posted July 12, 2008 11:34 PM         

"- but when you look behind that image there are some REAL serious issues there. WAAAYYYYY too much hard work for me."

That doesn't turn you on?!?!? Why is it that we both like the same guys- sexually- but personality wise we're polar opposites? It's all of your AIR-NESS!! Well, you keep that over there honey, with your Hayden. Actually, i read somewhere that Geminis are the most likely to have much younger partners... Hmm..

posted July 12, 2008 11:48 PM         

....and that's the way it should be.......

posted July 12, 2008 11:50 PM         

maybe one man can't meet all of my needs/desires. truly.

posted July 13, 2008 12:13 AM         

So that answers that questions.

Of course we'd have problems. Who doesn't have them? To say that there would be no troubles or struggles or "GOD, what did i ever see in you!?!?!" kind of moments would be comepletely unrealistic.. not that this is realistic, but you get what i'm saying. I'm quite certain that we would bother each other. I'm a Leo, he's a Capricorn. We have virtually nothing in common. No similar tastes on the surface. So, really... we might not even like each other in all actuality.

How would that relationship function on a day-to-day basis? Well, of course we'd live our lives. I'm not saying that we would sew our flesh together and lock ourselves inside the house... though that sounds quite romantic But it's like that saying, "home is where the heart is"- If that statement were true, then i would reside anywhere and everywhere he would be. And he would feel the same. There would be no other place either of us would rather be than with one another. A consuming love. An unhealthy love. That's what i'm looking for. A possessor who wants to be possessed.

When you wrote about liking being touched, you mentioned subtle touches. I instantly agreed, but i thought of something better. More powerful, in my opinion. Subtle looks. Like when you're in a group conversation, and all either of the two of you is paying attention to is each other. You're watching each. So many words are being said without either of you opening your mouths. That sort of circumstance reminds me of a Ralph-induced fantasy.

posted July 13, 2008 12:18 AM         

"i'm not interested in looking after a man-child."

I literally loud my ass off out loud!!!!

Elaborate on Gary. I actually read this book about men and their Sun/Venus signs and what the combination means together. It said that a man who is a March-Aries with Venus in Aquarius is a NIGHTMARE. It says, quite seriously, that this is the absolute worst man you could ever, ever, ever get involved with. If i remember correctly, Gary has both Venus AND Mars in Aquarius. Aww... but... but... i WANNA save him, mommy! Pllllleeeeeaaaassseeeee! Just a teen-cey, ween-cey, little bit...!!!!???

posted July 13, 2008 12:23 AM         

NOW tell me that you don't like feminine men. Can't, can ya?????????

posted July 13, 2008 12:40 AM         

gary. that he is - or was - a wonderful actor is established. i doubt that he'll ever get the dream role to re-establish himself to prove the potential that once was. robert downey jnr is stealing his thunder there. of course, as you know, i have no issues with that.

so as far as dealing with men who have had very public battles with their personal demons, i think it's safe to say that rdj takes poll position.

gary just doen't appeal to me. especially in that pic. oh, so so bad. he used to be better to look at. funny with the venus in aqua on march aries men. my son has 5 planets in aqua so i know what it is like raising a seriously aquarian child - literally. i don't need the metaphorical man. i would have thought cancer men would have rated as worst? or pisceans? and i'll be biased and say leos!!! lol!

in some respects it is reasonably safe to say that all (well, most) men are babies anyway.

with rafe and the day-to-day life. i guess where i was heading with that was that once you have saved him and you have found true love, yada, yada, yada, and the challenge of discovery and self-discovery and the unveiling of his feelings, etc, wouldn't you possibly be bored? there's no fire left in the relationship after that. in that situation - after you've had sex a few times - where's the fire - the aniticipation has gone. so where's the sparks?

posted July 13, 2008 12:54 AM         

Robert Downey Jr can eat my mother's underwear.

*sticks out tongue*

You want him.

posted July 13, 2008 12:58 AM         

I'll take two please!

posted July 13, 2008 01:07 AM         

i'm sure that once upon a time rdj would actually have attempted to eat your mother's underwear.

sad about your ex. very difficult situation. and very difficult to exit from too.

i've found the link between what i like in these men - it's quirk. if you look at the pics of ewan - he's wearing a suit with his converse shoes. i love that. rdj married dressed like that. i love that they have no inhibitions like that - they don't care what others think - take me or leave me - love me or leave me - like me or not - i don't care - i'm so comfortable in myself and my skin and being that i just don't give a **** what you think. and THAT's what i like in a man - he's secure in himself. and a sense of humour akin to mine. i'm very quirky so i like really quirky people too. someone really straight bores me.

posted July 13, 2008 01:14 AM         

yes, i like what you said about the subtle looks too. very very good. the things that you talk about in terms of intimacy are only things that can exist between two people who trust each other.

just thinking about rafe and rdj. i think with someone so wired like rdj the ride never ends whereas the whole uncovering of ralph thing does - so at some stage some kind of boredom would set in because the energies would settle and the passion wouldn't be there after some time.

posted July 13, 2008 01:28 AM         

[wiping away tears] you don't bring me flowers, you don't sing me love songs......

i must seek consolation in someone else. it will be the only way to get over you quickly and less painfully.

