posted June 04, 2007 11:13 AM         

I do agree and understand your views.

I was just trying to explain my personal methods of obtaining and retaining my sense of self-esteem.

As a child I really didn't possess this ability. I'm a highly sensitive person, as a child it's not a desirable trait to have among peers. I've experienced my fair share of crushed feelings and being painfully reserved.

I've always tried to approach every person honestly... I've never been good at telling people what they want to hear or pretending to be the person that is more popular. It was never real to me... so whenever I was rejected it seemed to cut pretty deep.

Mirandee: I do agree with your comments. I have a Taurus mother.

She was/is a very caring person... sometimes a bit aloof for all my Scorpio and 1st house pluto conjunct my moon and asc. at times... but she taught me how to draw security from myself and know who I really am deep inside...

I remember feeling deeply hurt and confused if I said or did something and it was taking out of the context and spun into an undesirable light from what I was trying to express.

I would go to my mother and she would always ask me if that was what I was trying to say or do... if my answer was no, her response was "As long as you know your true intention, let them think what they want".

I guess that's why if I do offend someone unintentionally, I will at least make an attempt to clarify... if they reject it... I walk away knowing that it's not my issue any longer.

I'm grateful for overcoming and/or being able to take a more realistic approach of myself as I've become older.

I think it makes me more sympathetic towards my daughter in understanding and teaching her that her sense of self doesn't ride on mean spirited individuals.

Edit: I wanted to add that I did have a brief experience a year or so ago when I put a little more importance in an individuals opinion of me than what I should have.

It didn't take me long to realize it wasn't healthy for me... as they were in an angry place at the time. I pulled my self out of it... and it reinforced my belief that my sense of worth will never be determined by another person's opinion of me.
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