posted June 01, 2007 10:25 PM         

baby
kitten
cutey
cupcake
pooky
peaches
pigeon
binky (yes, binky)
pumpkin
pumkins
pumkitten
pumkits
pumcup
pumcups
pumcake
pumcakes
pumcuddles
pummlecups
puddlecakes
cuddlepums
kittles
nipples
yumyums
muddles
sudsy mcpuddles
oodles of poodles
snoodles
muppet
soupy
sexy
stinky
cranky pants
buttercups
buttercakes
buttercuddles
superkitten
babypigeon
babypumpkin
babybobbin
bubblekins
bubblecup
bubblepums
little baby
little dove
dovey mcdovekins
cuddle mcpuddlekins
sniffles
chocolate fudge kittens
cutey mctoocute
sweetlips
sweetnips
candykins
sugarhips
little lamb
little one
sweet one
sweety
puppy
sugarcube
supercub
chocolate cake
porkchop
my little strawberry smoothie
supples
supplecups
poodlekins
kit kat
crazycakes
fuzzycakes
fuzzycuddles
fuzzcuddles
yummypants
yummycuddles
keeper of the poon
guardian of the cuteness
protector of the goodies
commander yumyum
colonel toocute
girlie
girlie face
miracle
chesty
chesty la roo
busty mcbomb
supertits
cuddlebums
monkey
monkeypants
pineapple
pineapple grapefruit
my little pineapple grapefruit
my little strawberry lamb
cuddles
f*ckables
supercube
mumpkins
mupcakes
suckles

posted June 01, 2007 10:49 PM         

I've been called some very unique names before, but somehow, the "sweetie", "honey", "cutie" or "babe" emanating from my loved one's lips can be sweeter than anything when it's said with feeling... but then again, I'm not currently with him, so pretty much any word would be sweeter than honey to me *sigh*.

But, i agree.. sometimes it's nice to have a new name. You could try "honeybun" or "ladybird", or "sweetiepie", or... here's an idea - let's add to your list with a more extensive library of nicknames; you might like this site i'd bookmarked some time ago:
http://www.yaelf.com/toe.shtml

k, sparky? it even lists them by whether it's used for male/female/both, and some of them come with caveats so you'll know which ones not to use on that honey you like & wanna see more of!

posted June 01, 2007 11:11 PM         

"little diddle" for a man has a caution next to it -
i wonder why, lol

oo, i like angel-puss,
thats a good one,
i forgot that one.

Sorry to hear about the break-up.
Just remember, there are plenty of shmoopsie-poos in the sea.

posted June 02, 2007 12:19 AM         

I want oooooonnnnneeeee!!!!!

Miracle and Yummypants are awesome! hehe

Ok, I like "babe" and "baby" (its an 80's thang).

Porkchop and stinky and monkeypants? LOL What kind of begging do you have to do to stop them from walking out the door when you spring those gems? Awww, I guess you are just sooooo cute they just giggle and call you.....????? Buttercup? Oh wait, you already said that one.

I call my baby Rose snuggle buggins and snoogley boogley and about 10 other variations on that theme. Kind of like Jay and snootchie only wholesome.

What do I call men? hmmm...

posted June 02, 2007 01:07 AM         

i call my sis kootcha poootcha, and kootchie pootchie.
and munna (which means baby in hindi). other words are chunnu munnu (its a variation of munna). she also gets called gadhee (hindi for dumb) a lot.

for my crushes i reserve the choicest ones like stupid, tupid, idiot, 'buddhu' (hindi for idiot) up to now my experience is that they love it....hehe. 'maahh man' and 'maahh baby' are also terms i'd like to use. the last is currently reserved for my newly bought car =)

i usually just go along and invent them on the fly, so to say. don't really remember them or 'reuse' them afterwards. i've called a guy 'b1tch' while teasing him. it was fun.

posted June 02, 2007 02:03 AM         

how's 'cuddle mcpuddlekins' working for you?

and if you called me 'nipple'... I would check your temperature.

I use 'love', 'lover'
*gorgeous/sweet/cuddly/smart something descriptive* 'little man' (for my baby)
'Sweets'
'honey babes'
'schnooky'
'cuddle-wumpkins'
'babybear'
It depends on who I am talking to.
Remember, I have kids, I don't throw those around just to anyone....

posted June 02, 2007 10:16 AM         

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earnest and slightly nervous inflection

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posted June 02, 2007 11:44 AM         

I have known many men who call every woman they encounter " hon," or "sweetie." Many women do that also to men.

It kind of loses it's endearment when they do that.

posted June 02, 2007 06:50 PM         

not the generics one can use on just about anyone they desire to.
It has to me, a more personal focused meaning beyond the generics.
Yeah, I hate strangers calling me sweetheart, honey and so forth too.

posted June 02, 2007 07:03 PM         

Yeah Santa would be the exception.

posted June 02, 2007 08:09 PM         

No I love you more

No way possible

posted June 02, 2007 09:15 PM         

He likes to call me whatever name pops in his head at the time, like "mildred" or "gertrude" etc. He does that just to tease me.

posted June 02, 2007 11:18 PM         

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Um.... none.... I think I've only ever used one when I wasn't joking and that was babe. I'm not really one for pet names. Call me crazy!

