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posted August 22, 2006 05:36 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Anybody familuar with HSPs? I just discovered that I'm one of them.....

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AcousticGod
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posted August 22, 2006 06:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've seen the book. It certainly resonates, especially being sensitive to loud noises and lots of commotion.

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You have indicated that 17 of the items are true of you.

We had a brief thread on this quite a while back in Astrology I think it was.

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posted August 22, 2006 08:09 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Self-Test Results

You have indicated that 24 of the items are true of you.(out of 27).


Scoring:
If you answered more than fourteen of the questions as true of yourself, you are probably highly sensitive. But no psychological test is so accurate that an individual should base his or her life on it. We psychologists try to develop good questions, then decide on the cut off based on the average response.

If fewer questions are true of you, but extremely true, that might also justify calling you highly sensitive.


http://hsperson.com/pages/test.htm

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~I intend to continue learning forever~Enigma
~I am still learning~ Michangelo
The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.~Enigma
The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.~NEXUS
Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.~Enigma
In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem.
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posted August 22, 2006 08:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You have indicated that 24 of the items are true of you.


Scoring:
If you answered more than fourteen of the questions as true of yourself, you are probably highly sensitive. But no psychological test is so accurate that an individual should base his or her life on it. We psychologists try to develop good questions, then decide on the cut off based on the average response.

If fewer questions are true of you, but extremely true, that might also justify calling you highly sensitive

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posted August 22, 2006 09:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Heart--Shaped Cross     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You have indicated that 26 of the items are true of you.

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posted August 22, 2006 10:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Heart--Shaped Cross     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Highly Sensitive People

According to Elaine Aron, author of The Highly Sensitive Person, about 20% of the population are thought to have a more finely tuned central nervous system, which may cause them to be more susceptible to environmental stimuli such as noise, fragrance, certain foods, chaos, beauty, and/or pain. The trait can be a blessing and a challenge, depending upon how we choose to view it.


HSP Subcultures

The Social Justice/Activist HSP
Deeply moved to action by injustices whether upon people or the environment. Usually dedicated to many causes to improve human and earthly conditions…view new paradigms for a new world.
Challenges: Being overwhelmed with too many causes, not finding like-minded support groups to work with, feeling isolated, and perhaps feeling judgmental of others.
Tasks: To find support, choose causes wisely, and realize that small changes do make a difference. Avoid burn out.

HSP Physical Reactor
HSPs who are unusually physically reactive to certain foods, noise, lights, stress. Physical reactions may include allergies, sweaty palms, nervousness, nausea, migraine headaches.
Challenges: Creating, seeking, or finding supportive environments which honor your physical sensitivities.
Task: Devoting investigative time to determine what triggers physical reactions and what alleviates the reactions. Accepting that not all people will understand these reactions.

Reserved Intellectual HSP
Usually introverts with keen intellect. May appear arrogant, but may not necessarily be that way.
Challenges: Finding ways and motivations to develop intellect and to share oneself and one's gifts with others and the world.
Tasks: Avoiding isolation, and learning to accept others of 'different' intellect. Reaching out, becoming involved.

Creative/Artistic HSP
Those HSPs who need to create and manifest their ideas or visions. Medium may be music, drama, art, ideas, books, poetry, painting, etc.
Challenges: Accepting, honoring and understanding the creative process and finding a medium for this expression.
Tasks: Learning how to manifest creative urges, finding support, education and time to create. Patience, perseverance.

The HSP Healer
Medical doctors and alternative healers who are unusually intuitive using their gifts to offer healing to others. Alternative healing modalities may be Reiki, massage, medical intuitive, etc.
Challenge: Accepting one's gifts and finding expression for them.
Task: Finding support and encouragement from like minded individuals and learning to trust your own gifts and use them appropriately.

Empowered Priestly Advisor
Evidenced by energetic, purposeful and spiritual direction in their lives.
Challenges: Taking on too many causes and expecting others to think like them. Periods of loss of faith or "dark nights of the soul."
Tasks: Finding support and like-minded individuals to work with. Avoiding burn-out. Accepting small change as progress.

The HSP in Transition
The person who has just discovered the trait of high sensitivity. May feel alone, misunderstood, judged, and may also feel relief at knowing about the trait.
Challenges: Self-identify, reframing, healing from past negativity about trait. Must learn to set boundaries and assert new self.
Tasks: Taking time to investigate the trait, set new boundaries, practice new coping skills.

The Core Issue HSP
The HSP from a traumatic, troubled and sometimes abandoned childhood. May have suffered from some type of abuse.
Challenge: Healing from past traumas, learning to integrate the HSP trait in a positive way.
Task: Reaching out for help, staying committed to 'recovery,' finding new kinds of support, friendship and community to be part of.

The Introverted Intellectual HSP
Somewhat different from the "Reserved Intellectual HSP" in that this HSP is drawn either to the scientific fields of inquiry (The Thinker) or to the psycho-spiritual fields of study (The Feeler) (or both?).
Challenges: Self-identity, reframing, and perhaps readjusting to a new HSP self.
Tasks: Finding ways for self-expression and to share gifts with others and the world. Avoiding isolation. Accepting others who are 'different' from them.

