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posted December 21, 2008 05:36 PM         

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and it's so stupid!

My man is separated from a woman that is so bad for him. They are planning to divorce and l really feel his pain.

I feel on top of it all so guilt ridden though that l couldn't stop him marrying her... l know this sounds crazy but l feel like as a soul mate l should have been there for him. Of course l couldn't have been as l didn't know him then but it doesn't stop how l feel.

Anyone else felt or feel like this toward someone they are falling in love with?

It's a helpless state to be in lol

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posted December 21, 2008 10:13 PM         

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He's in pain about divorcing a woman who is bad for him?

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posted December 21, 2008 10:16 PM         

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feeling "guilt ridden" "in a helpless state" ?

Love'll make you do crazy things.

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posted December 21, 2008 10:35 PM         

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My guess is the woman was his destiny at that part of his life. You can't deny that he has learnt something from his marriage.

Try to overcome these guilty feelings. Be who you are, not what this other woman inspires you to be. That was his destiny, not yours. Never encourage reminders of the Ex, if you can.

Now he will be with you, so you want to be there for him.... as you!!! Be his equal, not his rescuer or nurturer. Just be the good ol' strong, fun loving, passionate Lara who wants to move toward a hopeful, bright and loving future with him.

Have fun and good luck

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posted December 21, 2008 11:01 PM         

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They are deeply bound - soulmates - not necessarily twinflames, but they are soulmates. Their connection is very very strong and deep and also very difficult (and extremely painful) to break. They will always have to know each other and be a part of each others' lives in some way. There is still much learning and growth that needs to take place between them. It goes back lifetimes and forward some more.

I think you are empthatic and take on the feelings of other people. You need to learn what's yours and what isn't. That's part of your lesson too.

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posted December 22, 2008 03:33 AM         

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It's normal to feel the pain of someone you care about.

Should have stopped him? He probably wouldn't have listened anyway.

I asked my friend on the morning of her wedding if she was sure she wanted to go through with it. I was ready to go and tell the groom. She said: I must do, mustn't I?

No-one needs psychic powers to work out what happened next.

Guilt? No.

you can lead a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink .

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posted December 22, 2008 05:35 AM         

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PeaceAngel,

what makes you say they are deeply bound soulmates? They are so incompatible its a joke and she never loved him. He is a hopeless romantic!

He is in pain cos of his kids.

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posted December 22, 2008 05:48 AM         

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Lara

Intuits. We can talk at the right time - it's not the right time. You'll know when.

They are very deeply bound and will think of each other even when they're apart. They are souls as much as they are human beings, and they are soulmates. He's very confused and has to find himself. You can help him with that. And, he's a very big teacher for you, if you are willing to learn what he offers.

Hope you find the love, peace and happiness you're looking for.

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posted December 22, 2008 06:00 AM         

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Nobody ever knows the real story between 2 people. Its always biased, and one sided, when you hear each person's story. Even if you knew her personally, you would never really knew what happened. People stretch the truth, or leave a lot of info out, Ive noticed. Anyways, I dont know why you feel guilty. Its not your place to feel guilty. Just be there for him while hes dealing with his divorce. Good luck.

Another thing~ I think we are capable of divorcing our soulmates, just because we are connected/in love, doesnt mean it will last forever in this life.

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posted December 22, 2008 06:09 AM         

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Ok PA

We are soul mates too.

First thing he ever said to me was "you are my soulmate" and l am.

He is confused but he's strong and intelligent. He offers me love and that he is on the same level as me spiritually.

Thanks PA. I'm looking for someone on my level to really share life with, this is all

I am gobsmacked that you say they are soul mates though - cos i'm highly psychic and l never saw that at all lol
I saw a woman who thought she'd get lots of money out of him

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posted December 22, 2008 06:11 AM         

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Thanks Koiflower and Writesomething

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posted December 22, 2008 06:19 AM         

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this is just too depressing.

PA, if you really think they are soulmates then i'm walking.

I can't deal with him being continually bound to her, she's such a cow!

Thanks for your honesty PA

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posted December 22, 2008 06:21 AM         

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Lara

We all have numerous "soulmates". You know that! And this isn't like you. What's going on?

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posted December 22, 2008 06:23 AM         

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no idea

something's up in laraland.

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posted December 22, 2008 06:26 AM         

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Oh man. I feel so sorry for you right now. You know - you've said yourself how many soulmates you've met in your lifetime. You can't be threatened by others having the same dynamic. Think of all the baggage you bring along with you as well. Do you expect when you meet someone that the slate is wiped clean and it's a new start, maybe? And that the past is left behind?

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posted December 22, 2008 06:27 AM         

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yup 26taurus!

BM - i did that when l was 26. Realised on my honeymoon what a dreadful mistake i'd made... awful.

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posted December 22, 2008 06:32 AM         

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PA,

lol you make it sound like its terminal

No, but l don't believe in the past affecting the future so l try to live in the present.
I have met many soulmates, i try to learn my lessons from each and if its only karmic then i move on. Bond broken.

I was hoping this one wasn't karmic

Not sure l want to be in a triangle though where the other person is bound to their previous partner!

What is wrong with me lol

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posted December 22, 2008 06:35 AM         

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lol you make it sound like its terminal

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I have that effect.

You have all that Aries too. If anyone gets it - I expect it to be you!

I just feel for you. It's clear how much you want someone to just love you and how much you want someone to love. I think we all want that, really. So everyone can relate to it to some degree.

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posted December 22, 2008 06:37 AM         

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Isn't every relationship karmic - well, isn't every soulmate relationshp karmic - to some level or degree - because there has to be a past of some kind there?

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posted December 22, 2008 06:38 AM         

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And it doesn't have to be a triangle, does it? Well, it's not is it. What's your synastry like with her? What's she offering you? What lessons does she bring?

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posted December 22, 2008 06:40 AM         

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Hey Lara, you realized you made a mistake on your honeymoon? I puked on mine LOL. That should've been a clue, huh...lol.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. It's your 12th house moon in Aries spooking you (I completely can feel that, I go through it a lot...it sucks!).

So, she's an ex, but he's still about to divorce her? What's the story with that? Don't worry about the soulmate thing too much. Soulmates come and go. Everything's karmic. He'll need your support.

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posted December 22, 2008 06:44 AM         

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I just am born to have a mate, like a swan is.

It's not so much the love as the warmth, the experience, the journey.

Maybe i'm down cos as you say i'm picking up on his stuff and eating it.

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posted December 22, 2008 06:49 AM         

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Yeah - your need for someone is very apparent.

You can clear yourself. Like you, I can pick up other people's **** . Especially when you really care about them and deeply want them to be happy. You just have to clear yourself. I just say something like - "I release that which is not mine" - and let it go. You can actually feel the weight of it leaving your body - physically - like this heaviness is being lifted off you. Part of loving someone else is also allowing them to have their own experiences. Even if it's painful. Otherwise, you rob them of opportunity for self-growth. For me it's the hardest part of parenting because you want to cushion your kids, but, then you have to let them try to fly and fall sometimes. It's not easy.

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posted December 22, 2008 06:50 AM         

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Hey MyVirgoMask

maybe it is my moon.. and you know that the last day moon was in libra directly opposing my moon grrrr

He have been separated for over a year. They live apart. He says he will only leave his family (ie divorce) for love.

So if he finds love he will divorce her. he says men are cowards and they need the strength of love to makes these huge changes.

He loves his kids. He works all week and has them on his own all weekend!

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posted December 22, 2008 06:50 AM         

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Is swan an animal that you have felt drawn towards your whole life?

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