16.
Because of our mother we missed out on lots of
things other kids experienced. None of us have ever
been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's
property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all
her fault.
Now that we have left home, we are all educated,
honest adults. We are doing our best to be mean
parents just like Mom was.
I think that is what's wrong with the world today.
It just doesn't have enough mean moms!
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"To learn is to live, to study is to grow, and growth is the measurement of life. The mind must be taught to think, the heart to feel, and the hands to labor. When these have been educated to their highest point, then is the time to offer them to the service of their fellowman, not before." - Manly P. Hall IP: Logged |
Rainbow~
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posted January 27, 2006 11:15 AM
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sue g
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posted January 27, 2006 11:17 AM
I would replace the word "mean" with kind.....Mean has a very negative connotation.....like with Mr Scrooge....... mean: miserly, ungenerous, petty dispicable, callous... I would not want my son to go on to be "mean" to his children.......kind but firm would be more appropriate  IP: Logged |
noreenz
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posted January 27, 2006 11:34 AM
HI SUE!!!! 
well, I'm all for mean moms, in fact I pride myself on being a "meany mommy" lol, it was always a joke I had with my children, their friends and my neices and nephews. When asked "Whose the meanist Mommy?" replies varied, "You are", "Meany Nee-nee" (Nee-nee, short for Noreen) "Auntie MeanyNee-nee"!!! "Yes children you are correct, and don't you forget it", lol ....Bows.
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Azalaksh
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From: New Brighton, MN, USA
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posted January 27, 2006 01:16 PM
(apologies to soozi, but.....) I got my Black Belt recently in the Meanest Mom in the Universe Tournament.....  Thanks Eleanore! 'Zala IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted January 27, 2006 01:19 PM
AAaaah wellI always did stand apart from the crowd.....hahahhaha !!! And how can the lovewoman be "mean".....nah they dont really go together do they guys?  love and kindness xxxxx IP: Logged |
1scorp
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posted January 27, 2006 02:40 PM
That is the perfect truth. My mom (a strong Taurus) was (is) very much what was described. Some of my extended family thought she was "mean". Yeah, I may have had a lot rules and guidelines to adhere to when I was a kid... but I love her for it. She taught me responsibility, respect, and discipline. Now when I see her with my lil' Aqua and they butt heads ... I just laugh... I'm always grateful and awe of this woman. I still wrestle with some of the necessary tough love that comes with being a mom. This post helped. 
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pinkfairy
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posted January 28, 2006 05:25 AM
OI met the
most
wonderful
of young
men a
while ago and asked
what
accounted
for his
calm and
kind
disposition he said "O
my mother
I suppose
she was
always so
kind
and
gentle and
when she
did have
to say no
I could
always see
love in her
eyes..... O no
mean
mummy
there !! O IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted January 28, 2006 06:25 AM
Oooooooooooh I never thought I would ever say this…but I’m glad my mum did what she did  Shock horror right? Of course she’s not perfect…and as a result, I’m not perfect. But I love her for it And if I have kids, I’ll tell them I had the most wonderful mother. And I’ll raise them completely differently how she raised me  IP: Logged |
Eleanore
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 28, 2006 01:16 PM
LOLYou do realize that the word "mean" is used in a tongue-in-cheek sense in that first post, right? 
I mean, I thought that was pretty dern obvious from the content of the post.
As in, from a child's perspective at that time they would probably think your rules, etc. are "mean" but they're really not. Like, when you want to know where your teen is going and with whom ... they might think you're being "mean" to them but in reality you're concerned about their well-being because you love them.  Glad to know some of you got it. Anyhoo, that was sent to me in an e-mail from my sister. I know my mom is a great mom, but even I'll admit that in my younger years of attempted rebellion I sometimes thought she was being "mean" for not letting me do whatever I wanted. Heaven bless her for not being one of those moms who wasn't interested in my life or who was too afraid to be stern with me for fear that it would ruin our relationship or my perception of her as a "good" mom. We honestly have a wonderful relationship now and I know I'll take her approach on many issues with my children ... even if they do think I'm being "mean" when they're 16 and I don't let them stay out as late as they want with people I've never met. ------------------
"To learn is to live, to study is to grow, and growth is the measurement of life. The mind must be taught to think, the heart to feel, and the hands to labor. When these have been educated to their highest point, then is the time to offer them to the service of their fellowman, not before." - Manly P. Hall IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon
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posted January 28, 2006 07:01 PM
Eleanore  Thats my challenge...with 6 children to raise and remaining to be a mean mum!!! Thanks for the reminder and the inspiration! just some months ago i had my daughter tell me she hated me (aries girl) because of the things i didnt allow her to do and the things i also expected her to do...and now i think to that and smile..she loves me i know it(rarely tells me in words but always in cuddles and touches)...and that time will always be in my mind..while it was difficult it made us both pass a milestone We are closer now than ever..
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sue g
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posted January 29, 2006 11:34 AM
EleanoreNah I didnt understand what you meant girl......I am from Ireland remember......we have different attitudes here..... hahaha !! Mean means......mean here......mean as in cruel, unfair blah blah blah..... IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
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posted January 29, 2006 01:29 PM
Hi Eleanore! Nice to see you around these parts! That was nice... and I am PROUDLY a mean, mean mama! Soogie! How are you? it's nice to see you around here too! IP: Logged |
Alma Sun
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posted October 14, 2011 12:16 AM
Thanks for posting this, I loved it. For me though, I would replace 'mean mom' with 'responsible/respectable dad'. There needs to be more moms and dads like that. ------------------
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1-scorp
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posted October 31, 2011 07:08 PM
"I loved you enough to let you see anger,
disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must
learn that their parents aren't perfect."
I wrestle with this sometimes. This was perfect.
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Randall
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posted November 02, 2011 10:26 AM
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posted November 20, 2011 12:38 PM
I can only imagine how tough it must be to be a mommy or daddy.------------------
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Starry, Starry Night
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posted November 28, 2011 08:44 PM
You don't know the half of it, the worst is teething, terrible twos, teen years and then they leave the coup. The best is being a grandmother when you spoil then hand them back. HahahaIP: Logged |
1-scorp
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posted November 29, 2011 11:12 AM
I dread the "leaving the coup". IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted January 31, 2012 09:45 AM
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posted February 28, 2012 11:32 AM
Grandparents are evil.------------------
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posted May 11, 2012 12:48 PM
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