posted December 16, 2006 10:10 AM            

My boyfriend loves them and I join in and play with him occasionally. Don't buy them for your kids if you hate them that much.

posted December 16, 2006 10:21 AM            

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Video Games kick a$$ (except when they take up my bf's attention)

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I was gonna say its a great couple's activity if you play togather but you already said that you do Lol!

Halo is quite the couple's game (if you playing cooperative offcourse and not out ot kill each other .) Its amazing as to how many creative tactics couples can come up with togather.

posted December 16, 2006 10:49 AM              

it is dedicated to her Life's Work,
her great work, to teach US how to
Master OurSelves...

Star Signs and Gooberz, was her true
interest. Have you all read both these books?

instead, what we get are insults, people
assuming things and twisting things around
to fit there personal agenda..

I suggest opening your own site..
perhaps on Video games
if that is truly so interesting

posted December 16, 2006 10:56 AM            

To jump to radical conclusions without better understanding is by itself a dangerous act (though occasonally, one has to take the leap of faith.)

It may be a Linda Goodman Site but this IS a free-for-all forum section . Making friends means getting to know other people's interests. Anyone who plays Video Games in moderation will tell you that its quite a wonderful social and interactive tool. But anything is good only in moderation.

posted December 16, 2006 11:42 AM              

then you probably shouldnt watch football,american football,Formula one racing,cricket or wrestling of any form and boxing...

teletubbys and smurfs... should probably be the only thing kids should do..no wait even that involves randomly zapping other characters with magic weapons etc..

posted December 16, 2006 11:51 AM            

I may not be a parent (yet ) but I do believe that a child has to be given enough ground to be able to scape his/her knee knee once in a while. What a parent needs to do is be there for the child if things get a bit TOO rough.

To quote a good friend of mines (he is a divorced single parent and loves his daughter deeply.)

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Mostly agree. Coddling your kid teaches them that they NEED someone to help them through life's rudimentry problems. When my daughter falls down, I take great pride in watching her pick herself up and dust herself off. How's it going to be when I'm not there? I'd rather she have the self confidence to try, fail, and try again than have me *help* her through every life task.

You don't have to agree with me but when you have your mid 20's kids still wanting to live at home, don't be surprised.

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posted December 18, 2006 03:52 PM              

Actually... I don't mind keeping my kids at home with me till they can afford to buy their own place or until they get married.

As long as they are saving up for better use of their money. Why waste money renting a place when I have a big enough place for them to stay?

Both my hubby and I lived with our parents (him longer than me) until we moved in together. I don't see anything wrong with that. It gave us time to save up to put downpayment on our house and we will forever be greatful to them.

Of course it's a different story when the kids are bumming around the house doing nothing all day just because they stay with you. If mine does that, they will be kicked out of the house so fast.

I also disagree with not consoling kids when they are young. Why ever not? They are kids. It's a tough world out there. They don't have to feel like it's a tough world at home too! I want them to feel like they can trust me, that they can count on me to help them through tough times, or when they need someone to console them, or a shoulder to cry on. Why not?

I would rather that my kids come to me when they have a problem, and I will help them get back on their feet. They will still need to get up and dust their pants off on their own but they will know that I am there consoling them when they are hurt.

What I wouldn't want is for them to feel like they have to go drown their sorrow on a bottle of scotch somewhere in a dark hole...

Getting back to the original topic, I buy games for my kids. When they were little, they had all the games in the world I can afford. They are now in their late teens and still carry on with their love of gaming.

In fact, I used to play the games with them. They are actually bugging me to get World of Warcraft so I can play with them. It teaches them cooperation with other players... teamwork. Also teaches them to think outside the box.

I am buying my 5 year old V-Tech this Christmas. They have some good educational games that he can really benefit from. In case you didn't know, he is autistic. But he loves watching videos - I bought him a lot of educational videos.

I am so proud of him because he can read a lot of words from the "book" videos I bought. I am planning on getting him hooked on the gaming ones to teach him other stuff.

I think everything in moderation is not bad... it includes cuddling the kids when they are hurt, letting them watch videos, play games, etc. The only time it gets bad is if you not only console the kid but also "baby" them so much that they don't even know how to dust their pants off or if you are buying games that does nothing else but show you gore and blood.

Of course, everything I said above is just my opinion. My way of raising my kids. It doesn't mean that other ways are bad... Each kid is different and each parent is also different.

posted December 19, 2006 02:11 AM            

I was hanging out with an old buddy and his family and the kids had toy guns outside. Now, I can admit that I had a little bit of judgement in my mind over his allowing his boys to play some video games that I felt were too "mature" for them. When one of the boys handed my tiny, innocent, beautiful, 2 or 3 year old daughter a tiny squirt gun type water pistol, I had a surge of anguish and anxiety and my friend looked at me (they used to tease me about my "mom" type of treatment to them but grew to appreciate my wisdom) and he asked respectfully and with questioning in his eyes... "is that ok?"
The tone of his voice valued my opinion so greatly and made me remember that this was a GOOD man with a GREAT heart and a GREAT mind and maybe... just maybe... I'm the one who had something to learn.

I opened my mind to what good could come from such violent toys and.....
I saw those boys.
His beautiful boys that I love.
And I saw that they were turning into men.

Only how many years away from some random politician tearing them away from their family and putting a gun in their hands and sending them to kill or be killed.

I looked at that GOOD GOOD father who was preparing and training his boys to stay alive.

posted December 19, 2006 03:13 AM              

They were crappy and boring IMO...luckily my mom and dad knew this and never got me any of that stuff...