posted February 19, 2006 05:57 PM         

I mean, I know with emotions like this it's hard to find a sure fire way but I'll pretty much try anything people can think of to make me not like this person, since it's bringing me so much more pain right now than joy... or could this just be that Heartbreak Clash that we have to endure at the moment?

Anyway, this person is related to a lot of things I like in my recent past for the last 3 years so it would be hard to just cut out everything to do with them from my life ala cold turkey cos it would mean burning up all my memories from the remainder of my childhood! haha

Anywho, this isn't a self-pity, look I'm smiling see? haha
I'm just looking for some practical advice.

posted February 19, 2006 06:09 PM         

I don't think it's necessary to "cut out everything to do with them" or "burn up all your memories" -- whatcha need is perspective-tweaking

Sometimes the people we love just can't or won't love us back, and there's nothing you can do but move on. Never forget the good memories and the good times, but move on to make new memories and have new good times.

And unless that Heartbreak Transit is aspecting planets in your chart, you've dodged the bullet

Hang in there, put one foot in front of the other, put a smile on your face so your smiling muscles will make your face think the rest of you is happy, and truck on down the road. Something and Someone Wonderful is ahead -- Happiness is lurking a-ways down the road, waiting to pounce on you when you least expect it!!

'Zala

posted February 19, 2006 07:23 PM         

Anyways I don't have any actual method to get over guys. But I always try to remind myself that I shouldn't make the guy out to be so big. He's a guy, not a superhero.

Normally I think the only way I get over my crushes is to get another crush . Its weird, but it works. Or else, you can find some interests and do some other things to occupy your mind. At first it'll be difficult but as you go on, it just becomes natural. Like I got over one of my crushes by looking up astrology and actually learning about it. Its all a matter of focus. Just focus on other stuff, and let your brain do the rest of the work of forgetting.

Edit: You might want to check this site out: http://www.physics.ohio-state.edu/~sstoneb/agony/ . It made me laugh.

posted February 20, 2006 09:51 AM         

'Zala- Hey I skeptically tried smiling but it actually worked! Funny that... thanks!

cappy- yeah I find getting another crush works but I don't have an abundance of choice round me, plus I'm a pretty desperate needy girl so I don't think that would be healthy for me or the potential victim, I mean, crush.
Oh love the site btw.

AG- Like I said.... I'd feel sorry for whoever gains my attention! Why? You know anyone?

Moon666Child- A reason for what though?

Iqhunk- Lance Armstrong sure is a trooper. What's his sign?

posted February 20, 2006 01:14 PM         

quote:

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Moon666Child- A reason for what though?

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for whatever you want. find love? quit love? live? sleep? eat? have fun? whatever!

posted February 21, 2006 08:20 PM         

You are to young to be feeling like this, you have your whole life to live and many many good things coming up. Don't saddle yourself down to young or you'll grow old and regret not taking advantage of some very exelent and exciting times still yet to come. Its OK to have little crushes but look at them as just that, little crushes. The really big and important relationships are still to come.

posted February 22, 2006 06:37 PM         

I think of the things that caused me pain and look at the lessons I learned. I let myself grieve for that pain and then I tell myself "In a month it will hurt less. In 6 months it will barely be a knot in my stomach. In one year I will ask myself WHAT IN THE HELL WAS I THINKING for hurting over that buttwipe?"

LMAO..

I remember the pain of those crushes - and even now with a broken heart.

I will say this though. The hardest heart to mend is the one where you obsessed / crushed over them for a long time only to have them not want you. Or... it just breaks apart without any real explanation.

Sometimes it is easier to be treated badly and then move on.

posted February 23, 2006 01:11 PM         

Or find out that he’s actually a lousy boyfriend and treats his girlfriend really badly that’s what happened to my Scorpio crush when I was 16.

posted February 23, 2006 03:56 PM         

Hope this helps

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-K
"...poetry is the subtle alchemy of a sensitive soul

like hell it is