[knock at the door]
well i wonder who it could be at this hour? hmmm.........

OMG!!! it's.....it's............it's........

posted July 13, 2008 04:40 AM         

hmm, I don`t know; there`s something wrong with him.
Some days I like him, some days I really don`t.

posted July 13, 2008 04:46 AM         

How late is it at your place, I just got up.

posted July 13, 2008 04:48 AM         

it's nearly 7pm here. i'm in between things at the moment.

posted July 13, 2008 04:53 AM         

Even though having said that, Jude has Pluto near his MC (maybe not near enough? 4°), and I don`t get a particular plutonic vibe of him.
Or maybe we rather see the signs on the MC (Libra in his case) than the planets, unless they maybe are real real close?

EDIT:
i think I let you go now and hope for a message later today. I really want to know what you think about what I had typed. I sometimes can`t believe what I`m telling you here and how I bare my soul in such a public place like the internet.

posted July 13, 2008 09:10 AM         

i wouldn't write jude off in terms of pluto. i think that it's there. he speaks softly but there's something cold in his eyes. i just can't take to him. the word callous comes to mind with him. i just can't take to him at all.

stuart has really lovely smokey eyes. i had never really registered him before but with your talk over the last few days i looked at some pics of him online and he has really interesting eyes. which i think draw you in.

his mars conjunct your anteros. he awakens those sexual feelings because they make you feel loved - love returned - not that he awakens them because they are within you just that you feel loved enough to express them.

his uranus conjunct your sappho. sappho [passionate, sexual attraction, artistic, genuine appreciation, poetic] so he would evoke these in unusual ways - through his characters - unusual characters - you respect that he would play these types of characters and also the way he does play them and it evokes passionate feelings in you.

his juno conjunct your valentine - so strong emotional bonding - mutually. that would be immediate. especially in your 12th house - it would be an instant connection - one of those where eyes meet and overwhelming feelings of familiarity and excitement. magnetic attraction.

his mercury on your amor - the way he communicates to you (through his characters) evokes feelings of deep love and through also the other placements - somehow something about him makes you feel like he's everything you want and desire - a sense of feeling that he completes you.

his neptune conjunct your mars - straight up his characters make you feel something sexually - combined with the other placements you feel sexually drawn to him. i've seen this before -where people don't actually have to experience something directly to learn from it or ascertain certain things - like feelings - and that that is actually their reality or way of actualising this part of themselves. i say indulge in it - go for it - it seems more like a necessity than an indulgence. if it doesn't harm you or anyone else - flow with it. this is where the goddess conversation comes in now - and funny, i'm in the same place right now - the inner goddess emerging - showing itself. i'm a bit of a tomboy - i always wear pretty tops but i'm always wearing cargo pants or jeans. partly for practical reasons in day-to-day life but also because it's how i feel comfortable. i keep hearing and seeing goddess names in front of me all the time so i know they're trying to tell me something. i think it's about being more feminine and in touch with that energy - even the vulnerability and sexuality of that. opening up and flowing with it and maybe wearing it a bit more openly on the outside. not sexed up - but - just feminine.

his saturn conjunct your karma - if that's not past life, i don't know what is. so in a past life you were very sexual or there was high sexual energy between you - whether it was acted upon or not -and when you see him - particularly his eyes - it evokes ALL those erotic feelings inside of you. definitely past life - definitely.

amor conjunct moon - oh and not just a sexual connection - but an emotional - heart to heart connection too. a great love. THE great love?

his sappho trine your pluto - so the feelings that he causes you to feel bring great personal transformation to you - help you grow.

eros on eros - compounds the romantic/sexual attraction. plus both retrograde - definitely from a previous lifetime.

his moon conjunct your chiron - he helps you to heal by making you feel safe to do that - you can open up to him and trust him with everything you could not trust anyone else with - sexually too - he gives you the sense of security to be free and open and vulnerable with him.

posted July 13, 2008 09:15 AM         

even the types of characters he plays appeal to you - probably allow you to openly see those parts of yourself that others may deem unacceptable. we all have a dark side - shadows - things that need to be healed, faced, accepted, channeled into other things. everyone. anyone who denies this is being dishonest.