posted August 06, 2006 03:24 PM         

i dont know, does calling your mother the c-word and b**** repeatedly constitute family oriented content?

posted August 06, 2006 06:20 PM         

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Would men be so keen on wearing heels themselves, huh? Not too many of them would, I'm sure!

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posted August 06, 2006 07:09 PM         

can they not wear their trainers to do physical activities, then come home, change clothes and go to dinner, in a svelte, sophisticated pair of heels?

does this cancel out a woman's possession of brains and a good soul?

women also dress to appear attractive, as do men....men and women do the mating dance thing...i think they enjoy it?

perhaps women should just wear burkas all the time?

women also starve themselves in their quest for beauty and sex appeal...they ingest toxic substances for the appearance of 'beauty'....they use these toxic substances in body and hair care products daily. they spend enormous amounts of money on their physical appearance and looks rather then investing in books, their children, and all sorts of more brain and soul enhancing items.

beauty is all the rage...we are all oppressed.

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How many years can a mountain exist
Before it's washed to the sea?

Yes, 'n how many years can some people exist
Before theyre allowed to be free?

Yes, 'n how many times can a man turn his head,
Pretending he just doesnt see?

The answer, my friend, is blowin in the wind,
The answer is blowin in the wind.

posted August 06, 2006 11:51 PM         

I'm 5'10" 1/2 but I like to be TALLER. Just makes me happy to be taller. And, generally, I *do* like the way they make my butt look.

posted August 06, 2006 11:58 PM         

Moreover, I think women who are extremely negative about behavior of other women - especially ones that involve sexual expression, subtle or not so subtle - probably harbor some self-loathing and insecurities about their own feminine power and sexuality. Maybe Freud wrote an essay about that.

posted August 07, 2006 01:31 AM         

I for one cannot stand high heels. I refuse to wear them. Sometimes, maybe it's the Gemini Asc in me, I'll wear them for special occasions, and almost always end up with sore feet by the end of the night. My feet were not designed to be walking, standing or moving in any which way in high heels.

If I were shorter, like some of my girlfriends and felt I needed the height I would where chunky heels or platform type shoes only.

posted August 07, 2006 01:00 PM         

i did read your previously posts carefully...these are the statements to which i responded ~

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Which one do you want? Having your feet worshipped by men as fetishes (even other parts of your bodies- since someone just mentioned that heels may make our bottocks "bigger"), or making sure your intelligence is intact?

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and you ask hot ice to 'choose' ~

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Do you prefer a woman with a "bigger/cuter" butt, longer/sexier legs, "sexy" feet with heels on but mutilated feet with heels off, and probably nothing else, or not much else, or-

a woman with a brain, a good mind, a loving soul?

I look forward to your answers. I wonder what in a woman is more important to you.

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you posed these questions in such a manner that implies that a woman wearing high heels is fundamentally different than a woman with a brain, loving soul and intelligence.

but your reply to me seems somewhat contradictory ~

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I'm positive that a woman can have a brain, a good mind, a good, loving soul AND wear heels, and wearing heels DOES NOT cancel out a woman's possession of brains and a good soul. I was not implying what you thought I was- I was not saying women who wear heels do not have brains, good minds or good and loving souls.

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some people view wearing heels as an expression of empowerment; the following statements imply the opposite, and that you are preaching that heels render women inferior, weak and ridiculous victims.

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Wearing heels seems to be some deeply-rooted, twisted complex we as women have been suffering for generations. We enjoy heels as one of the symbols of our sexuality, our femininity; we don't realize that we have been victims of oppression.

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I am startled and dismayed that these highly educated women, who are experts in medicine, who are doctors- even psychiatrists at that- can allow themselves to look like such f**king barbies!

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as for the image i presented of an advertisement illustrating the allure of high heels, your initial views seemed very disparaging of the woman in the ad ~

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My intuition tells me that a woman like that is...I'll refrain from making controversial comments here. I'd just like to say that I think a woman like this one can only live an existence as an object being exhibited.

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what controversial sentiment were you harboring about "a woman like this one"?? like what? because she appears in a sensuous pose she "can only live an existence as an object being exhibited"?

why is that? does her momentary expression of her sensuality negate every other aspect of her life, so that she is nothing more than on object? why does the wearing of heels, and/or a sensuous moment flatten so irrevocably the dimensionality of a woman's existence?

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I've always make efforts to ensure that people are fully aware that I am a woman...

With moderate heels and reasonable amount of jewelry, e.g. modest earrings, tiny necklaces...I wanted to make sure that people would not misidentify me as anything but a woman. A woman who's sexually attracted to men (mainly- if speaking in strict, technical terms) and NOT a lesbian LOL

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this seems very naive, and indicative of your limited ideas of what qualifies as a person's expression of sexual preference. perhaps if you wish to "question some things that have been perceived as perfectly normal," you might begin with your preconceptions of what identifies a person's sexual orientation.

and about your experience with your parents ~

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I realized a long time ago that only an extremely few can ever comprehend my predicaments and how incredibly abusive and emotionally unstable my parents have been, and in this case, my mother.

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posted August 07, 2006 06:05 PM         

I remember something that struck me hard… An explanation, scientific explanation, of why high heels are so sexy… Why men like women wearing them...

Apparently a raised foot arch is a feminine characteristic, evolutionarily speaking. Females of early humans developed high foot arches when they started to walk on two feet. That helped them to keep balance when they were pregnant… When pregnant, centre of mass changes, moves a bit forward. Curved feet made easier to stand for those with heavy bellies. Evolutionary advantage related to femininity…

posted August 09, 2006 08:56 AM         

The only time heels looked normal on me was when I was anorexic.
Forget that crap!

So no heels, no bra, no girly foo foo here.

Unless I do it for me.
Not for anyone else.

So if that makes me weird. I really do not care.

PS.D for Defiant.
If you cannot get along with your mother. then write her out of your life the best you can, as I have done with mine. Sometimes with toxic ones that is all we can do. At least yours does not threaten to kill you.

posted August 10, 2006 07:47 AM         

But to those who can wear the heels...
Go for it!
BTW...in the 1960s and 1970s guys did wear high heeled boots! And some clogs.

posted August 10, 2006 09:31 AM         

you actually do express yourself very well and with an articulate sensitivity that's admirable.

i do hope sincerely that you find a way to reconcile, within yourself, the suffering you feel at the hands of your parents. you will work through it, try letting your higher s-elf guide you...you will come to a place of understanding and repose, in however you choose to live your life, in the best way possible for you. just remember ~ do what's best for you, love yourself. loving kindness from a heart that loves will affect everyone else involved in a positive and beneficial way.