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From: Missouri-Misery
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posted August 15, 2006 02:41 PM         

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Well, I found out Saturday a friend of mine in the Army was killed by a roadside bomb in Iraq. He was so full of life, alert, and happy-go-lucky I can't believe something like that could happen to him. It's made me realize that 'it' can happen to anyone, anytime, anywhere, and is very indiscriminate.
It's also made me ask why he and thousands of others are in Iraq to start with.
So, a moment of silence for Kevin. Gonna miss you.

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posted August 15, 2006 03:24 PM         

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posted August 15, 2006 05:08 PM         

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So sorry to hear that, whalewasp and I know you're going to miss your friend, Kevin....

If it was his time to go, chances are
he may have gotten killed right here in an auto accident or something.......but believe me I DO understand your question about the war......

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It's also made me ask why he and thousands of others are in Iraq to start with..

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.....and my answer is.......THERE IS NO GOOD REASON WHATSOEVER!

From day one when bush and cronies put on their spectacular display of "SHOCK AWE" in Iraq, I've been heartsick....

....heartsick because of the idiocy of it all, and heartsick for all the UNNECESSARY SUFFERING AND DEATH that I knew would ensue..

.....and the bloodthirsty maniac and his cronies are still at it!!!

Sending my prayers to you, as well as Kevin's family.....

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posted August 15, 2006 05:12 PM         

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So sorry...

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posted August 15, 2006 06:02 PM         

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My Condolensces

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posted August 15, 2006 09:02 PM         

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posted August 16, 2006 12:50 PM         

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Thanks all. The whole ordeal has been making me think a little more closely on what being alive is. Is our fate set in stone and un-avoidable? I guess if one thinks about it all the time instead of just letting things go as they are already set in motion, there's really no point in thinking about it.

We can form our own opinions on Iraq, my own being that it's all about big oil as I've thought from the start. But my friend really liked his job, and was so good he actually helped out other units outside his.

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posted August 16, 2006 05:20 PM         

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posted August 16, 2006 05:56 PM         

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That's awful. I'm so sorry.

We're here if you need someone.

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posted August 16, 2006 06:04 PM         

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posted August 17, 2006 12:17 AM         

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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posted August 17, 2006 04:25 PM         

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posted August 18, 2006 10:02 AM         

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I want to help somehow, but it's kind of awkward as he was the younger brother of an ex in-law, but it's heart wrenching thinking of how his mother is taking it, and even more so with his widow and four children.

Any suggestions?

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posted August 18, 2006 12:10 PM         

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I'm so sorry too. There's so many feelings people feel when they lose someone in this way. I live in a military town, so I've seen how that is for those who have lost someone in Iraq.

If you live in the same town as Kevin's family, you can offer to do little things. It's best not to be too intrusive, letting the family mourn with some privacy. But offering to help with some chores, like yardwork or grocery shopping, or having them over for dinner or bringing them cooked or baked food so they don't feel isolated are good ways to help without being intrusive. Of course, allow them to decline your help if they wish, but let them know you are willing if they ever need the help.

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