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posted June 12, 2008 03:18 AM         

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wheels, u devil you

well lara, i was part kidding...about his hesitation u know

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posted June 12, 2008 11:32 AM         

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hehe

l don't know how people do this long-distance thing for
more than a year!
it's a total head****

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posted June 12, 2008 12:16 PM         

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It's hard even for a few months yet alone a whole year

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posted June 12, 2008 03:29 PM         

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yup fieryscales.. l hear ya.

I am off to see my love again soon which is heavenly but then l have to leave and it's hell on earth

I just don't understand why the US immigration don't make allowances for loved-up couples.

I'm sorry you are hurting... l wouldn't wish it on anyone to be hurting like l am x

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posted June 15, 2008 07:01 PM         

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How are you doing Fieryscales?

I am slowly getting myself together whilst my man keeps pulling away

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posted June 15, 2008 07:20 PM         

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Hi Lara

I am doing ok, keep getting through these days.

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posted June 15, 2008 10:35 PM         

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it's hard not to take out one's frustration on the other person, isn't it?

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posted June 16, 2008 02:39 AM         

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I'd just be a little pile of ashes in a dustpan by now.......

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posted June 16, 2008 06:30 AM         

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He is pulling away Lara??
Do you think this is his way to prepare himself for the worst if it happens???
My man here in Sydney sorta does the same thing...but the more stressed the less affection he can give and wants...and for my poor little cancerian heart it hurts...
I feel you sweety..and i'll be praying for your situation each time i do for my own..

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posted June 16, 2008 09:57 AM         

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LOL Bunnies... yeah i'm on the way to spontaneously combusting!

CancerianMoon,
yeah he is pulling away
It is all so stressful l think he needs time to heal and drive the car back to me, so to speak.
Maybe it is his way - he is very sensitive and seems to have a lot of unresolved anger inside him.

The awful thing is l take it so personally, cos l feel that he
is just not into me anymore.
Its always amazing when we are together though and l am flying to him this Wednesday to try and repair the damage.

Thing is, i'm not about to end it with him. I can't. How do you cope when your man pulls away due to stress.

You are such a sweetie.. l will pray for your situation too

xx

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posted June 20, 2008 06:19 PM         

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It's ALL OK

I'm with him now and it's great! *phew*!

problem is, l have to leave in a couple of days again

hope you are all well.
Love and light X

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posted June 21, 2008 01:41 AM         

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great to hear that...

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posted June 21, 2008 05:38 PM         

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Hi Lara,
I saw your post about getting immigration status in the USA and that marriage is not an option for you guys right now. What about coming over as a student? My daughter went to college in New York, and there were all kinds of international students who were there for the whole four years. Can you apply to one of the colleges, get accepted, and then apply for a student visa? Not saying that you have to get a degree, but maybe just take a class every semester to keep it legal.

Well, I was just trying to think of other options for you. I don't know whether its feasible or not, but I thought maybe that would be a way around the "marriage" thing.

I know how hard it is to be separated from someone you love, so my thoughts are with you.

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posted June 25, 2008 10:32 AM         

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Hi Venus in Gemini

Great idea!! I will look into it, thanks

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posted July 02, 2008 12:32 PM         

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So i'm in limbo right now as had a huge and unnecessary row with my b/f and now we are not speaking... well, he is not speaking with me.

The weird thing is that l will accept whatever the Universe decides as fate for our relationship because inside l feel like our bond can never be broken and therefore l don't really believe this breaking up can happen.

Let's see how it is when he contacts me... for now, it's seriously CRAP though

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posted July 07, 2008 09:35 AM         

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Oh no, I'm really sorry to hear that.

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posted July 08, 2008 08:21 PM         

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me too wheelsofcheese cos we just broke up

Well, we are trying to break up but neither of us can let go!
he told me today that he won't do kids nor marriage, EVER - which sucks cos l have 3 kids and only way we can be together is by marriage
SO
end of the line

Thanks for your support and advice as it has really helped.

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posted July 08, 2008 08:24 PM         

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Lara- im sorry to hear about whats going on. I remember you posting your return chart for the year, wasnt saturn in the 5th? i cant remember but for some reason i remember difficulties with love.

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posted July 12, 2008 08:40 PM         

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Lara...im sorry to hear about your current situation with this guy..
Sometimes men (even women) set impossible tasks or lay down impossible rules when they feel something isnt going to work so it takes the pressure off them to break off the relationship..
I feel for you sweetie and i pray for you to have the strength, courage and the guidance you need in such a heart wrenching time..
As for me and my guy from the US i have all but given up on a relationship with him... he was on the phone the other day and there was something inside me telling me i cant trust him...i've always in the past listened to my instinct but always waited for proof before i reacted..im not willing to do that anymore...ive told him right now i dont trust him and we have talkd about it but it seems i dont get any answers that reduce the feeling i have..he wont let go but then im one of the few people he knows here which makes it hard...anyways..all in lifes lessons... love to you Lara

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