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Topic: A Brief Rant About My Decision To Stay Single
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misterhank
Knowflake Posts: 241
From: Far Rockaway, Queens, NY, US
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted May 30, 2007 08:25 PM
 
I'm sorry for going out of topic...but I need to get this off my chest and pour my decision here and try to erase the tension from my memory.I love staying single. And I have no problem being out of love. I love to travel when I'm by myself. It makes me feel free and blissfully strong when I'm single. I don't need a romantic life because it hurts my karma. It hurts my psyche. And I worry that If I engage to someone in a romantic setting, I could be inflicted with bad luck. Meaning that I'll never get love from a woman, never have sex, and probably feel like I've been cheated on someone else. I always watched couples on TV that have difficulties about each other and they always ended up being separated. I always think that it's a part of life. People will always have difficulties with each other and they'll never survive with each other. But I later realize that I don't need romance. What I needed was to be a loner. To be an outsider who has survived the firey pits and now has risen to be someone that is not from society's doing. "God put us on this earth for one reason only. That reason is to live through life without being pressured to do something we don't want to do."
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Hank Campbell
Far Rockaway, Queens, NY
*Sun: 8th House/Leo, Moon: 3rd House/Pisces, Venus: 8th House/Leo, Mars: 6th House/Cancer, Jupiter: 8th House/Leo, Saturn: 8th House/Virgo, ASC: Capricorn "A gifted mind needs a gifted heart to sympathize others who are in vain." IP: Logged |
lalalinda
Moderator Posts: 3291
From: nevada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 30, 2007 10:49 PM
You have a splendid heart Hankie
Regal like a lion.
Don't be so hard on yourself with restrictions,
kindness and building towards any type of relationships are positive steps.
What matters here is the purity of your intentions,
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fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 9809
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat. fayte1954@hotmail.com
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted May 30, 2007 10:56 PM
misterhank 
I have a 41 year old brother who feels the same.
Three of my best friends are single, and have always been and intend to stay that way. They are all in their 50s and 60s {including the one mentioned next below)
Another has been divorced for 35 years and is happy in her single life.What you are doing is noble and realistic and wise. There is nothing wrong in following the path best for you!
I think you are great!  ------------------
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lotusheartone
Knowflake Posts: 238
From: MOther & Father GOd
Registered: Feb 2008
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posted May 30, 2007 11:03 PM
misterhank,I really like what you wrote... _______________________________________________
"God put us on this earth for one reason only. That reason is to live through life without being pressured to do something we don't want to do."
_______________________________________________ not to be pressured to do something we don't want to do, in this case, I think it's very fitting. And maybe someday, you will just meet someone, that makes you feel something you never have before, no use in worrying about it, Be Happy! LOve and Magic! IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
Knowflake Posts: 4598
From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 30, 2007 11:18 PM
And I say good for you,MisterHank!  IP: Logged |
Mirandee
Knowflake Posts: 4812
From: South of the Thumb - Taurus, Pisces, Cancer
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 31, 2007 02:24 AM
My youngest son is in his mid 30's and he says he is never getting married. He seems very content with that and like you, does not feel pressured to be in a relationship. At least not at this time because he did tell me that one day he would like to have a son. Marriage and being in a relationship is not for everyone and I think that people should always do what feel right for them just like you, MisterHank. Not all relationships or marriages are doomed to fail though. In August my husband and I will have been married for 42 years and I have known him since I was 12 years old. IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer
Knowflake Posts: 3944
From: Calm Blue Ocean, Calm Blue Ocean
Registered: Jun 2003
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posted May 31, 2007 04:45 AM
Well we certainly know ur not a scorpio giving away ur full name and locatiomn!IP: Logged |
1scorp
Knowflake Posts: 2251
From:
Registered: Feb 2003
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posted May 31, 2007 08:53 AM
I think I agree. There are times when I feel so deeply connected to my friend and my wild optimistic devil may care let's run off and get married side will spring up... Thank God he's a Capricorn.  Definition: We'll have no sudden rash decisions. Which sometimes takes the wind out of my sails.... but if it weren't for meeting him... I'm sure I would have met a Sag. and been married and divorced by now.  Not funny... But really...... I hold on to my independence for dear life. I'm not fond of reporting my every movement or feeling guilty for wanting to be alone, etc. I'm a loner by nature... but in love with romance. Sometimes I believe that some relationships are designed to drive you insane or mold you into something that you're not going to be happy with. So I think it's good to remain single... at least until you are at peace with your life and who you are. Edit: After reading over this post.. maybe I need a Sag.
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maklhouf
Knowflake Posts: 1392
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Registered: Nov 2003
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posted May 31, 2007 10:25 AM
You're talking sense MH. I hope you've read all the "outsider" books, Kerouac, Colin Wilson, Camus. People somehow hope they can live differently yet stay mainstream, but I think it can't be done------------------
And I will give thee the treasures of darkness
Isiah 45:3 IP: Logged |
Mirandee
Knowflake Posts: 4812
From: South of the Thumb - Taurus, Pisces, Cancer
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 31, 2007 11:25 AM
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I'm not fond of reporting my every movement or feeling guilty for wanting to be alone, etc. ...1scorp
That's what my son, who is also a Scorp, says. He says "women are too bossy and if you date them once or twice they expect you to call them everyday." LOL My oldest son was married for 12 years and now he and his wife are getting a divorce so I'm certain this only convinces his brother that he is right about marriage. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 2320
From:
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 31, 2007 05:20 PM
Hhhmhmmmm Well people have different beliefs on relationships and well if staying single is what floats your boat then yes do what is best for you. Some of us like relationships and the interaction and companionship of another and some of us don't. Some of us have a desire to have one and some of us don't. So the ppl that don't should stay with the ppl that don't and the ppl that do should be with the ppl that do. Personally I do want one I won't go to the end of the earth to find one, but if one comes along that I want then I am going for it..But Mr. Hank if thats your choice good for you.. IP: Logged |
Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 5378
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 31, 2007 05:28 PM
Good for you MisterHank!!!!!!IP: Logged |
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