The Wise, Saintly HSP
The Mother Teresas of the world. Supreme devotion to serve a higher spiritual calling.
Challenge: Finding unique expression for your calling.
Task: Avoid isolation, burn out. Learn to practice self-care.

The Caregivers and Guardians of Childhood, the Elderly, and the Dying
Those who find caring for children, the elderly and the dying come naturally. They have a unique ability to serve those with special needs.
Challenges: Finding support and structure to provide unique kind of care.
Task: Finding time away from caring and giving to others. Practicing self-care. Learning not to 'care and give' too much – usually at their own expense.

The Calloused, Unrecognized HSP
The HSP who has either ignored traits of sensitivity, or who were never given the gift of knowledge about the trait. May appear unfeeling, scornful or contemptuous, usually not capable of being in loving, reciprocal relationships. (We might see our parents in this subculture?)
Challenges: Becoming knowledgeable about the trait of high sensitivity is a major break through for the Calloused HSP.
Tasks: Avoiding becoming embittered, sick, dysfunctional, addicted to drugs or alcohol. Must be willing to find appropriate intervention to begin long process of healing.


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Stages of Awareness of HSPs

Stage 1: Disparage
To belittle, demean, ridicule, discredit
(HSPs are weak, irritable, inferior, fearful, too emotional, too nervous.)

Stage 2: Deny
To refuse to recognize or acknowledge
(You're too sensitive, you need to toughen up, bite the bullet, suck it up.)

Stage 3: Acknowledge
To admit to be real or true; to recognize the existence of different needs and ways of being
(Yes...your needs and mine are different ... help me to understand you, so I can help you to understand me.)

Stage 4: Affirm
To state or assert positively
(HSPs have a unique way of being in the world, we have a more finely tuned central nervous system, and we process things deeply and purposefully.)

Stage 5: Promote
To further, advance, or exalt; put in a higher position
(HSPs are not "better" than non-HSPs, nor are we superior...
HSPs have unique gifts, talents, and skills and much to contribute to the world around us, our families, our workplaces, relationships, etc.)

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Heart--Shaped Cross
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posted August 22, 2006 10:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Heart--Shaped Cross     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"What keeps most people from suffering very much is lack of imagination.... Everything great that we know has come from neurotics. It is they and only they who have founded religions and created great works of art. Never will the world be aware of how much it owes to them, nor, above all, what they have sufferred in order to bestow their gifts upon it."
- Marcel Proust
(author of "In Search of Lost Time",
considered by many, including myself,
to be the greatest novel of the twentieth century)

In the psychopathic temperament we have the emotionality which is the sine qua non of moral perception; we have the intensity and tendency to emphasis which are the essence of practical moral vigor; and we have the love of metaphysics and mysticism which carry one's interests beyond the surface of the sensible world. What, then, is more natural than that this temperament should introduce one to regions of religious truth, to corners of the universe, which your robust Philistine type of nervous system, forever offering its biceps to be felt, thumping its breast, and thanking Heaven that it hasn't a single morbid fibre in its composition, would be sure to hide forever from its self-satisfied possessors?
If there were such a thing as inspiration from a higher realm, it might well be that the neurotic temperament would furnish the chief condition of the requisite receptivity. - William James

Where there is suffering there is holy ground. - Oscar Wilde

Have pity on me; for the hand of God hath touched me. - Job

Suffering is the ancient law of love; there is no quest without pain; there is no lover who is not also a martyr. - Heinrich Suso

I found it hard. It's hard to find. Oh well, whatever, nevermind. - Kurt Cobain

Desperation is sometimes as powerful an inspirer as genius. - Benjamin Disraeli

Of all that is written, I love only what a person has written with his own blood - Friedrich Nietzsche

Stupidity often saves a man from going mad. - Oliver Wendell Holmes

I wish I was like you; easily amused. - Kurt Cobain

If any man come to me, and hate not his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Jesus of Nazareth

Yes, I have an ulcer! Of course, I have an ulcer! This is Kali Yuga, buddy. The Iron Age. Anybody without an ulcer by the age of sixteen is a goddam' spy! - Zooey Glass (J.D. Salinger)

I want to love first, and live incidentally. - Zelda Fitzgerald

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Rainbow~
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posted August 22, 2006 11:56 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Twenty five of the items were true of me...*sigh*

Moon Pisces
Venus Pisces
Saturn Pisces

Mars Scorpio

Pluto Cancer

Scorpio Rising...

All that water...*sigh*

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salome
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posted August 23, 2006 12:12 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh my, heartshapedcross, all that you wrote of just touched me so much at this moment...what part of the collective unconscious is that you tap into that resonates so much in my soul like that??

i have read a little of Proust, i was however too sensitive, i think, to digest it! i couldnt read on. i felt it wrench in me so deeply, i felt it so much, even now thinking of it, i feel a nostalgia so profound i become afraid.

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DayDreamer
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posted August 23, 2006 01:06 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"You have indicated that 15 of the items are true of you."


