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Topic: Speak for yourself!!!!!
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Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted March 28, 2007 12:33 AM
 
Speak for yourself "An open ear is the only believable sign of an open heart." -- David Augsburger We can easily get into trouble in relationships when we assume that we know what someone else is thinking or feeling. Parents, in particular, can be quick to judge what’s going on in their children. Rather than assuming we know someone else’s experience, we could shift our perceptions into questions. Instead of saying, ‘I know you’re hurting,’ we could ask, ‘Are you feeling hurt?’ This allows us to connect with the other with no risk of misunderstandings. "It's always wise to raise questions about the most obvious and simple assumptions." -- C. West Churchman "To assume is to be deceived." -- Yiddish proverb IP: Logged |
yourfriendinspirit
Moderator Posts: 2528
From: California, USA
Registered: Oct 2006
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posted March 28, 2007 01:40 AM
Reminds me of what I was once taught:
God gave us {1} mouth, and {2} ears for a reason...
"To Listen twice as much as we speak"Solane Star, thank you for this gentle reminder  ------------------
Sendin' love your way,
your friend in spirit IP: Logged |
Bluemoon
Knowflake Posts: 4456
From: Stafford, VA USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted March 28, 2007 09:07 AM
I love this, Solane!!! I also love what you said, yourfriend. My father use to say that also.
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Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted March 28, 2007 01:32 PM
Reminds me of what I was once taught:
God gave us {1} mouth, and {2} ears for a reason...
"To Listen twice as much as we speak"WOW!!! Thanks!!! Guys!!! Never heard of that one before, guess I must of had to much of number (1) going on and not using number (2) enough, at the time!!!!! LOL!!! 
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Mirandee
Knowflake Posts: 4812
From: South of the Thumb - Taurus, Pisces, Cancer
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted March 28, 2007 04:05 PM
I like this a lot too and what you said as well, yourfriend. My husband always said, " He who continues to assume, continues to blunder." Don't know where he got that saying but it is very true. He has used it often on me to remind me of when I am assuming or when I am doing too much of #1 above and not enough of #2.  Though there are times when I have thrown his saying back on him when he assumes. Guess we all do that at times. IP: Logged |
Kamilla
Knowflake Posts: 860
From: NJ USA
Registered: Apr 2006
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posted March 28, 2007 05:04 PM
My boss has his own interpretation of "assume" not very spiritual but convincing ...lol
making an A$$hole out of U & ME.IP: Logged |
Moon666Child
Knowflake Posts: 2025
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Registered: Jul 2004
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posted March 28, 2007 05:27 PM
that is the exact same as I believe Kamilla, assumption is a big problem.IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
Knowflake Posts: 7178
From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 28, 2007 10:38 PM
"When I am getting ready to reason with a man, I spend one-third of my time thinking about myself and what I am going to say and two-thirds about him and what he is going to say."- Abraham Lincoln
http://www.cybernation.com/victory/quotations/authors/quotes_lincoln_abraham.html
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Heart--Shaped Cross
Knowflake Posts: 7178
From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 28, 2007 10:42 PM
In the documentary "Bowling For Columbine", filmmaker Michael Moore asked rockstar Marilyn Manson what he would have said to the two kids who shot up the school, if he had a chance to speak with them.
Manson:
"I wouldn't have said anything to them.
I would have listened to what they had to say.
That's what nobody did."  IP: Logged |
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