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Topic: hi everyone
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my_eternal_destiny
Knowflake Posts: 14
From: Springfield Mo Usa
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted January 05, 2007 04:05 PM
 
hey everyone how are you i just wanted to say hi and see if anyone could give a little guidance on something...... well my b/f asked me too marry him and im not sure im ready for that.... but i dont want to hurt his feeling.. so what should i say...... IP: Logged |
Gooberzlostlovefound
Knowflake Posts: 1205
From: and the embers never fade in your city by the lake
Registered: Jan 2002
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posted January 05, 2007 04:42 PM
Hi Eternal  I like your username. Can you tell us a little more? IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 11943
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted January 05, 2007 04:48 PM
Say, "I'm not sure I'm ready for that."  IP: Logged |
MysticMelody
Moderator Posts: 3521
From:
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted January 05, 2007 05:03 PM
NO!!!!
 Well that was easy, any other questions?  Hello Destiny Welcome to LindaLand... (where are you people with the scroll and trumpets???) ok, some serious advice on what you should say to not hurt his feelings...... You:
I have been thinking about this too. I feel this way about you *insert the way you feel here* and I know our relationship is serious. I am not ready to get married yet and I wouldn't want to cheat you by just saying yes and then not being able to follow through with the serious vows we will be taking, if and when the time is right. I need this much more time *insert reasonable time here* and by then I will know if I am ready or if we should both just move on. I can't predict the future of this, which is why it is best that I wait. I won't change my mind about this, but I am willing to go to some pre-marriage councelling so we can figure this out and decide what is best for both of us. Him:
But!!!! You:
I won't change my mind about this, but I will go talk to a councellor or clergy, etc, because I do love you and I am unsure of what is best for both of us. IP: Logged |
my_eternal_destiny
Knowflake Posts: 14
From: Springfield Mo Usa
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted January 06, 2007 12:10 AM
well thanks you guys i really appreciate the advice IP: Logged |
lalalinda
Moderator Posts: 3291
From: nevada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted January 06, 2007 12:28 AM
tact and honesty  IP: Logged |
eatbooks
Knowflake Posts: 619
From:
Registered: Dec 2006
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posted January 06, 2007 06:02 AM
Thats a hard one, but I agree with others, honesty is the best route...if you cant be honest/open with him, last thing you should even be discussing is marriage...------------------
your pain is my pain, is that love? IP: Logged |
Yang
Knowflake Posts: 2296
From: A temporary home
Registered: May 2004
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posted January 06, 2007 09:38 AM
Welcome  I also agree! Honesty is the best policy, even if it's going to hurt people along the way! But, I am sure he would understand!
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 8591
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted January 06, 2007 09:54 AM
welcome  H
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my_eternal_destiny
Knowflake Posts: 14
From: Springfield Mo Usa
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted January 07, 2007 01:50 AM
well i was honest just like you guys said and you were right he did understand thanks for the advice IP: Logged |
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