posted April 11, 2006 01:15 PM         

1. She's important. Treat her that way!

2. Let her know that you want to understand how she feels.

3. Ask her opinion.

4. Don't surprise her with arbitrary, unilateral decisions.

5. Give her frequent hugs, especially if she is feeling down or depressed. Just hold her, no lectures or advice.

6. Talk to her about how she spends her day at work or at home. Be interested. Handle her with care in every way.

7. Accept her as she is; change you, not her.

8. Get rid of habits that annoy her.

9. Help around the house, and don't expect a twenty-one-gun salute when you do.

10. Let her know how proud you are that she is your wife.Call her if you're going to be late.

11. Surprise her with a card or some flowers. Besides remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays, surprise her with a card or some flowers for no special reason except that you love her.

12. Don't fix it. When she shares a problem with you, don't immediately jump in to be The Great Fixer. Chances are she knows how to solve the problem already and just wants you to listen and empathize.

posted April 12, 2006 01:26 PM         

The best gift I got was a shortwave radio. I mentioned wanting one once and got suprised on my birthday with it.

posted April 12, 2006 06:37 PM         

I don't really like number 8. Everyone has a certain habit of being themselves, and if that's annoying then perhaps they shouldn't be together. If I give number 7, then I want number 7 back.

posted April 13, 2006 09:04 AM         

All it seems to boil down to is respect each other in all situations. Thats about the hardest thing to do though isn't it?

posted April 13, 2006 11:28 AM         

Swerve
"Quite frankly I don't see how that list could possibly be gender-biased in any way or one-directional.
All it seems to boil down to is respect each other in all situations."

1scorp
Totally agree with ALL you said!
And this is percfect!
"Don't expect more from someone than what you're willing to put in yourself."

Exactly!

posted April 14, 2006 01:14 PM         

My ideal man will have these two qualities:

He will have trancended his ego. So that anything I ever said or did, would be incapable of hurting him. Beause he would know why I do and say, everything I do and say. He would understand that I'm only human.....well, not really actually but, you know what I mean. He would know that we are all loving beings and that's all we are here to help each other be. I, in turn would understand the same things about him. And together we would understand everyone else and make our own heaven on earth.

The other quality he needs - or has, is a strong sense of humor. My divine man knows that life is for the laughing. And loving. And that is it. That this Life is a divine comedy. And is meant to be Joyful. That we should laugh, sing, dance more. Be a little crazier. That only mad people can afford to be joyful and happy...(Osho says something along those lines...and it's Truth.) People who have trancended the ego are able to see this. They can laugh at themselves and everything else because they know it's all a game, a play of sorts.
He would understand that it's all about living in and following your bliss. Being.

Together we would walk hand in hand, laughing at the beauty of it all. Two little laughing buddhas. We would be in capable of hurting one another because we would understand each other fully. We would be divine equals.

Okay.
Soooo, my ideal man is an Ascended Master.
....a Paramahansa Yogananda of sorts.
So what.
One can dream and hope cant they?

Is that too much to ask? I dont think so.