I qualify by one item.

Im definitely a Social Justice/Activist HSP, and a few others.

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Heart--Shaped Cross
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posted August 23, 2006 03:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Heart--Shaped Cross     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you, Salome.

Proust is a trip, to be sure.

"Never shall I find again that divine thing; a person with whom I could talk freely of everything, in whom I could confide. Confide? But did not others offer me greater confidence than Albertine? With others, did I not have more extensive conversations? The fact is that confidence and conversation are ordinary things in themselves, and what does it matter if they are less than perfect if only there enters into them love, which alone is divine. I could see Albertine now, seated at her pianola, pink-faced beneath her dark hair; I could feel against my lips, which she would try to part, her tongue, her maternal, incomestible, nutritious, hallowed tongue, whose secret dewy flame, even when she merely ran it over the surface of my neck or my stomach, gave to those caresses of hers, superficial but somehow imparted by the inside of her flesh, externalized like a piece of material, reversed to show its lining, at is were, the mysterious sweetness of a penetration."


hsc
"tapping the collective unconscious since 1978"


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fayte.m
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posted August 23, 2006 08:48 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
All 27 were true of me until I took A Dale Carnegie course about 20 years ago.

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Age is a State of Mind. Change Your Mind!
~I intend to continue learning forever~Enigma
~I am still learning~ Michangelo
The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.~Enigma
The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.~NEXUS
Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.~Enigma
In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem.
-NEXUS-

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posted August 24, 2006 02:07 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I scored 27. However, I have Asperger's Syndrome, and people with AS definitely have very different nervous systems than other "neurotypical" people. As norm we are much more sensitive, and things like sensory hypersensitivies and being easily overwhelmed by activity/stimuli, particularly in social sittings or "artifical," man-made environments, are among of the diagnostic critieria for AS. It's not uncommon for people with AS, for example, to find flourescent lightning unbearable, either due to the ugly, unnatural kind of light those bulbs create or the high pitch electronic whine they make(or both). Another thing common to AS people is being easily taxed by the presence of other people. Sometimes, something like a few minutes of small talk can drain us or make us feel "toxic." Oh, and crowds....yikes. LOL.

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i read two books of hers, which were instrumental in reconciling with my "normal" leo, extroverted husband.

good job HSC for posting information.

ID, thank you for bringing this up.


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posted August 24, 2006 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teaselbaby     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I scored 23. My Sister read this book a few years ago, but I didn't get around to it before it had to go back to the library. I'll have to look out for it.

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posted August 25, 2006 08:53 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You have indicated that 14 of the items are true of you.


Scoring:
If you answered more than fourteen of the questions as true of yourself, you are probably highly sensitive. But no psychological test is so accurate that an individual should base his or her life on it. We psychologists try to develop good questions, then decide on the cut off based on the average response.

If fewer questions are true of you, but extremely true, that might also justify calling you highly sensitive.

Well, am on the border!!

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Cynnared
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posted May 21, 2010 08:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cynnared     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Where does one find the site that shows the different kinds of HSPs?

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Got Gemini?
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posted May 23, 2010 08:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Got Gemini?     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I scored 9 were true for me. I used to be a DJ so I LOVE loud music.

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posted September 29, 2010 12:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh, thanks, I've been meaning to read this book

"Self-Test Results

You have indicated that 17 of the items are true of you.

Scoring:
If you answered more than fourteen of the questions as true of yourself, you are probably highly sensitive. But no psychological test is so accurate that an individual should base his or her life on it. We psychologists try to develop good questions, then decide on the cut off based on the average response."

Thanks for the quiz, too.

I like gory movies in the daytime, with violent themes, so that's a factor against sensitivity, caffeine never has had an effect on me, sometimes i like when a lot is going on (being v.busy), etc.

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posted December 06, 2010 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting.

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posted December 06, 2010 05:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunChild     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
25 out of 26.

My life is very managable and I enjoy being highly senstive- the benefits are great love making, enjoyment of food to the extreme, being sensual, noticing the finer things and the ability to feel intense gratitude and Love.
I avoid violence, loud people and loud music, Sanguines and Cholerics in low doses, I avoid too much alcohol and other stimulants, and I can pretty much survive. Love getting out into nature and keeping to myself with a good book, and being with family of course.
I also would like to become a doula (birth assistant) and I think that has to do with my sensitive nature.

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posted December 22, 2010 12:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's a high score.

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posted December 22, 2010 02:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Eek!
I am back to 26!

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posted January 23, 2011 12:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I scored 10.

Yea I love loud music, and voilent movies, books, and music too.

But I feel like I am sensiive to environments. I feel so uncomfortible when I am cold. The temperature needs to be 72 degres at the least for me to feel comfortible in a room.

I do get easily overwhelmed and stressed out half of the time.

And I sware to God I have hypoglycemia. I seriously need to see a doctor about that, if I don't eat or smoke a cig every 3 hours I fall apart.

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posted January 23, 2011 01:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for blonderiverkat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't have to take a test...I already know...in some ways it's a blessing, others it's a curse.. lol

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