posted August 23, 2006 03:34 PM         

All my love, sorry for your loss.

posted August 23, 2006 03:35 PM         

All my love, so sorry for your loss.

posted August 24, 2006 06:52 AM         

In Ireland when some passes over they have the funeral within a couple of days to ensure the spirit passes over quickly. I am told Jewish people bury their loved ones within 24 hours. My mothers funeral is in England...they normally take a little longer, but not this long....

Because of my sister, my mother has to wait for over two weeks to have her farewell...

posted August 24, 2006 08:24 AM         

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, and what your sis is putting you & your dad through.

I'm an easy going person, but I think I'd have to slap her upside her head!

I believe funerals are for the living. The soul has already left the body. You & your poor father are the ones who are dealing with this. You both have my deepest sympathies.

posted August 28, 2006 04:23 AM         

LOve and blessings....

posted August 28, 2006 03:53 PM         

Wish I could send real flowers for your Mom

posted September 01, 2006 09:49 AM         

Eliza so sorry to hear about yer mother....its very difficult isnt it coming to terms that they wont be there in body (but of course always in spirit). I hope things ease for you soon....

I am going to UK tomorrow and just wanted to say thanks to everyone who supported me on this...it really does make a difference and proves that even though we are all in different parts of the globe, we are truly connected.

Thankyou knowflakes. thankyou so much....

God bless

posted September 01, 2006 08:39 PM         

*I wanted to add something I read today. My daughter's grandpa passed away a few weeks ago (my daughter's father's side) and on one of the sympathy cards his wife received was this:

"We live in hearts. To leave behind is not to die."

posted September 12, 2006 09:34 AM         

Thanks D for your kind words..

Yes my sister and father had fallen out cos of her husband mainly. There were things done around money, they tried to get money from my parents and it put a rift between my sister and father. Also because of his mental illness and depression, she didnt want to see him or be part of his life. She thinks all people with mental problems are weak, including our Dad. When he broke down years ago she said she felt revulsion. Although I was only 16, I felt compassion....that is the differnce between us...

I do understand her in a way. He can be scary to be around when he starts muttering to himself and crying and becoming difficult. I suppose what gets me through with him is prayer and bringing in the light and of course love. Its the only way I survive these days. I am not judging her I just feel its sad for all concerned.

When I saw her I couldnt believe how unhappy she looked, old and drawn...no light or peace about her....tis a shame, but unfortunately I cant help her at the moment, as she has the daggers in my back...I need to stand back until such time she heals a little more.

Thanks for your interest....bless you....

posted September 12, 2006 11:39 AM         

I'm so sorry darling. I hope she is in a better place, wherever it may be... I send my light for your poor dad... WOW, how amazing and wonderful, 57 years together...

posted September 12, 2006 11:47 AM         

Yes I believe my mother should have been buried quickly...they do so here in Eire to enable the soul to pass on quickly....as do the Jewish people.

My poor dad had to wait all that time and he nearly didnt make it...I was afraid the strain would have been too much for him. He was going crazy, I was staying with him and it was very scary stuff.....wont go into details, but needless to say it has really taken its toll on me!

To add insult to injury, no one turned up for the internment (burial) the next day. Mum was cremated and had her ashes buried in the graveyard where here mother and father were buried. My hubbie and I were the only ones too show. Poor dad would have been on his own.

The Irish are disgusted at this story.....

So am I...... My faith in humanity has been shaken a little by all of this.

posted September 12, 2006 05:46 PM         

Why or how your sister has behaved this way is a matter for her and her conscience I suppose but I have a feeling a lot of it's the product of guilt and denial. I suspect that she will need you, her wonderfully warm and wise sister, more than she ever realised she could need anything or anyone one day soon. Those who shut others out and put things over people often seem to be the most afraid out of all of us, terrified of emotions and of feeling, and consequently, they move themselves further and further away from the very thing that could help them - love. For that, I really pity them.