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posted June 03, 2007 09:59 AM         

Actually, I dont use the silly ones intimately, i mostly just use them jokingly when chatting online, talking on the phone, or when the mood is light. They are more of a substitute for other ways of showing my affection. But most of them are just fun and playful teasing. I find that most girls like it when you make them laugh and feel like girls. They dont want you to always act like a proper Victorian gentleman (sometimes they do, and that's nice, too) and treat them with stoic respect. As long as everything is said in love, never a hint of true condescention, then there is no offense.

Rather, there is a trust that allows us (me and whoever I'm with) to be playful. No girlfriend of mine would suspect me of being a misogynist if I called her "toots", or something, with an ironic, loving smile. It's because I create such a foundation of trust and equality that it is possible to play the dominant male/submissive female roles without suspicion or degredation. I would never want to diminish my partner in any way. If she did not like the names, I would not use them. Nineteen times out of twenty, I get smiles and giggles and hearts and hugs and kisses and cute responses. That's been my experience with a number of girls, and a woman or two, lol.

People are often suspicious of others when they think themselves vulnerable. I find that women who are especially suspicious of men already feel weak and inferior, which makes them too scared to explore their femininity with a man. Like they have to act tough, or they are somehow less than he is. I think women like that are the real women-haters. They must see the act of trusting a man enough to enter into those roles as weak and degrading, because they are so sure that trust will be abused. And they are so sure trust will be abused because they already feel weak and degraded before even putting on the role; and once they put it on, they will only lose themselves in it, give their power away, and then blame it on the man. It's sad. Though it is easy to understand when you see how many men there are out there who will fit their stereotype and betray their trust.

But there are a lot of great men out there, who know how to "be a man with a woman" without making the woman feel as if she is giving away her power, and without betraying her trust. And that is one of the most thrilling experiences of intimacy; when we can be comfortable sharing our power with each other, without giving it away.

hsc

posted June 03, 2007 12:35 PM         

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I find that women who are especially suspicious of men already feel weak and inferior, which makes them too scared to explore their femininity with a man.

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LOL Steve. That's quite an analysis of women just because they don't particularly like being called gushy, pet names by strangers. Which really is what some of us said here. We didn't say we didn't like the men we are in a close, loving relationship with calling us pet names.

Giving our opinion on the subject of pet names does not mean that you have to attempt to demean us as women by applying amateur psychology to us. In which, incidently you have it backwards. Those of us who can be ourselves as women and express our thoughts and opinions, our likes and dislikes and who treat men as equals are the women more secure in their femininity than the women who will accept anything from a man and play the games.

However, there are some men who don't want to be treated as equals and only want to flirt because they do feel superior to women and only want to control them out of their own insecurites and fears of women.

posted June 03, 2007 01:17 PM         

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LOL Steve. That's quite an analysis of women just because they don't particularly like being called gushy, pet names by strangers. Which really is what some of us said here. We didn't say we didn't like the men we are in a close, loving relationship with calling us pet names.

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Hold your horses. I was not talking about flirting or using those terms with strangers, even if you and others were. There is no reason for you to suppose that I am referring to you. In any case, from your reply, you show very plainly you are not just talking about relations with strangers.

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Giving our opinion on the subject of pet names does not mean that you have to attempt to demean us as women by applying amateur psychology to us.

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Here you go again, making outrages accusations for no reason. How am I attempting to demean you (and whoever you think you represent) as a woman, or any woman, by voicing my thoughts, amateur or not? You can give your opinion and I can give mine. My opinion will not always flatter you, but that doesnt mean I'm demeaning, or attempting to demean, you as a person, or as a woman, and you dont have to try to demean me as an "amateur psychologist".

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In which, incidently you have it backwards. Those of us who can be ourselves as women and express our thoughts and opinions, our likes and dislikes and who treat men as equals are the women more secure in their femininity than the women who will accept anything from a man and play the games.

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Mirandee, again, you present us with such a perfect example of what it looks like when one knowflake twists words shamelessly to make another knowflake look bad. I very specifically expressed that the women I am praising do what they do because they are comfortable with it, and because they know they are treated as equals. I said all of this. Did you even read what I wrote? Because if you read it, then, either you are purposely twisting my words beyond all recognition, or, you really are that blind.

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However, there are some men who don't want to be treated as equals and only want to flirt because they do feel superior to women and only want to control them out of their own insecurites and fears of women.

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Isn't this exactly the same unflattering, insinuating, amateur psychology you were just telling me not to indulge in? You are really something. In any case, I made mention of such men myself, and of my sympathy for the women who are made suspicious by them.

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And who needs men like that?

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The U.S. Army?

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Certainly not a confident woman who is secure in her own feminitity to the degree she does not have to play silly games with men.

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Not every woman who plays feels like she "has to play", Mirandee. What kind of a game would it be if you had to play? Not much fun, I would imagine. Lets be clear what we mean by "playing games", in this instance. We are not talking about some bull---t powertrip, but something unthreatening and mutually agreed upon. It is not unnatural or demeaning, unless you think it is unnatural and demeaning for a woman to be, at times, soft, adorable, cute, sweet, sexy, cuddly, and all the things indicated by the nicknames I mentioned?