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posted December 03, 2008 04:56 AM         

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hey PA!
He's just basically trying to get a rise out of me, because he's a bullying a-hole. He used to upset me a lot but I saw him for what he was a few months ago. He knows I don't get teary-upset anymore, I get irritated and he tries to get a rise out of me by accusing me of not doing my job properly. Which he knows is bull as I do it blindfold. It's just the knowing he's trying to get at me is the irritating thing. It inspires violent feelings in me, which is half amusing half scary. It's more irritating than anything else. But he's more sinister towards others (my good friend and colleague for one, who does have to work with him more closely). He bullies her big style and it makes her very stressed and confused. He bullies and manipulates everybody and some people are aware, others not. But I got the whole Jupiter in Aqua sense of outrage going on at the mo, and I want to do something BIG to shut him up sometimes. Like judo!

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posted December 03, 2008 05:03 AM         

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Okay so first up comes perspective. Remember, it could be worse.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:05 AM         

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Does your colleague look like this by any chance?

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posted December 03, 2008 05:06 AM         

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And I bet I know what you'd like to do to him.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:07 AM         

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Calling for reinforcements.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:10 AM         

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Aaaaah, bless you mate, you're so funny!

He's just a Grey Lizard. Nuff said. I can't help him with that.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:12 AM         

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We eat lizards for breakfast.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:12 AM         

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What we need is strategy.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:13 AM         

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So I take it this person enjoys trying to get a rise out of you. It's a game. The idea being that the more they try - the more you resist.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:15 AM         

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The other thing is that maybe you just feel sorry for someone who needs to behave that way to get your attention - I'd say - any attention. That's pretty sad and desperate.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:17 AM         

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Yup, pretty sad isn't it! Luckily for me I've got a work nibbles and mulled-wine thing happening here tomorrow and I've got to go shopping for it in a sec, so I'll leave the misery guts on his own. That'll do him in. I will say goodbye with a cheery wave and a smile.

I'll see you in a bit kitty-cat

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posted December 03, 2008 05:18 AM         

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Does this person, by any chance, like you. Could it be that juvenile act of being mean because they like you? The other thing is that he behaves like this with women because it's what makes him feel like a man. I've seen that before. Chances are ***leans in really closely to the computer screen whispering*** he is really really bad in bed.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:19 AM         

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Mother complexes? Maybe this happened to him when he was a youngster?

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posted December 03, 2008 05:21 AM         

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Ooooh! Nibblies and wine! Perfect opportunity to get him blind drunk and take some really blackmail worthy pics.

But you didn't get that from me.

Even better - get him tattooed, or arrested.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:21 AM         

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Nope, no chance of that, he's 70. Although I think he does get a kick out of having a girl around. He was my boss but he's not anymore. We fell out initially because he made the mistake of assuming I would bring him coffee. Oh dear. He got that one very very wrong.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:25 AM         

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Ah - so you wouldn't get him his coffee and you don't know your place as a woman! Damn, what's wrong with you. Ah, it just comes down to age then doesn't it? And I'm not being sexist or ageist. It's the truth. Men who have grown up in a certain generation have come to expect women to behave in a certain way and treat them in a particular way. Isn't it sad that he is repliant upon others - to get his coffee, to feed his self-worth.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:28 AM         

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posted December 03, 2008 05:34 AM         

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He's still working at 70, getting in everyone's face telling them how to do their job.

Sounds controlling, and maybe like he has crossed the line where passion for his work has been obsession.

Is there a lesson in there for you? Maybe. When to speak out when not to speak out, possibly something like that. But it will be something for you to take out of the situation to make your life better. It's not like this had to happen because of anything wrong with you. Having to earn a living means working with horrible people sometimes, unfortunately. I've been there, lost my temper, walked out. LOL.

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posted December 03, 2008 05:36 AM         

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bm

I've done all that stuff too. It's part of the environment where you can't choose who surrounds you.

That he's working at that age suggests either financial necessity or addiction, yes. Either way - sad. If it's obsession - then there's nothing else there - that's a big void. If it's financial requirement, at that age, wow - that's truly sad.

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posted December 03, 2008 06:18 AM         

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I think I've given a fairly straight disclaimer and warning edit back on page 1.

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posted December 03, 2008 06:53 AM         

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Just spotted it.

Good work.

laughter is no laughing matter.

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posted December 03, 2008 06:55 AM         

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LOL.

I think that will be standard on all Godzala threads from now on.

I like your sign-offs, btw. They're cracking me up. I take it that's a permanent fixture then?

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posted December 03, 2008 06:55 AM         

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Am off for fitness training. Walking.

It is too cold, I am too lazy. But I'll do it.

See y'all later.

love and peace. chips and peas.

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posted December 03, 2008 06:56 AM         

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I was going to say "have fun", but for want of better words, ummm, have fun.

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posted December 03, 2008 06:57 AM         

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Yah boo.

All for a good cause. Next year's charity walk. So me and my buddy don't like like lardy losers like we did this year.

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