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posted October 22, 2008 04:33 AM         

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I would have replied earlier but I locked myself out of my house.

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LOL - ah, yes, very familiar with this scenario. There have been times when I've had to break into my own home. My husband can't work out how I do it. And I don't tell. At heart, I have a criminal mind.

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posted October 22, 2008 04:34 AM         

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Just in case I have offended anyone else reading, I appreciate that there are many people about who are highly sensitive and empathetic. I don't doubt it. It doesn't irritate me when they say it. They don't irritate me in general.

What grates a little is people who don't walk it like they talk it. The type who seek attention for their amazing powers of sensitivity. If they really were as empathetic as they make out, they will be spending half their week prostrate on their couch, huddled under a duvet.

And like I say, I do have a friend like this. She does a lot of things for other people, when she is up and feeling good. Which is about 3 or 4 days on a good week.

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posted October 22, 2008 04:35 AM         

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He did a good job in this

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Hmm - TRAITOR!

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posted October 22, 2008 04:37 AM         

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I've got Mars 3rd House.

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Confirms my theory - communicates sex. I bet it just oozes from your pores. Men fall around you as you walk past, throw their undies at you, give you phone numbers, etc.

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posted October 22, 2008 04:37 AM         

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Whilst I am being a beatch, I want to get out there that it annoys me when people don't read things properly, and just leap to the conclusions they want to reach.

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posted October 22, 2008 04:40 AM         

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Just in case Crimson Chyld is reading, I most certainly was not talking about you when slagging off faux-hypersensitive people. You are coming across quite strongly to me as a genuine, caring person.

With a good taste in butts (i.e Matthew Mc).

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posted October 22, 2008 04:40 AM         

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Bean as Sharpe, mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

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Did you mean Sharpe as Bean?

I am not mocking Sean's intelligence. Truly.

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posted October 22, 2008 04:41 AM         

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His intelligence?

Never struck me as being the brightest.

No problem to me, clever conversation can only interest me so far.

My retinas are still scarred from that f@nny cake, I haven't had my breakfast yet, it's put me off.

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posted October 22, 2008 04:44 AM         

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***clears throats*** He-hem. Umm, any apologies you wish to send my way?

Posting kiss-@rse pics of Rafe...... eh? Really hurt my feelings bm. There are no words right now. You know how hypersensitive I am.

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posted October 22, 2008 04:53 AM         

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But you don't have any feelings. You're a fire sign!

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posted October 22, 2008 04:55 AM         

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Come on, she looked like she was going to cry.

Really, I do hate people crying.

It makes me nervous.

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posted October 22, 2008 05:00 AM         

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A good friend of mine is highly empathetic ~ the hairdresser, the drunk on the street, the rats in the alleyway. I've seen her suffering over them all. I didn't make any of those up.

If you wonder how she gets through the day the answer is sometimes she doesn't, she is often in bed for 2 days at a time with the stress of it all.

But this is someone I respect very highly. She does actually give a sh!t about other people and is very kind and generous. In fact, she can't understand why people tend to be so selfish.

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I was very much like your friend once upon a time. If you are so emphatic that you take on the burdens of others to the point where you can't discern what is yours to theirs, you become ineffective in helping because you become one of them - a victim, etc. You have to distance yourself and know what's yours. And then you also have to accept that they have to accept responsibility for where they are - for whatever reasons. How do you explain certain types of suffering and events - why are these people brought to Earth - what purpose does their existence serve - other than to teach the rest of us compassion - what's in it for them? I've had to accept that things just are - no matter how much it aches. And everyone has to deal with their own lot. Because when you can stand in yourself, in your own worth - that's when you're truly effective and able to do something to help and create change. It's a very hard path. I empathise with your friend. My biggest lesson so far has been to accept - not that things are as they're supposed to be, as people keep telling me - but that they are as they are for whatever reason. I torture myself with the constant question of "why?". But it's one of those that doesn't always have a satisfactory answer or sometimes where the question only creates more questions.

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posted October 22, 2008 05:03 AM         

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No problem to me, clever conversation can only interest me so far.

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Yeah, you're right. A really big **** is far more entertaining for longer periods of time. There's only so much conversation you can have.

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posted October 22, 2008 05:05 AM         

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But you don't have any feelings. You're a fire sign!

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Damn it - you're right! I'll have to use my Aquarius Moon to remind me that I can distance myself on demand.

***clanking of metal, churning of cog-wheels***

Okay - done.

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posted October 22, 2008 05:05 AM         

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The filters have to go on, otherwise you won't get through the day.

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posted October 22, 2008 05:07 AM         

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My retinas are still scarred from that f@nny cake, I haven't had my breakfast yet, it's put me off.

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Sorry to put you off your breakfast. Puts a whole new twist to the expression "you could see what she had for breakfast".

I was just wondering though - as it's a birthday cake - umm, where do you cut it?

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posted October 22, 2008 05:26 AM         

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I can't be bothered doing the research. The broken green lines in the astro.com charts are quincunx, right? 130 degrees?

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posted October 22, 2008 05:47 AM         

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Yes (150*), or semi-sextile (30*).

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posted October 22, 2008 05:48 AM         

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Just in case there is anyone else I have offended in cyber-space

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posted October 22, 2008 05:50 AM         

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..and for Lions, I always go in for a bit of flattery. They see through it, but it works.

My mother is a hypersensitive Lion.

So is..

Can I say, Mr A, how particularly shaggable you are looking this morning? *flutter*

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posted October 22, 2008 05:52 AM         

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Can I say, Mr A, how particularly shaggable you are looking this morning? *flutter*

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LOL. Must say, he does nothing for me. He doesn't have a prison record, I suppose, so.......

but his name is absolutely lovely. Who wouldn't want to fall in love with a Richard Armitage!

Does Mr bm have any idea that he's going to bed and waking up with some of these men?

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posted October 22, 2008 05:53 AM         

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Must say - I think we have changed each others' lives forever. Well, maybe I should just speak for myself. But I know for sure that I'll never be able to look at a pub, certainly the back of one, without thinking of Sean Bean or you, bm.

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posted October 22, 2008 05:55 AM         

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Mars in 3rd.

I like to think I ooze sex appeal from every pore, but that would be the self-delusion.

Men tend to like me well enough, but that's not necessarily in a sexual sense. It's the brotherly thing that's going on. (And I'm sure that there are plenty that would think I'm an @rsehole as well as a bit of a minger.)

Plus, let's face it, I'm nearer 40 than 20 so simpering around like a sex kitten would be pretty pathetic.

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posted October 22, 2008 05:57 AM         

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Just in case there is anyone else I have offended in cyber-space

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I'm convinced that my presence offends people at times. Certainly at this site. This thread, I imagine, is not to everyone's liking, but I think it is to most people's humour (in some way), whether they want to admit to it or not.

Quit apologising. You're entitled to your views and to expressing them. You are the least offensive person on this site bm. Truly.
Try harder.

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posted October 22, 2008 05:58 AM         

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Umm, hold are you?

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